relationships

@bfarrier1 (2082)
United States
December 9, 2007 12:51am CST
Have you ever ended a relationship and said what a waste of my time? My question is was it really a waste of time if you was doing what you wanted at the time?
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8 responses
• India
9 Dec 07
Hi bfarrier1, I donot know how old you are? If you are at the age of studies a relationship is waste of time. If you have finished your stduies, settled in a job then there is no need of cutting the relationship and you can better to strengthen the relationship by marriage. Good Luck.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
Not everyone plans on marrying, and many can have a meaningful and promising relationship even while still in school. Fair enough to give advice and share your opinions, but we all must realise that not everyone feels the same. I am still studying and in a terrific longterm relationship - one that will not result in marriage because it is not something we believe in. Personally I don't understand how marriage strengthens a relationship, it shouldn't change the way you love your partner or how much you value your relationship. That's just me =) Merry Christmas.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Dec 07
season0907, thanks for the comment, I was just asking the question its not how I feel I am married to a wonderful man that I deeply love I just here people say that was a waste of time but how can it be a waste of time if your doing what you want at the time to me that isn't a waste. to me a waste of time is doing something you really don't want to do.
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@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
am also still studying but im happy with the guy i love. im on relationship years already... time might not matter but it depends if a man and the woman is matured enough in thinking (not specifically on age) to handle such relationships. im not angry... just sharing my opinion. people might be older than me but it doesnt mean they are always right.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Yep, several times. Plenty of times dating was more about what she/they wanted in all sorts of ways.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Dec 07
But how can it be a waste of time if you are doing what you wanted to do?
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Dec 07
/facepalm... -_- I barely got to do what I wanted to do. I'll say it again, it was more about them and not me.
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
No, I believe that in every relationship that I have entered there is always lesson learned in it. Some may be good, some maybe not. But the important things is that we know that everything that happens to us will have great effects on what we are now and what we will be in the future. We just have to accept that some things are not meant to be.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
yep a lesson... a lesson that made me realize regrets on why i entered such relationship.. haha...
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@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
In hindsight, yes, it can seem like you waste x amount of time on someone or something that wasn't worth it. But no, I don't think it really is a waste. It is all part of our "journey" and it's another experience that shapes us. Something that we've had to go through to get to where we are. Bad choices have to be made - unfortunately we don't learn from other's mistakes and bad experiences. =) Great topic.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Malyck,I totally agree if your doing something you want to do then how can it be a waste of time. I certainly agree with your previous comment, that marriage isn't for everyone. I lived with my husband for 6years before deciding to get married and you don't have to be married to have a fullfilling relationship, but I hear alot of people that has broke up say "well that was a waste of time" and I just don't see it.
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@vmenard (895)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Yes, I've had reltionships like that. What seems like a waste of time, is if you are waiting for that person to change into the person you need/ or want them to be.
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I love responding to you apparently. Lol Looking back I'm like what a waste. But it's so easy to get into those "comfy" relationships that you already know are going south from the get go but you just dont' want to deal with being single and doing the dateing game thing. So half and half to answer your question.
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@dayzz25 (552)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I don't really look at past relationships as a waste of time. I feel that God has me where he wants me to be at certain times. I feel that I have learned something or been tested with every person that has been in my life, rather it's 2 months or a year. I know when it's time to move on and I don't have regrets on anything. Have a great day.
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@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
i did.. shiiiit.. i remember it again. its a waste of time not because i dont like what i was doing that time but because i realize that the dam* guy doesnt know whats respect means... we were friends before but we became enemies after the relationship. he have lots of hung ups on his life in which i thought just a kid drama when i realized its an infection to his system of thinking on whats right from wrong. i might have said too much but hopefully you wont misinterpret what i am trying to say. have a nice day.
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