About those high heels!!!!!!

@Debs_place (10525)
United States
December 20, 2007 9:59am CST
Okay, last night I received an early Christmas present, totally unexpected. It was a very pretty dress, a dressy dress. Now I don't normally wear dresses and of course I needed shoes. So we went shopping. I went to store after store and tried on pair after pair after pair .... of shoes. Honestly ladies, are you comfortable wearing heels? My toes were scrunched...yet the shoe fell of my heels! The ball of my foot did not stay where it should. They hurt to sit in and standing up was worse. After about 5 1/2 hours I had a pair, they were ones limited pain and very expensive. Of course walking is a whole other adventure. What do you do when wearing this shoes so they don't hurt? How do you walk in these things? Give me your hints on wearing heels and getting through the evening!!!
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Oh I'm so sorry. I like to break them in before I go out in them. I will take the toe part and push it up like I've walked for a while in them and then I'll take the back heel part and push it down. I think it helps. So hopefully this will help you out.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I will have to try it...I really need help. Thanks
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I rarely wear heels so I understand where you're coming from. I don't get the skinny heels, I prefer wedges or "chunky heels". My favorite wedges have a slipper toe. All I can tell you is to wear your new shoes as much as possible so you're used to them or trade them in a for a different style. Since I get the feeling you're more of a tennis shoe/sneaker girl go for the wedge heels.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Wow, I thought I was the only one who didn't wear heels and you are right,I am a sneaker kind of person. I didn't get real chunky heels but they are not skinny ones either. I need foot anesthetic before I put the shoes on.
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@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I think most people don't wear heels. I wear tennis shoes to chunky boots all the time. I am lucky that I can wear sneakers to my job. I could never go back to wearing heels. They are definitely not worth the pain or the foot problems later on.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I wear dress shoes for church, for singing in choir. I do not wear them to work at either of my jobs. I think in the 70's or 80's they had high heel high tops. LOL, it was funny.
@Stiletto (4584)
21 Dec 07
As my name suggests wearing high heeled shoes is something I know about lol! Firstly I have found from past experience that the more I pay for a shoe the more comfortable it tends to be. The more expensive shoes usually have padding in all the right places - where the ball of your foot hits the sole is particularly important to be padded because that's where your foot will start hurting when wearing high heels. If you get a pair of high heels that don't have padding then you can buy little pads (the name of them escapes me at the moment but it will come to me) that you can put inside your shoes which will help. They're not as effective as having padding built into the shoe but they do make a difference. Also when you're buying high heels it's essential to get a really good fit - particularly as far as the width of the shoes goes. Your toes shouldn't be scrunched in them, that means your foot is sliding forward in your shoes which shouldn't happen if they are the correct width and length for your feet. As for walking in them that just comes with practice. I have to say I can walk for miles in high heels but I have a high instep which helps and also I've worn them for years so I'm used to them. Flat shoes are more likely to hurt my feet and be uncomfortable to wear. But having said all that I have had shoes that have nearly killed my feet, even ones that were pretty expensive. Some shoes just aren't made for walking (or standing even) and are just meant to look good. Strappy high heeled sandals tend to be the worst offenders for that.
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@Stiletto (4584)
21 Dec 07
Oh and it just occurred to me as well - if you're going to a function carry a cooling foot spray with you to try to avoid your feet swelling with the heat. A word of caution about slipping your shoes off when you are sitting down - I've done that and not been able to get the darned things back on again because my feet swelled up so much (they were just so grateful to be free I think lol!).
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@Stiletto (4584)
25 Dec 07
Thanks for BR! Yes my feet have swelled up that much - I think it was their way of saying "get these ridiculous shoes off me!" lol. Glad to hear your feet survived the evening anyway!
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Well I started to wear heels when I was 9 and they're not painful once you get used to them, If you want hints then maybe the pair you bought wasn't a good pair. And when you walk, don't think of your heels. And when you go around don't think it hurts, walk normally so you don't look funny. If you don't like to wear heels for a really ling time, why don't you buy those Chloe shoes which you can fold the heels. When you don't feel like you want heels just unfold the heel and no one expects a thing. And when you wear heels your feet are always scrunched, I think you should wear heels more often so that you'll get used to them^_^.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I went to every shoe store in the area and no one had Chlow shoes where the heel folds down. I got Vera Wang...I think they are a good shoe and they hurt less then the others. I have no occasion to wear heels, I work a lot with developmentally disabled guys and very seldom go out anyplace remotely fancy. So I will not be wearing them more often.
