sleeping through the night

rylan sleeping - my son is still not sleeping through the night.
United States
December 17, 2007 1:29pm CST
my son is almost 10 months old and we are still getting up with him 2 or 3 times a night for feedings. My ped has told me that this is not normal and to try giving passivers at night when he wakes up the prob is he does not take a passi anymore. When we try to give it to him he just throws it out the crib and starts screaming. We have tried replacing milk with water and that just makes him mad. I know he is getting enough to eat during the day so I dont understand. I am also not the kind of mother to let him just cry it out. Does anyone have any tips that may help me? Looking forward to a good nights sleep again.
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
17 Dec 07
My daughter is ten months old and doing the same thing. It's so frusterating and so so hard. But what seems to help her is for me just to pick her up while I rearrange her blankets and find her sippy cup again and then I put her back to sleep. They say it only takes three days for a child to learn a new schedual. So if you can just tough it out for three days and let him cry it out. That's the only thing that I can think of. Or give him Tylenol to help him sleep better for a day or two and see if you can't get him on a schedual that way.
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• United States
29 Dec 07
thank you for the advice.
17 Dec 07
Every child is different - you just do what you feel is right for your child - it's not as if he is going to wake up every night for a feed fo rthe rest of his life is it? worry about it if he is 10 YEARS old and still doing it!
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• United States
22 Dec 07
oh, thank you very much for the advice.
22 Dec 07
So many mothers fret about these sort of things - waking in the night, still wetting the bed at 5yrs, notusing a potty yet etc - I was one of them. Mums want to know what is "normal" and they hear of other kids doing things much earlier than their own. Then you realise once they grow up that it was nothing to worry about at all. Every kid is different and I have never heard of a teenager who wants to get in bed with mum and dad, still wearing a nappy or sucking a dummy, have you? So relax and stop worrying. Make up your sleep at other times of the day and let your kid progress at his own pace. There is an average age for each stage of development but there will always be extremes too. Some kids will do things far earlier than average and some will do them far later - and I mean FAR later. For instance, one of mine was still wetting the bed at age 12 but he is fine now. Another of my kids was walking well before age one when most kids are still crawling.
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• United States
25 Dec 07
thank you i feel so much better.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
28 Dec 07
I wish I had the miricale answer but I don't. My daughter slept through the night at 3 days old and now that she is 13 months she wakes up 2 to 3 times a night. Its killing us! The way it works with my daughter and I don't know if this will work with your son seeing how every child is different. I put her down at 10pm (yes its late but its our schedule) between 11 and 1130 every night she wakes up crying she is normally standing looking at her pacifer across the room (since she threw it) Once I give it to her she throws it 1 or 2 more times and then finally keeps it. I would keep trying the pacifer with him maybe he is like my daughter doing it to keep mommy in the room. She then wakes up around 2 I give her the pacifier again and she normally crys for about 5 minutes till she falls back to sleep. Its the hardest thing in the world to hear your child cry but you have to let him go for at least 5 minutes. If he is still crying then confort him by placing your hand on his belly and humming to him. Just remember NEVER EVER rock him completly to sleep in your arms. Put him down drowsy otherwise youll have a lot more problems.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
Thank You very much for the advice. I hope your daughter starts sleeping some more for you too. I know how ruf it can be.
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
11 Jan 08
I thought of some thing else. Your son could be cold. I know that when my daughter was much younger she would wake up because she was cold. The other thing is a blanket to hold. My daughter has 3 blankets in her crib. 2 small ones and 1 larger one. When I put her down I put 1 small blanket down next to her and tell her one (small) for this hand, one(small) for this hand and one for your belly. She won't sleep if she doesn't have some thing to hold on to. I change out the blankets she holds on to very often careful not to let her get dependent on a specific "blankie."
