How do u feel when someone is rude to u for no good reason at all here on MyLot?

@lorelai (1560)
Italy
December 14, 2007 5:20pm CST
I've started a few discussions buy now and to some I got some rude answers when I was just looking for advice. Did this happen to you to? What do you do then* Do you reply to the post or just ignore it? In my opinion if one doesn't have anything nice to say its better if he doesn't say anything at all. Do you agree with me?
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20 responses
• United States
20 Dec 07
I just recently had an extremely rude woman respond to one of my discussions and just posted a question similiar to this one! I got really mad, because she was acting like the only opinion that mattered was hers. And that she was the one with the facts..It wasnt that I didnt agree with some of the things she was saying it was how she was saying them. I even asked her politley not to respond to the discussion anymore and that just fed the fire more! It seems that there are some really angry and unhappy people that like to pick fights and have ego trips! It sucks because there is no way to block them from your discussions. I dont believe every discussion needs to turn into a full out debate with fire and brimstone spewing from everyone's mouth/keyboard. I understand what you are talking about. I ended up just ignoring the last comment she made because Im sick of it! I also reported her because she was using horrible language and some of her topics were very racist..People dont need to come on here and do that...Especially when you are just asking for an opinion or advice! I hope you have a great day! :)
2 people like this
• Indonesia
19 Dec 07
I ussually dont comment anything to them, because it is useless, I prefer to ignore it. Sometimes I just rate them negative, but that is only to a rude comments that I cant tolerate..
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@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
14 Dec 07
I wouldn't worry about people being rude because they are usually trying to instigate and arguement or just take pleasure in being rude people. You could just hit the negative button that is in their post to you and their # goes down. The High Majority of the people here on mylot are really nice and helpful.so no worries. Have a Great Day!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I agree with you wholeheartedly on that hon. I've gotten a few myself, and I made the mistake of replying to them in kind and getting myself all upset, and getting even more rude responses afterward. As far as I'm concerned, if a member can't be civil in replying to a discussion, then there is no reason to go anywhere near it. Your best bet when you get responses like that is to either bypass it and go to the next one, or simply say "thanks for your response" and leave it at that. That way you're not giving the person the satisfaction of knowing that he/she got under your skin.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
14 Dec 07
Once upon a time I would have been sarcastic to them but I have mellowed a little lately and prefer to just let it ride and plod along in my own little world.
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Now I've only had a few rude for no reason people. Most people that are rude to me on mylot is because I have a real opinion, hard and true. Some people can't stand what I have to say, despite my trying to say it, trying to bring a different point of view, and not trying to make anyone really feel terrible or anything. It still happens, because people have their beliefs and if any reasonable argument even comes close to challenging it, some people go off. I just take it as I want. There are times I just quit and move on. Other times I'm in an arguing mood.
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@miamilady (4924)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I think what you said at the end hit the nail on the head for me too. Sometimes I can just move on, but sometimes I'm just in a fighting mood too. I try to keep those moods to a minimum, but occassionaly, I just cant resist!
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• United States
15 Dec 07
I had two people answer my comment with an answer that wasn't only rude and mean but it didn't make sense. And then I had a person call me closed minded just because I prefer simple foods.I did respond for a while until I was repeating myself. I gave up.It wasn't too offensive or I would have reported them, but I did give them a - because the arguement didn't make sense.And I did have to delete a "friend" because he thought I was something I am not. I would rather spend my time with people who can convey their thoughts well and are polite. And write posts that I can give a + even when they are arguing the opposite side of mine. One of my friends started a post about abortion and even though she is pro life and I am pro choice she read my post and understood my point of view. I could tell by what she wrote after the post.And I wrote back and told her so.I guess the only thing to do is give rude, off topic comments a -. And if they are Really nasty, report them.by the way the people I was having the problems with had low star ratings. Have you noticed that? This must mean that they are rude and un clear with everyone.
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@lorelai (1560)
• Italy
15 Dec 07
Yeah, you are right, this person had a 2 or 4 rating I think. Maybe he/she uses myLot to vent.
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@johndur (3050)
• Pasig, Philippines
26 Dec 07
since it is a discussion.you should try to defend your point by responding to those people,why join a discussion and then back off when you receive a rude response.what the point of joining a discussion when you dont want to defend you responses.i do respond to those rude respondent to show to everyone that he was just all talk without meaning.besides its more fun to answer a rude response than saying "thanks for the response".because you know he/she will be answering you back more.
