How do you handle relationship with your parents ?

@mari123 (1862)
China
December 13, 2007 8:54pm CST
I have no better way to treat this but to behave as I wish. As I noticed, all the parents quarrel with their children. Why? I think it is Generation Gap. Look, Parents born in last century had this problem, and parents of our parents also had similar problems. The rest may be deduced by analogy. Therefore, it is not the problem of new generations but the problem of generation gaps exists between generations through human history, I think. Specificly, quarrels represents disagreement according to generation gap. This is my experience. What is your opinion? How do you handle generation gaps?
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@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Frankly, I have pretty much "given up," using the excuse that my mother (at age 85) is pretty much too old to learn to be any way different from how she has always been. And she continues to think that I am basically about eight years old, and have not the slightest idea about how to carry on in the world. I do agree that a lot of the issues between parents and children tends to be the result of different generations having different ideas of what is the "correct" way to be, in life.
@aleeming1 (163)
• Canada
14 Dec 07
Well all I can say is that when I lived with mom I often "hated" her. I have been living on my own in a different city, and attending college for the past 1.5 years and since I have moved away and have not seen my mom as much. I get a long with her more then I did when I lived at home.
• United States
14 Dec 07
I don't think that all problems between parents and their children are due to age differences. My mom is twice my age (exactly right now), I have no issues with a great deal of people her age, but right now I am not handling my relationship with her well at all...
@talisman (1308)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I don't think it has to do with the generation gap. Parents and children quarrel, that's just life. Kids almost always quarral with those in an authority position, regardless of the generation they were born in. Siblings also fight, can you blame that on a generation gap? Of course not! Why? Because there almost always isn't one. Fights occur because of the roles people have in life, not when they were born. Right and wrong will always remain the same no matter what year it is or what year you or anyone else was born in.
@shak143 (1280)
• India
14 Dec 07
i have no problem with my parents and i agree with you that geneeration gap may be the reason behind the quarels.i observed this in my brother who quarell with my parents useually because he wont likt there ideas and he want to be do on his own but they told that if we go like this you will get hearted for that he said let it be i will learn something from it.
@emarie (5455)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Its possible. My grandparents were taught things a certain way which they taught my mother who tried to parent me the same way. Now, I have my own children and I'm trying not to repeat any mistakes that my parents did. I think a lot has to do with understanding the generation. I'm a young parent and I feel I can try to keep up with my children. My mother never really talked to me about the 'real' issues which started some arguments when I became a teen. she didn't believe in my judgment because she didn't really know me. Now, since I'm married and a parent myself I have a similar understanding to some things she did when I was younger, but I know she was wrong in other ways. As parents we do are best to raise out children to the best of our abilities and knowledge and the rest we just pray we did the right thing.
@nichole1983 (1189)
• Canada
14 Dec 07
i get along great with my parents and my grandparents as well.. i never had a prob whatsoever... nowadays i see teens adolesence and children and their behaviour etc so wrongfully done in this world... alot of that has to do with babies having babies and dont care to know what their children are up too...