@academic2 (7010)
• Uganda
1 Jan 08
Not any tips that I know-but my own son had that problem which went on until he was two years old. He would wake us up about 4 times a night and as soonas he is up, the wod that would come to his mouth was "milk" He started when he was 8 months-we didnt think it was such a problem, but as soon as he got 2 years, we just told him that it would not go on like that-he cried a few days-but we soon discovered he was phobic to cats so whenever he would cry,we would tell him the cat was coming and that would simply silence him! As he grew, he forgot the habit and w have not seen any abnormality in him. I am not suggesting you should start scaring off little Rylan, but all am saying is that it is not a serious abnormality and it would soon be out grown! Thanks for the post.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
Thank You very much !!
• United States
18 Dec 07
I don't really have any advice for you but I hope he starts sleeping through the night for you soon. My son was sleeping through the night at 2 months old and he weaned his own self off the bottle at 10 months. He just wouldn't take it anymore so my ped told me to start giving the formula to him in his sippy cup and he never got up during the night for it. My son would never take a pacifier either.
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• United States
1 Jan 08
Thank You!! I guess he will give it in his own time and we are finished with the pacifers to.
@irishidid (8521)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Each baby is different. Your baby is normal. Just relax and let him be. Make sure when he wakes up he is dry, happy, etc. Letting him cry himself back to sleep after is not a crime.
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
18 Dec 07
My daughter is 19 months old and still wakes up in the middle of the night. I have 4 children and each of them are different. It wasn't right for your doctor to tell you that it isn't "normal". It is perfectly normal for a baby to still wake up in the night. Why are you replacing the milk with water? Why not just let him have the milk? Just make sure you brush his teeth in the mornings with baby toothpaste.
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• United States
31 Dec 07
thank You!! Yes, replacing the milk with the water is what his doc told me to do. I have still been giving him when he wakes up because the water does not help at all just makes the matter worse. Thank You for the support it makes me feel alot better to hear someone say that.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
Maybe you should try to consult it first to his pediatrician so that the doctor can advice what you must do. It is hard to consult anyone about a child it is better to trust a doctor.
• United States
31 Dec 07
I have done that and tried everything that his doc has told me to do it did not work. Thank You though!!
@youless (88919)
• Guangzhou, China
18 Dec 07
I think it is normal for a such a little baby to wake up sometimes at night. Everybody is different. Some will have a quiet sleeping, and some are naughty etc. Perhaps your baby feel hungry at night or he feels the temperature is not suitable for him. Or he just had a bad dream.
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• United States
31 Dec 07
Thank you for the help I will keep all of those in mind.
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I feel sorry for you. You know, no two kids are alike and you cannot expect your son to behave the way as any other kid. I think, since he is 10 months now, you can make him eat some solid food, a larger quantity as dinner so when his belly is full he might sleep. I dont think its not normal, cos, even my kids, woke up several times until they settle to a routine. May be the strength of the milk that you use is not enough for him. Give him sold food around 7.30 pm and give him a bottle around 10.30. After that he should sleep soundly for about 6 hours. Check whether his pampers are soggy cos some kids do not like the wet feeling. Reduce liquids after 4.00 pm and this would help him reduce the number of times he wets himself. I personally dont agree with passivers cos if it becomes a habit, its ugly. I never gave one to my kids. Have patients, i am sure he'll be ok during the next 6 months. Good luck and take care.
• United States
29 Dec 07
Thank You!! Yes, he has been on solid food for about a month now and that really helped a lot. He hates being wet so I know that he will at least wake up once in the night due to a wet diaper (which I can handle that) I hope that it gets better soon but untill then I will just have to deal with a little less sleep.
@carlaabt (3506)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I don't really have any advice. My son quit waking up to eat during the night when he was only 3 months old. He just wakes up to play now! Since he moved into his toddler bed, he gets up at least once during the night, turns on his TV, and digs out some toys and plays for a while. I go in and tell him to go back to bed, but it doesn't really work. Since he isn't crying, I don't keep going back in. I hope it will eventually pass and he will start sleeping more than 4 or 5 hours at night. He only has one daytime nap. HE just doesn't sleep much.
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• United States
28 Dec 07
Lucky You!! That is great he started young. Thank you for the help.
