My friend is after a girl for money than for love

@ajithlal (14716)
India
December 14, 2007 10:59pm CST
My friend is having relationship for money than for any commitment and other pleasures. I know his charachter and he does not seems to take anything serious. He lends money from her often and does not return it to her. What should I do? I do not want to let down my friend at the time I do not want the girl to be feel cheated after he moves away from her life. He shows he is very innocent and he is in love with her and he really cares about her at the same time he cares about money. What will you do if you were in my situation? what will you do if you was that girl and came to know that the person you love cares for you money and not really loves her? How do you convince the girl that a guy loves her for money and does not really loves her?
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@ashugoel (123)
• India
17 Dec 07
According to me, if I wes at your position than i will definately try to make the girl understand that the guy she is in love is not good for her. You cannot do much about the nature of your friend. You cannot make him understand that he should not do these things, he should play with the feelings of that girl. As he is intrested in money and as well as physical pleasure so nobody can change the attitute of that guy. So the last thing we are left with, is to make the girl understand that he is not right guy for her. You should try to collect some proof of his wrong doings and then show it to the girl so that she can understand what you are trying to explain. She will definately not believe you if you just go and tell everything to her, because she is in love eith him. So better collect some proofs like sound recordings, pics, etc. and then explain the girl that he is just intrested in your money and your beauty. He is not in love.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
18 Dec 07
I think you are right. I think it would be hard to convience him as it is his nature and hard to change it.
@ashugoel (123)
• India
18 Dec 07
ya exactly. So try not to change your friends attitude, just try to help the girl so that she can be out of this situation. She must understand that the guy is playing with her feelings and money.
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• Philippines
16 Dec 07
It is really sad because the guy is only aftering for the money of the girl. I think you should tell your friend about this and tell her everything you want to say. Give her a good advice so that she will not get hurt in the long run of their relationship. Only you could be able to help her in this regard. The situation that is happening in your friend's lovelife is really unethical. As much as possible, you should convince your friend to end up the relationship immediately if she found out that the guy is not really sincere with their relationship. I hope your friend will be able to find a nice and good person who will truly and faithfully love her. Best of luck to her! :-)
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• Philippines
16 Dec 07
Oh sorry, your friend is the guy rather. It is hard to convince him to stop the relationship because as we all know that he gets some benefits when having an affair with this girl. So my only advice is to talk with the girl herself and tell everything to her about your friend's intention with her. This might sound that you are a meddler but keep in mind that you are doing this for her own sake. I know that you will be the one to solve this problem and I am hopeful that everything will go pretty well if you are going to make the first move. :-)
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
17 Dec 07
I think it is hard to convience some girls because they sometimes believe the person blindly and will not listen to what others say. I mean there are lots of guys who are like that go for girls for money. They ask money stating different things like they have to give to another person or say they have to buy something else and spend it without any feelings.
• United States
28 Dec 07
Unless you can wire yourself for sound and play her the tapes, there isn't anything you can do but tell her the truth.She won't believe you but at least you would have warned her. And make sure that she knows that you are there for her.If she needs a friend to talk tom you are available.
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• Australia
16 Dec 07
Its pretty simple, goto the girl & tell her not to give her boyfriend any money next time he asks you & see how he reacts to it. But some guys are real prick, he can emotionaly blackmail the girl
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• United States
15 Dec 07
I know if i was this girl i would definitely want to know. And if i knew the girl myself i would also try to let her know how he really was. Maybe you can just tell her what you know and she will believe you since you two are friends. Its really not fair that your friend would treat this girl like this. Hopefully she gets out of the relationship if you decide to tell her. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
17 Dec 07
I also think it would be nice to tell the girl about him. The problem is that most times girls blindly believes in guys and most probably they might not be believe in what others say.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
15 Dec 07
That's very mean of your friend. He is a Jerk. Sorry to use that word but I really despise man who toys with a girl's feeling. Toying with her feeling is bad enough. He actually cheats her of her money. He is really a wimp. He should just go and get a proper job, earn money and live a life. If I am the girl, I would have known the guy is untrue to me long time ago. I am a very sensitive girl and I know if the guy is insincere. It's easy to fake sincerity initially but most guys cannot fake it in the long term. That's when you start realizing the guy is insincere and is only interested in other things except love. You should be honest with the girl. Tell her what you know truthfully. Whether she believes or not, it's up to her. At least you have done your part. There's this song that goes, 'Shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice' Sometimes, the girls have themselves to blame for getting cheated by guys. Most girls are soft hearted and they choose to believe the lies the guys tell in the hope that they are not lies even though they know deep down in their heart that they are lies.
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@jiangli (363)
• China
15 Dec 07
maybe you should talk with your friend and the girl respectively.You know ,as a boy or man ,he should be responsible to the 'love'.maybe it is a difficult thing that makes the girl know she is cheated ,girls always focus on the love!
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