Why does LOVE HAVE TO HURT SO DANG BAD??

United States
December 15, 2007 1:00pm CST
I am in an on and off relationship its been going on for a year. I love the man to death and with all my heart but ive gotten to the point that we fight and break up so much that i think i have become emotionless. we were broken up for a week and he calls me daily sometimes five or six times daily while were broken up. Hes always askinge to stop by hes always needing someting from me, ANYWAYS i would do anything for him and i never stop helping him or giving him because i love him so much. we got back together two days ago and yesterday he tells me hes got to go to another state for some work, now in my mind im thinking everything else but work he knows i dont trust him i know i dont trust him but yet i cannot let him go. I dont knw what to do, should i wait around for him hoping that this time he is working and not doing anyhing else or should i just move on?? (usually during breakups other girls are calling him and such but hes never met any of them or done anything with them he just uses it to mess with my mind)
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@Fiskis (168)
• Canada
15 Dec 07
I am pretty sure after reading this, that he is cheating on you. When I was a little younger, my friends and I did the same type of thing. Actually I married the woman I cheated on in the past many times. I changed when we had a son, the cheating part just was not me anymore. Anyways, I can tell you that with most men, if they are cheating they most likely will never stop. My now wife, put up with all my crap and now we are just fine. On the other hand most of all my friends still cheat, and some are divorced as a result. Personaly I would start looking for another man, but you may be stuburn like my wife, if thats the case I hope it all works out in the end.
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
16 Dec 07
Oh my dear that isn't love- take it from me! I got married to a guy after this kind of stuff was happening- it didn't last.. In the process I lost myself and any feelings I had- emotionless through experience it really emotionally tore me up. Now I'm older and a little wiser sometimes to know that losing myself was stupid and never again should it happen. I would move on to find out what love really is- you can do it and you will do it. If you are questioning this so much it isn't right and you'll find a guy to love, especially if you are younger , there are plenty out there..:)
• United States
16 Dec 07
love hurts so much i feel the reason of why love hurts so much it cause you want it so bad you need it soo bad and all your feeling and emotions are put forth ect.. and when things dont go the way of happiness and be come upsetting especially being with a special someone so as far as love it has to come from both partys like in your case i wouldnt wait love is to people making it work and putting all you are in it not stop and go and repeat love is not hate anger ect.. no game playing ect.. upfront and fowardness well i hope you do the right thing for you and even though you love the person its only oneside one from when he needs you or wants something ect.. DR LOVE :-)
@Stiletto (4584)
16 Dec 07
My advice would be to move on. It sounds like a very destructive relationship, he is manipulating you and playing with your emotions. Apart from the fact that's a crappy thing to do, it's not going to do your self esteem any good in the long term. Ask yourself why would you want to stay with someone who intentionally messes with your mind? If one of your friends was in the same situation you are in what advice would you give them? Probably get rid of him fast and that's what you need to do. I know that's easier said than done because I spent years in exactly that kind of relationship. The best thing I ever did was end it although I get annoyed with myself when I think of how long I put up with it all. I know this doesn't fit with people's romantic ideas but the truth is loving someone is not a good enough reason to let them treat you like that.