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Well I hate to dissapoint you but my daughter is 2 and a half and she is not sleeping through the night...it is Horrible, we have tried several things to no avail...I think it might be teething. Trying tylenol might work to help with the pain, that helped my doughter but not it seems like it is more habit than any thing...she still has one tooth left to come out then i am hoping she will settle down some. she is potty trained and that had some of it to do with it...but sometimes you do have to let them cry...i know it breaks my heart to hear them cry but that was the only thing that worked for her some nights....not a long time...if he hasn't fallen asleep in 10-15 minutes go get him and calm him down then try again....I hope that helps i have to let her cry some times still but she usually gives up the fight in 5 minutes tops. My oldest daughter never had a problem sleep right from day one. She still loves her sleep, but i don't know what is wrong with my youngest. Some people have said night mares so i am working on changing her diet....less sugar and juice and more fibre...It also might be gas as well for your son...or stomach aches of some sort my friends little girl had lots of gas and stomach aches....well i guess thats all i can say hope something helps have a good night
• United States
25 Dec 07
Thank You very much for the help I will keep it all in mind next time he wakes up.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
17 Dec 07
i have my daughter she is only 7 month old but she sleep normally to the whole night, just i feed her once the she will go back to sleep, try to check maybe he have a problem from his stomach, that also the couse why kids dont sleep at night, if you have philippine pharmacy there try to buy acete de mansanilla that will help your kid if he has stomach acne, or much better check to his doctor to become more sure.
• United States
20 Dec 07
Thank You!!
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
17 Dec 07
My daughter is 10 months old as well. She used to sleep through the night just fine, but a few months ago she started waking up at night. I started giving her a bottle of water and leaving it in her bed at night. The past few nights she has not woken up fully because she has her bottle of water to suck on to get herself back to sleep. She gave up pacifiers on her own at about 7 months, so that was not an option for us either. She took to the water better than your son though. Good luck!!
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• United States
20 Dec 07
Thanks!!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Maybe you need to keep him more awake and stimulated throughout the day? I really can't offer much advice just support lol. My older ones all started sleeping through the night when they were just a few months old. My 13 month old still wakes up at least once...and he's only been taking one nap a day around noon so I really don't know what to do. I would love to get a full night's sleep for a change but I also know that eventually he will sleep through the night and I'll miss that special late night/early morning snuggle time.
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• United States
18 Dec 07
Thank You for the support!!
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
17 Dec 07
He is probably getting up out of habit more than hunger. You can gently ease him out of it without letting him cry it out, although I must tell you, most babies adjust much more easily and quickly than we realize- usually it takes just a few nights to change a habit. Try diluting the milk with water, giving him a little less than usual, and gradually increase the amount of water until it is all water. Also, you can stay in the room and comfort him verbally without picking him up or giving him a bottle. You have to be careful because if he doesn't have teeth yet he will soon, so milk at night will risk damage to his teeth. Here is an article with a few tips that may help. http://www.helium.com/tm/250628/having-means-losing-sleep
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• United States
17 Dec 07
well, I tried the water thing and that did not go over very well. I am also trying to wean him off of the bottles due to the fact that he does have teeth and I do not like the fact that he is still drinking milk at night. I guess I will just have to try the water again.
18 Dec 07
sleeping is very important for good work so we shjpould take atleast 8 to 10 hours sleep so that we can work efficiently. sleeping in night should be smooth that is no hurdle so that u start youre work fresh in morn9ing
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• Philippines
18 Apr 09
Babies are really like that. Their tummies aren't big enough yet to accommodate much food, hence they would need to wake up in teh middle of the night for feeding. I've been through that also. My baby now is 1 yr and 2 months old. she normally wakes up at 3 am for feeding. I don't advise pacifiers. They are not hygienic. The best thing to do is to strategize. Agree with your hubby as to who wakes up at this particular time to feed teh abby. It can't be all you. Take turns so that everybody gets ample rest at night.
@kareng (7985)
• United States
18 Jan 08
Hopefully he will settle down. Each baby is different so don't fret. He just may not require as much sleep as some babies. Will giving him a few toys safe for the crib entertain him? It's probably just a stage he is going through. Another option is to wipe out that last nap of the day and keep him up a little longer. that way he may only wake up once instead of multiple times.