Brother-in-law's leukemia

@webeishere (36377)
United States
December 9, 2007 10:53am CST
Well the wife had decided that she was now content as she had seen her whole family including her brother before the leukemia got any worse if that's possible. So she had decided to come home before he passes away being happy with the whole situation. I think she didn't want to be there when he passes away. So I made the flight changes Saturday for her to return Monday afternoon. She called this morning (Sun) & things have changed drastically. Her brother took a turn for the worse & they feel he may not make it through the day. She didn't mention whom said this. I wonder of it was a fmaily member or a medical professional. But anyhow now Debbies return is up in the air once again. I am going to call her late tonight after I meet my children and grandkids at my wifes work. We're all metting, with a long lost family friend, for dinner tonight. I am lost as it's realy hard to experience this whole situation with my wife possibly losing her brother & not being with her. But I'll survive. I will keep you all informed. I wish to thank you all for the emails & PMs you've sent worry about me & the prayers & thoughts. Also thanks all for the great comments as of late added on my profile here. Deeply moving & so appreciated. I'll be on & off as I have since Debbie left. Thanks again all. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~ HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@xboxboy (5588)
9 Dec 07
don't know what to say, my thoughts are with you and your wife. peace and love.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thanks friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I sympathize with the hurt and pain you are going through. Over two decades ago, I lost a step-child and my best friend to this disease. My prayers are with you and your family.
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@someonesmom (5768)
• Canada
9 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob, I'm so very sorry to hear of this turn of events, and the fact that it'll prevent Debbie from flying home tomorrow. Such a hard thing for her to be right there through all of this. I understand too, why it's hard for you not to be there with her. I'll continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I thank you very much from the depths of my heart for all you have done for me. Debbie is still coming home Monday. I just talked to her. Tom is spitting up a lot of bllod. He doesn't recognioze anyone anymore. He can't talk or move. He is on morphine every two hours. Doesn't look good now. Anytime. Thanks again. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Canada
10 Dec 07
You're so very welcome. I really don't feel as though I've done that much, but I do feel as though I've gotten to know you here. I just find this so very sad, and it's reminded me of a dear friend, who passed away at home earlier this year from liver cancer. He went at home, with close family at his bedside, and it was so hard on everyone. I'm glad that Debbie will be home later today, as I'm sure it'll be a comfort to both of you, to be together again. Take care.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Your support, thorughts, prayers and messages are a LOT to me. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
9 Dec 07
It's funny that once someone whom is dying see everyone that suddenly they give up. I hope his journey is swift. Condolences to everyone.......
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
My mom waited until there was no family members around at all to pass. Someone was with her 24/7 for like 3 weeks. Then when we had all left she passed quickly. He is in really bad shape now and doesn't seem like it will be but a few days if that. Thanks for everything as well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@GardenGerty (90189)
• Marion, Kansas
10 Dec 07
My first husband seemed to almost, "Hurry up, to die," the day he passed, as he passed just in time for me to call our daughter and tell her not to come. She had been walking over from the highschool to relieve me for an hour to eat and take a shower, every evening right after school. Her high school was right next to the nursing home he was in.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Isn't it amazing how the dying seem to pick the almost right time to go? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Grandmaof2 (7604)
• Canada
9 Dec 07
Thank You for the update!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thanks for everything friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Debs_place (10551)
• United States
9 Dec 07
THere is nothing I can say to make you feel better, it is just a sad situation. Please remember that you and Debbie are in our thoughts. I am sorry, wish I could do more to help
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
No there isn't really. Well except wehat ya just said. Hee hee. Thanks I need all I can get to keep me sane. HAHAHA!! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob I am glad that you will be meeting this Friend as you need something to keep you occupied I am so sorry for Debbie and I am sorry for you as you where happy that she was coming home and no doubt Debbie was looking forward to coming home to you You are in my thoughts both of you Grandpa Bob and Debbie's Brother to I know I have not PM you but believe me you are in my thoughts
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
tHIS FRIEND OF THE FAMILY IS ONE OF MY DAUGHTERS FRIENDS FROM HER CHILDHOOD. sHE IS A REALLY GOOD FRIEND. wE LOST CONTACT A FEW YEARS BACK AND CONNECTED ON MYSPACE OF ALL PLACES. i CALL HER sHORTY AND SHE CALLS ME bUDDY. Anyhow thanks for everything. Deb's coming home Monday & seems Tom isn't going to last very much longer either. Everyones happy that they got to see him before he leaves us. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@anniepa (26625)
• United States
10 Dec 07
There isn't a whole lot left to say, Grandpa Bob, so I'll just repeat again that you're all in my prayers and I hope you brother-in-law goes peacefully. If nothing else you can all take comfort in knowing he won't be suffering any longer. I hope Deb has a safe flight home and that you can all relax and get rid of your stress for a time. Bless you all and here's another cyber hug! Annie
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Repetitive prayers are what's needed though. Thanks for that also. A few more hours from now & I head out to get her from the airport. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
10 Dec 07
Hi GRANDPA BOB! I really don't know what to say or give any kind of comfort so as to take at least a little sadness in your heart and your family as well. I can only continuously pray for your brother in law so that he will not have so much pain and will find happiness and peace in the afterlife. I also pray that you will find strength and peace within your heart as well as your wife and the whole family. Take care always. :)
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Just you being in this and other discussions about Tom is enough to help me feel better actually. It's called support of friends. And I thank you for this also. Thanks for the continued prayers. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Canada
10 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob! I am so sorry that you are all going through this hun. My heart, thoughts, and love are with you and your family as long as you need. Luv & Hugzz, PurpleTeddyBear.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Thanks bunches. It's all needed everydauy of our lives. But more so at this sad time & this situation. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I truly hope that things will iron themselves out with the flight changes and things. I know it has to be difficult and such a roller coaster ride for you and Debbie. God bless you both for all that you are going through. My prayers are still with you and your family. Just let us know how things are going. I hope you at least have enjoyed your dinner with your friend.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Thanks friend. The plans are still for her to return Monday afternoon. I started a discussion about dinner actually. HAHAHA! It was great. No friend though. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@sherrir101 (3671)
• United States
9 Dec 07
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I also put you on the prayer chain in my great aunt's church. Give our thoughts to Debbie. (((HUGS)))
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thanks bunches. Prayers are always welcomed by me. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
10 Dec 07
I'm sorry to hear that things have changed so fast. I'm sure she doesn't want to have to watch her brother go through this because that is so hard. I'm still going to keep her and the family in my prayers.
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• United States
14 Dec 07
I know when the time comes it will be hard for Debbie but I know it will be a blessing for her brother. It has been a long hard road for him. I am sending my prayers to all involved.