How teach children ?

China
December 19, 2007 12:10am CST
My sister's little girl is so poor at math that everyday she spend more than three hours finishing her math homework because while she do her homework ,she may go to drawing room to watch TV,or eat snack food.Yesterday she finished it until eleven with the help of all the family. Now she is only at Grade 4 at elementary school.I find she is too lazy to think.When she meet a little difficulities about math ,she will ask for your help.But it‘s so frustrating that she only want to know the result instead of the analysis.We explain to her again and again,finally she only know the result ,if we change another method to describe the same mathematical problems,she still don't know how to calculate. And sometimes she use calculator to help her do the mathematic problems. so how to help her to study math?how to change her bad habits?we are eager for your advice.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
19 Dec 07
First of all, if she is allowed to watch TV while doing her homework, that isn't going to help. She needs very little distractions. And maybe the parents can talk to the teacher too, some schools offer tutoring in areas where children are not strong. Both my girls struggled in math and the tutors they had help them a lot..
• China
20 Dec 07
She addict in wathcing TV that she can see every TV program when she finds chances and time to watch.Now she is so interesting in adult TV play series that she can remember every role and what happened in the play .I think she is mature.When somebody tell her to turn off TV for some reading ,she get very angry.Maybe she does follow us,but she doesn't read seriously. Every week she go to logical math course,but it seems no help to her. so difficult to teach a child.
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• United States
20 Dec 07
Well this might just be my opinion, but if she is addicted to TV that much that it interferes with her work, then it should be taken away until her grades improve. Yes, at first she will get angry, she's addicted, but after she improves her grades and TV is slowly allowed back into her life, as long as she does her best, she will get over it.. And yes, some children are very hard to teach, but no one is unteachable, sometimes a little creativity on the teachers part helps. There are many sites out there where teachers share and help students. Maybe her teacher has a site that will help. The parents need to ask the teacher, she/he would know the girls strengths and what would help her.
• China
21 Dec 07
Thank you very much for your advices.
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@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
25 Dec 07
I am currently giving tuition to a few students. One of them has the same problem. He is more interested in the answer than the method of the sums. That can be frustrating. If I feel that he is capable of solving the question himself, I will not help at all no matter how he pleads me. We must not spoil a child by giving them the answer all the time. If it's a really difficult question, then we should help. If not, he must learn to work the method. Also, try to instill interests in her. I think your niece lacks interest in Maths. Maybe you can try awarding her with candies or any other thing if she finishes her work conscientiously without careless mistakes. It's fine to make mistakes if the question is difficult. However, if it's because of calculation error that she makes the mistake, you would need to correct her. As for calculators, I think you should hide all calculators at home. =P In this way, she will not be able to find them.
• China
27 Dec 07
Thank you. yes,you're right. my sister and borther in-law have spoit the little girl. so we must help her to conquer the ill habit.
@zannette (17)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Hi! I'm a mom of four kids of different ages and I can say that teaching math to kids is really challenging but it's worth it because my eldest who is in 2nd year high school is top 1 in math. First, you need to explain to the child the importance of math so that she will realize that she really needs to learn math. Then, ask her to memorize the multiplication table in a skip counting manner so that it will be easy as in counting 1,2,3....the rest will be easy.
• China
27 Dec 07
Thank you. Now i believe math is so difficult to some little childern.It's not their fault.We must try out best to help them ,to make them assure that they are enough clever to solve any math problems.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
The parent's need to set a time limit for her to do her homework. Got example, maybe one hour, she will do it where there are no distractions and there will be no wandering around. At the end of that time, her homework will be put away and I note will be written to the teacher saying why the homework is incomplete. Maybe the teacher can even suggest the time limit, and the plan should be explained. Then the teacher can do the proper interventions so the child can succeed. Also, the parents should guide her and make sure she has the basics she needs to complete the homework - for example she needs to know her multiplication tables, if she does not, she needs to work on those or she will not progress.
• China
27 Dec 07
Thank you. i will tell her parents your advices.
• India
19 Dec 07
Maths is very simple and intresting subject.as a child i used to hate Maths as my teachers made it look tough for me but as i grew up i saw that itt was very simple and intresting.first ask her to do some intresting and logical problems so that she can gain intrest then ask her to be familiar with tables.which will b very helpful.then guide her to solve problems.
• China
20 Dec 07
Thank you.I think so.Maybe when she go to middle school,she will find math interesting and simply.Now we must help her stablish good habit.en ,It's a so difficult process.
• India
19 Dec 07
i think you should take professional help.
• China
20 Dec 07
Thank you. I also believe it's necessary.I will tell my sister. do anybody konw any site about how to educate children about ?
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
19 Dec 07
Hi hun, I think when a child behaves in this way (this is very normal though) the fault lies with us, the parents and others who guide her and not with the little girl. You have to motivate her to do her task. You all should be more careful while dealing with her, not too strict . not too lenient. take her out, ensure some reward when she does a good job and give time out when she does not. Praise her infront of the guests for a good thing she did. Count more on stuffs like, 'wow you did a great job!', 'you did it yourself, OMG!', 'you have outdone yourself', 'will you help me learn this'... I feel, this kind of attitude is quite normal and children at this age behave like this. You cannot expect maturity and the drive to do things on her own. Make studies more interesting and make seperate slots for study, games, painting, TV watching. She is a little angel, love her, take care of her Good luck!
• China
20 Dec 07
Thank you for your advices.I agree with you.It's our fault that now she behaves in this way.Maybe my sister have not enough patience that sometimes when she analysis math problem again and again but the little girl still unkown ,she may get angry to say the little girl is not so cute.I have say to her that is wrong for several times that she understands everytime but forgets the next time.