Things you can do to keep your man from cheating

United States
December 18, 2007 8:41am CST
I want to know all the things people think can be done to ensure your man will not cheat. Is it even possible?
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@Stephanie5 (2953)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I don't think you can do anything other than try to keep them happy but even then, it might not work. Men and women cheat for many many reasons. I've been in a lot of relationships and I think that if they are going to cheat, there is nothing you can really do about it. It's just up to you whether or not you are going to put up with it. Sorry, wish I had better news, lol.
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@ebsharer (5519)
• United States
18 Dec 07
broken heart  - what happens when you get cheated on ... a broken heart
Satisfy him! I’m not saying submit to his every request, but keep him happy in bed and he won’t stray. If you can’t trust your man to stay out of other peoples beds then maybe you shouldn’t be with him. I trust my husband to never cheat because I know I give him what he wants in and out of bed. He would never cheat on me because he respects me more then that. I would have never married him if he didn’t. Good luck with your relationship.
@talisman (1308)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Keeping someone happy in bed has nothing to do with whether or not they're going to cheat. A cheater is going to cheat no matter what.
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@ebsharer (5519)
• United States
11 Jan 08
Then the cheater doesn't have any respect for you or him/her self. I keep my husband happy he keeps me happy and I have no wonders if he would ever cheat on me. Its called TRUST. If you can't trust him leave him.
@tiffiny (884)
• United States
18 Dec 07
If he's going to cheat he'll find away not matter what you try to do. Just do what makes both of you happy. I guess as long as you guys are happy then why would he want to cheat?
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• United States
18 Dec 07
You can never control someone else's actions or emotions...That is always the thing to remember..You can NOT make someone happy..You can add to their happiness and be one of the biggest reasons they are happy, but you are never in control..I think thats where people get confused these days. They say well I did everything to keep them happy and they cheated...If they werent happy then its not anyone's fault but their own. Any person in any relationship needs to remember that its crucial to make yourself happy first. If you are happy with yourself then your happiness reflects on your partner and will in turn make them happy to see you soo happy. If they really care and love you then they will do the same and make themselves into happier people to benefit the relationship. I learned this lesson the hard way. I would go out of my way in a relationship trying to keep my partner happy and in turn make myself miserable which then caused problems because I wasnt happy. It took me awhile to understand this..Im now happily married and happy with myself...well there is always room for improvement, but you know what I mean. And when I smile he smiles there is nothing better than that. Priceless! :)
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@vera5d (3958)
• United States
18 Dec 07
there is little you can do except be with a man who wouldn't cheat in the first place...
@dhamrait (71)
• India
18 Dec 07
I don't think it's possible. Human's err.
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@blueunicorn (2410)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I don't think it is possible to do anything to ensure that a man won't cheat. If he is going to cheat, he is going to do it no matter what you have done to try to stop that. If he is a good, moral, upstanding man he will not cheat no matter how bad things get. On the other hand, I do think it is wise to try to keep a man happy. That is not to ensure that he won't cheat, but just to have a happy life together.
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• United States
18 Dec 07
I say once a cheater, always a cheater. If a man had a history of cheating, I would never date him. If a man cheats on me, I would leave him. I would never put up with it because I do everything humanly possible to keep my husband happy. If he cheated on me, that would be the end.
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@eden32 (3978)
• United States
12 Jan 08
I have a couple of things to suggest. If he cheats, it's not your fault. I'd see that as a sign that he isn't "the one" after all & move on. Put your energy into creating a good relationship not into stopping him from cheating. A good relationship is one that's honest, where couples allow the other to see their vulnerability & supports their partner when they expose theirs to you. When I think of women who's focus is trying to stop cheating on the other hand, it makes me think of women (or men) who are controlling, jealous, etc. No one wants to be accused of things they haven't done. No one wants someone checking up on them or going through their stuff when they're not home. If you love & trust him, trust that he feels the same. If you ever find out you were mistaken, move on.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
21 Jan 08
i still think if a cheat is going to cheat, he will
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
21 Jan 08
A CHEAT WILL CHEAT WHATEVER. I think its to do with never growing up males, generally cheat because they have never managed to form effective relationships. They just dont know how not to cheat blessed be
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• United States
25 Dec 07
tie him up in your basement and never let him move.
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@talisman (1308)
• United States
18 Dec 07
No, it's not possible. If someone's going to cheat, they're going to do it no matter what you or anyone else does. You just need to have an honest relationship with the person you're with. You need to trust them and allow them to trust you. If you feel that you need to do something to stop someone from cheating, then you don't trust them and shouldn't be with them in the first place.
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• Portugal
15 Jan 08
not possible!!!