I just deleted all my two person email addresses.
By writersedge
@writersedge (22563)
United States
December 17, 2007 2:42pm CST
I write to women who are my friends, not their controlling, drunken, knucked-headed husbands. But the ones who have a two person address, I write to them and suddenly, one day, I invariably get an angry husband. I sent jokes, none were dirty, and I got large, triple-spaced yelling email back not to fill up their in-box with trash. Everyone else can forward jokes like "Once you've pulled the pin, Mr. Grenade is not your friend." I have not sent them anything in two months and at the top of it, I sent them a Merry Christmas wish. So I deleted them and all my other friends who have two person emails. I wasn't writing to him, but I did write Merry Christmas to both of them. I could see if I sent them stuff like my friends send me, to the tune of 30 a week (I delete most of it), but I haven't even contacted them in two months and I just wanted to send them something for X-mas. Do you have a two person email? Does your spouse control your email? Or do you have your own email and your husband/spouse/significant other/partner have his or her own email? My husband and I each have our own. This is not the first time, but it will be the last that this has happened. I'm not writing to people who have 2 person emails any more.
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9 responses
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
17 Dec 07
I think if people need to look at the emails people send as people remembering them when they read a joke. If a joke gets passed on to them and they don't have time to read it, it is very simple to just delete it. Very sad that you had to experience this.
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@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
It doesn't mean that when you have a partner you lost your individuality that even emails should also be one for both.I think couples should have a separate email address.It's not that you hide things from your partner but it is good for utilizing it at work, job interviews and private messaging.
My hubby hve our own emails but I know his username and password and he ask me to check once in a while for him if his computer is down.She knows mine but don't check out on me because he trust as I do the same.
A two person email address seem to look like, if you sent a message and the other owner misinterpret the missive then that creates trouble. So I wouldn't reccommend it for anyone to do.
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@mcjeannie (703)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
Absolutely a must to have your own email.
All the best!
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Exactly, I feel the same way. Once in awhile if my husband checked, at my request, like say I was sick or in a hurry (I was in the shower once and I needed to know if my boss sent me any last minute instructions before going to work by email), then he can check. My boss hadn't sent me anything.
I know from sharing an answering machine that we have to be very careful not to erase each other's messages, but computer could be even worse. Good examples and explanations. Take care
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@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
18 Dec 07
Well, this is so sad. Controlling husbands. Anyway I would urge your friends to get separate e-mail accounts. It does not cost extra. Among all my couple friends there is only one that has a two person e-mail account. Only the husband opens it, the wife does not go near the computer. Does that tell you anything?
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Yes, it does tell me something.
Yes, they should get separate accounts, but sometimes I think some of them like to play the dependent wife, fair damsil, something or other game. Others I think are computer faubic Take care
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
18 Dec 07
My husband has his own email address and I have mine. In fact I have more than he does. I do not think a two person email address is the way to go. It makes one feel they are being controlled. Even if one has only one computer, the wife should have her own email and the husband his. Then you can send family mail to the husband, and the between us girls to the wife. I have tried to persuade my husband to get a web email address since our pop mail has been down a few times, but he did not bite.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I agree with you and I have a web mail as back up, that's a good idea. My regular one is always down, I use web most of the time. Take care
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@fordgtdeb (131)
• Australia
18 Dec 07
i have my own email addresses and my husband has his own plus we both have our own computers expect for when mine needed fixing but he doesn't mind me using his computer. Quite often depending on what someone has sent me i will let him have a look at it like a joke or pictures.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I share some of the things my husband would like, too. Sharing is fine, but this intercepting and going balistic?! Sounds like you both have your privacy and can share, too. Very nice. Thanks for responding, take care
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@irishidid (8688)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Sorry this happened to you. Everyone should have their own private email addresses and not shared ones. Or do I like do and don't have a husband. :)
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I did like your for 42 years, but I found one who is really nice. He thinks this entire situation is crazy. He thinks women should be able to talk in private together without some guy barging in and being all he-man. He expects that we will have different interests and some of it would not interest him or would bother him. We do have separate emails and I would never jump into something written my someone else to him. It's just plain rude. I wonder if these women have the same problem with regular mail. Take care
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
17 Dec 07
It's great living alone and not having to worry about things like this. My email is mine and mine alone!!
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
17 Dec 07
That's good! My husband and I have separate emails and we don''t read each others. But I do send him jokes and fun stuff that comes to me. Take care
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I have my own now, but when Hun and I were sharing, he'd just go through his and leave the ones with my name in the subject box... I worked that part out with my family so there'd be no confusion. It really simplifies life!
We're big on jokes and steamy man shots... we're all Brats, after all... so the guys just stand back and let us get the ya-yas out! Most of us are messed up in one way or another, and we need some FUN!
Its a shame that people can't just enjoy the 'puter!
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
18 Dec 07
The way you do your computer is the way my husband and I do our snail mail box. Whoever gets the mail and sorts through. His pile and my pile. As long as privacy is respected, it's fine. Take care
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
19 Dec 07
True, very true, I think we were sisters or something in a former life.
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@alamode (3071)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I really don't get people who think they have a right to know everything about another person... Hun and I have kept separate parts of our lives... so we don't get bored with each other! That way, we can discuss and learn from each other, even after all these years.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
17 Dec 07
I defined two person email in the opening paragraph, but maybe you don't understand from what I wrote. It's when two people share the same email address. Like maryandjoe at whatever dot com or bobby and sue at whatever dot com. Two people on one email address. I deleted all of those because one person will get ticked-off and it's not even the one I wrote to. Please re-read what I wrote above, maybe it will make more sense to you after this further explanation.
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