Do you have a close relationship with both your parents?

@megumiart (3781)
United States
December 9, 2007 1:20am CST
Many of my friends do not, and I don't either. My parent are divorced, and my I'm not very close with my emotional/alchoholic dad. It seems like addiction is a prominent disease in the families of this generation...Do you have one in your family/friends?
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@xParanoiax (6999)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Heh, nope. Not terribly close. They're the people I turn to of las resort. But addictions have nothing to do with it. Most of my family is addicted to reading (tells you what most of us do all the time lol), and you think that would mean we'd all get along well, focused so much on reading.. Nope. Anyway, it's more to do with personalities clashing, mistakes, misunderstandings, and money worries which seperate the lot of us lol.
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@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
Oh..Im very sorry to hear that. I know a case like yours is not uncommon these days but still, I was saddened upon reading your post. At the same time, Im thankful that I never (and hopefully will never) experienced that. Im from the Philippines and divorce is not allowed here; my parents are still together and Im very close to them (all of my siblings are). I have some friends who came from a broken family. A dad left the family (reason unknown to me lol!) thats why they grew up close to the mom. Still, I could say that experience could have been a big influence on how they see life...there's bitterness and sadness within them that they try to hide from us.
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• United States
9 Dec 07
I don't have a terribly close relationship with either of my parents. I barely know my father since he split when I was a baby and I've only met him a handful of times. My mother and I tolerate each-other but I don't think she genuinely loves me. She loves her "new" family and that's fine with me. I prefer indifference to the upbringing I had wherein I was made to feel like I was to blame for all her bad choices. We get along but there's not much to the relationship.
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I don't either! I'm a daddy's girl and love him dearly but my mom only cares about herself and is really screwed up with her priorities so I really don't talk to her.
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• United States
9 Dec 07
I have not seen my father since i was 16 so 5 years now. I was in fostercare and he came to the house to see me, but because he has done some mighty bad things in his life.my fostermother did not want him there, so i had like 5 minutes with him and he left i have not seen him since.or herd from him either. My mother... oooohh what a mother she is!.lol okay i do live with her. and we talk we are more friends then ever we were mother and daughter. so are relationshiop in that sence is not so great, but we stand each other:)
• United States
9 Dec 07
P.S. I went into fostercare because my mother went through a stage were she would be out all night at the bars, or moving in with her boyfriend,and i was left behind, by my choice and i got into some trouble and then they were told i had not live with my mother but at someone elses house. and at the age 13 so they said foster you go....but it was only a stage, she now only drinks mabey once every 6 months..
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
9 Dec 07
Yes I do have very close relationship with my parents, especially my mother. When I was still in my college, she was the one I often went out with if I need to do few things in town. Now, I'm very far away from her, I miss those moments!
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
I think it's wonderful for guys to be close to their mothers as well. Not to be "mummy's boys", but to have a close, loving and respectful relationship with the woman who raised them, even as adults. =)
• Australia
10 Dec 07
In some ways I do and in other ways I don't. I would definately not say they were my best mates. However, my dad is an accountant and I am working in administration in a different accounting firm so we have a lot to talk about and he helps me heaps with work and what to say to my boss etc. We chat about all sorts of things like that. My mum loves to have a good old gossip with me about anything and everything and she loves to show me her new clothes and jewelery and do her nails with me etc. However, if you get on their bad side I do not want to be in the house as they can be so harsh to the point where they will even kick me out of the house!
@ericajoyce (1748)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
Im really sorry to hear that. Im pretty close with both my parents. Before when I was a kid I wasn't that close to my mom until now because we always fight over things. I was only close to my dad and whenever we go out I would only go with him. Right now, me and my mom are pretty much ok. There are times that we dont get along well with each other but, we manage to work things out.
• China
10 Dec 07
I do not have ,either.When I was seven years old ,my dad went away from my mother and I. I hate him, for my mum ,with me ,had to survived these hard years without getting any money from the man. You can image how hard a woman brought up a kid lonely for 17 years!
• China
10 Dec 07
may i ask you a question? you have posted 1005, so how much have you earned?
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
yes i do actually. i live pretty close to them and because i am an only child, i call them or they call me at least once a day just to see how they are getting on. as they age, i will be the one responsible for their care which kinda scares me, but alas, we do have a good relationship now!
@cwilson26 (2736)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I have always been close to my mother but not my father. My dad has always treated my cousins better than he treats me. He treats my husband better than he treats me but I still love him and know that he has major problems and needs help. The only problem is that he does admit he needs help but he refuses to get it. He says he can control hi anger but he can't. He has always treated my mother and I bad but doesn't seem to care or just doesn't want to admit how mean he gets. I blame his own parents for the way they treated him as he was growing up. But it would have been nice if he would have learned from their mistakes instead of repeating them. But I still love him and always will, that is just the type of person I am. My mother, on the other hand is like my best friend. I can talk to her about anything and she has always been there for me no matter what. I just wish my dad and I could be closer.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I have a better relationship with my parents than I used to. For a very long time I held a lot of resentment towards t hem. Now as I get older, I can see that they do love me, they just have a very odd way of showing it. I have even gotten them to say they love me now, which is something that wasn't said often enough in our home as children.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Yes and No. I've always been a daddy's girl but my dad and I are very much alike which is the type of person who doesn't always NEED to say I love you or show affection or anything just to show that we care. So one wouldn't see us and think that we are but I am a daddy's girl. My mom and I fight a lot and while we've developed a better relationship since I don't live with her, sometimes things are still strained with us. But she's more the affectionate person so I talk to her/do things more often. My parents have been married for almost 35 years.
• China
9 Dec 07
I have good relationship both of my parents.Because I'm a daughter,I have batter relation with my father.There is an old saying:Daughter is her father's last lover.
@noriko (1254)
9 Dec 07
yes i do. my dad do have other children in another wife but i am also close to them. i am the only child of my mom. and me and mom are like best friends. although i grew up not that close to her for she always works abroad. as i aged we became closer and closer.
• China
9 Dec 07
i am sorry to hear that .i was grow up in a happiness family.of cause ,i have a closely relationship with my parents.
@MGjhaud (20672)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
yes i do have big time. my parents are the love of my life. i can't imagine myself right now without them. i love them so much. when they're sad of something, i become sad as well. sometimes it bothers and saddened me when they feel unwell and there's nobody to watch them but only either of them because i live away from home for college and the rest of the siblings have their own family already thogu though they live nearby my parent's house but what i mean is to look for them closely like all the time or everyday.
• India
9 Dec 07
Hi!! thats really sad news!! you are from which country!! ? here in India most of us have both parents together !! so m very close to my parents and my parents keep eyes on me!! I think in our country divorce is uncommon!! it is there but not the solution of the problem!! we can solve our family problems by many ways !! rit? why divorce should only be the tool to solve it!!! I personally hate people having divorce!! sorry to hear you!! Hi,Try to keep close relation to your dad! he may be drinking because he thinks he is free ,If you make him realize you are with him and you need him so badly!! sometimes he may stop drinking!!! Now a days some children they never heed their parents too!! so is the parents!! If we are close we are awared of each other n share our love!!!! Its said "out of site ,out of love!