Is sadness a good thing?

@owlwings (39425)
Cambridge, England
December 19, 2007 3:12am CST
Here's a quote from South Park ... "I love life...Yeah, I'm sad, but at the same time, I'm really happy that something could make me feel that sad. It's like...It makes me feel alive, you know. It makes me feel human. The only way I could feel this sad now is if I felt something really good before. So I have to take the bad with the good. So I guess what I'm feeling is like a beautiful sadness." Trey Parker and Matt Stone, South Park, Raisins, 2003 Do you think that we need sadness and bad times in order to fully appreciate the good?
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@sophylline (1042)
• Philippines
19 Dec 07
Oh, I like this! It really makes sense. As of now, I am feeling a bit sad, disappointed. But what you just have illustrated is remarkably inspiring. Thank you so much for posting this and I am glad I came across this discussion. I told myself I was about to do one last discussion, thank goodness I came across your post. It makes me see that fact that I need to appreciate life itself, and that comes with whatever life has to offer. It's good to feel sad. It is way better than not feeling anything at all, or being numb.
@owlwings (39425)
• Cambridge, England
19 Dec 07
I am so glad, sophylline, that my simple little thought has given you some encouragement! You are quite right! It's much, much better to feel something than to feel nothing at all. Please keep going - tomorrow can only be better (can't it?)
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• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Hi there. Yep, I feel much, much better now. I had a good and satisfying night sleep. I hope things will even be better later on. Well, I just dropped by. I hope you have a good day.
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
19 Dec 07
Haha.. I agree. =D Sadness and Happiness come hand in hand. Without having gone through Sadness, we will not be able to appreciate Happiness. In order for us to appreciate life more and not take things for granted, we need to experience Sadness. Life is a roller coaster, full of ups and downs, Happiness and Sadness. Hopefully it's more Happiness than Sadness. =D
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@owlwings (39425)
• Cambridge, England
19 Dec 07
Let's hope, indeed, that it's the happiness that we can remember rather than the sad moments ... or that even the sad ones have little sparks of joy intermingled, as they sometimes do. A roller-coaster, yes ... I sometimes nearly lose my stomach at its ups and downs!
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
19 Dec 07
Owlwings, I feel, we need to experience sadness in order to live the happiness. The taste of sadness, the taste of unfulfillment, bitterness, lows in life only enhance the happiness that follow. Life is both sadness and happiness, one follows the the and completes the circle. Having said this, sadness should not stretched to the extent of depression. Depression is harmful both emotionally, physically. Wish you more happiness in life.
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@owlwings (39425)
• Cambridge, England
19 Dec 07
Thank you, mimpi. I shall keep looking for the little happinesses (and hoping for the big ones). I do agree about depression - that is rather a different state from just sadness, I think. It happens, perhaps, when the clouds become continuous and we can no longer imagine the sunshine above them (or beyond them) ... or even when there are no clouds at all but just walls round our souls. Then it is truly hard to imagine a way out.
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@dorypanda (1584)
19 Dec 07
Hello Mr.O. :) Yes I do think we need sadness, without the sad the happy wouldn't make us feel as happy, we wouldn't appreciate it as much. It's the yin yang thing, everything has to be balanced, including happiness and sadness, without balance in all things the universe wouldn't work properly.
@owlwings (39425)
• Cambridge, England
19 Dec 07
Hello Dory :) Yin and Yang - together with their intimate connection - are worth remembering, especially when one finds oneself both sad and happy at the same time!
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@dorypanda (1584)
19 Dec 07
That's very true, I've been happy-sad on several occasions, I seem to experience happy-sad more at Christmas than any other time of year, I'm happy because it's Christmas and I can make other people happy by giving them something (even if it's just my time), but I feel sad because I remember the people who won't be here to celebrate Christmas this year. So, it's a happy-sad time of year. The happy generally does outweigh the sad though so that's not too bad. :)
• China
20 Dec 07
hello,owlwings ;i think so that sadness is a good thing,because i think sometimes sadness can help us see something very clearly.
@nannacroc (4049)
19 Dec 07
If we couldn't feel sadness we would have lost a vital part of being human. We also would not apprecite the happiness because, I would imaginge, that if we didn't feel sadness we would not feel happiness either. All the different feelings are what shape who we are and how we respond to others and feeling or own sadness helps us to empathise with others.
@tammyr (5956)
• Etowah, Tennessee
19 Dec 07
I agree that if there is no sadness how can we appreciate the good stuff? If we can't have both sides of anything we have nothing to compare it to.