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@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
23 Dec 07
Yes, it happens. Well, the best thing is just to ignore them. It will never be of help trying to fight them back, it will just be adding up bad wrinkles. Stay lovely and at peace!
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I have posted many discussions. I have only received one or two rude responses which I in turn did not respond to. It caught me off guard. I was shocked. I felt that it was totally unnecessary to be that way to me. I took it personally. I withdrew and did not post for a few days. So in the long run, the rude poster did get an effect from me. Then I got mad at myself for letting this person get to me like this. What is strange is I not only respond in this fashion here online but I also respond like this offline with people face-to-face. I now realize that I need to learn new and better ways to handle these types of situations.
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@lbinkley (1079)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I have seen a lot of discussions started where people tend to get extrememly rude! I have had a couple of rude answers posted to me as well. I generally try to ignore it unless it is a topic that means a lot to me, then I might try to argue my point a little bit, or I will stick up for myself... but if the person is just blatantly rude and has nothing nice to say, and they are really being ridiculous about it, I will give them a negative rating. If they are being extremely offensive I will report them. I have reported someone in the last couple of days for being extrememly and unnecessarily rude. I agree if you can't be nice, don't respond!
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• Italy
19 Dec 07
internet communities are always like that: some people are way ruder than normal because you live miles away from them and they simply don't care about you. Some people do this on purpose because they like flame wars *sighs*
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@quawertz (782)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
I really don't have any problem with this. As of now, I still haven't got any rude messages/reply from anyone. But if ever this will happen in the future, I will just ignore this and just concentrate on the topic being discussed.
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• United States
15 Dec 07
Lorelai; The trouble with our society is it is it has become more popular to criticize than to offer help. We live in a world where people everywhere are fearful of making eye contact with anyone they meet on the street, or in stores or even in their own neighborhoods.It's a sad fact that today the trash articles and papers sell faster than can be sasid of newspapers even though we live in a country that is currently at war???????? Oh well go figure! At any rate, keep a stiff upper lip, (whatever that means) and keep on smiling it's easier on your face and makes you much more attractive to others. Walt
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@eyewitness (1580)
• Netherlands
15 Dec 07
I agree with you.I've had some really rude responses too.I just tell them to read better and not only the title and then respond.So i do reply sometimes but other times i don't and i don't read any further.I think it's their problem and not mine problem.Some people feel attacked that's so stupid.Probably they recognise themselve in things. But to those i also think they should not reply at all or shouldn't have read the discussion.
@kykidd (6824)
• United States
15 Dec 07
For the most part I think we have a really positive crowd here at myLot, but I have had the same thing happen to me. I have a tendency to just ignore them. Sometimes I wonder if they realize how they sound. I also, have asked questions like What kind of " " do you like, and instead people tell me what they don't like. I agree with you and my mother always said "If you can't something anything good, don't say anything at all".
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@miamilady (4924)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I became angry a few times when that happened to me. Then, I remembered something that applies to real life as well. If someone is rude or mean, it usually is more about that person having his or her own personal issues than it has anything to do with me. Some people just take their frustrations out on other people. I remembered not to take it personally. I just ingore it and move on. I avoid people who seem to be looking for conflict. This isn't to say that I am afraid of confrontation. If something is important enough to me, I will take a stand, but I really think seriously about what is worth it and what is not. On most issues people have made up their minds and dug their heels in. My approach is to offer up a different point of view and then let each individual decide if they want to consider it or not. If someone has made up their mind and refuses to see another point of view, then there is no point in arguing with them. It's a waste of time.
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@2btrueinu (705)
• Philippines
15 Dec 07
Were all have our own opinion. And if you got rude answer just ignore it were all looking for a piece of advice here and all I know is that if want to help by giving a piece of advice better give your best shot who knows you are helping that person who need it badly. Yes if you don't have nice thing to say better don't respond than making that person more problematic.
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@suehan1 (4356)
• Australia
15 Dec 07
i agree with you if you have not got anything nice to say ,don't say anything at all.i have never had anyone be rude,just one person a little sarcastic,i just ignored this comment,as it probably their weird sense of humour.i would not even bother to reply to their post,just move on.cheers sue
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@alamode (3073)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Its the same here as everywhere... there will always be somebody who doesn't like what you have to say. And they just happen to be the ones with the itchy finger on the (-) button. I don't respond to posts unless I'm interested in a positive way, but some people look for things to get upset about. There's not much anyone can do about it except ignore them and have a good time!