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• United States
20 Dec 07
Oh my gosh - those sound awesome. I never knew there was such a thing!
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I never did either...I am the type of person who is generally happy with a new t-shirt and jeans.
• United States
20 Dec 07
Oooh, you're not alone! I hate high heels. I have my no-fail pair that I swear I bought 10 years ago (good thing they're still stylish!). I've tried to buy new heels, but end up in pain. I'm the same as the PP, I cannot wear thin-heeled shoes - I will break my ankle. I've also had 2 back surgeries and cannot wear very high heels. I will be unable to walk for weeks if I try! Sorry you had so much trouble...
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Don't you wonder about the people who wear heels all of the time? How can they do it. Do the shoes really not hurt or are they so vain that they looks above comfort. I got a not thin heel but not a chunky one either...ouch back surgery does not sound like fun. If I were you I would not even consider a heel.
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@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Maybe that is why some people are so grumpy!!!
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I hate hate hate high heels! On Saturday my MIL made us do family picture and I wore my comfortable high heel boots. Due to the fact that the pictures took hours my feet were killing me. In fact the still hurt until Tuesday evening. I use to have a job where I had to wear heels every day and wearing heels never bothered me. The best bet is to shop around and find the most comfortable high heel you can before you break them in.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I got Vera Wang's and the did seem to be less painful then some of the others. I had no time for break in...they got worn.
• United States
20 Dec 07
I have very fat and short feet. This makes shoe shopping a pain. Usually if it fits the feet width wise it is way too long. I struggle to find dress shoes especially. They aren't made in wide sizes as often as other shoes and they often aren't wide enough when they are labeled "W". This makes fitting shoes very hard. Often they hurt my feet a lot because they don't fit well. Then I am a tad klutzy which makes walking in high heels a pain. I do it every now and again, but if I can I wear a nice pair of sandals. This doesn't work for really dressy situations, but it does for moderately dressy ones...
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
We are the opposite, I am a 9 1/2 with very narrow feet. I think we all are a tad klutzy and heels don't bring out the best in anyone.
• United States
20 Dec 07
P.S. How do I get through a night in heels? Every time I sit down at a table, I pop them off and don't put them back on until I have to get up! Or, just wait until everyone is drunk and walk around barefoot...lol.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Now these are suggestions I understand. I am planning on bringing the sneaks for the car. Then as you said take the shoes off when I sit down. No one gets real drunk at these events so that last suggestion is out, but I may go for some of the liquid anesthetic myself. I am also thinking of getting the spray on anesthetic...do get me through some of the night.
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@AmbiePam (50380)
• United States
20 Dec 07
For me to be comfortable, I don't wear skinny heels. I will wear a cork heel, a block heel, and semi regular high heel. But I cannot balance on one skinny stick of a heel. I'm almost six feet tall, and I think that was God's way of telling me that I was not meant to wear those skinny high heels. : ) But my mom puts a shoe insert into hers, and that makes them more comfortable to her.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Dec 07
This is not a real high skinny heel but I when I stand up I do feel like the air is a bit thinner that high. I am going to have to try an insert. That might help.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I have few pairs of high heels, but on daily bases I don't like to wear it. If you walk everyday on heels, than you don't have a problem. It takes training to do it right.... I love my Uggs....:)
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
What are Uggs? I work with developmentally disabled guys, I have to be able to escape and evade. High heels every day would not work at all.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
24 Dec 07
http://www.uggaustralia.com/index.aspx
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
24 Dec 07
forget to add, I always find them much cheaper on line or in outlets like Marshals...I never paid more than $50
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Don't mind me but I'm laughing in hysterics. Ah, the dilemma of the high heeled shoe. This is precisely why I don't ever wear them. Once when I was in high school (during the Civil War years..LOL) I decided to be fancy and got myself high heels...Well let me tell you, I wore those suckers once and only once and vowed never to wear high heels every again. Now I realize that maybe this dress is real "dressy" and yes high heels would look great, but I still think even a nice dressy-type pump shoe would have done just as well as a high heeled shoe. The heel is usually no more than 1 or 1-1/2 inches, and the toe isn't so narrow. I don't gussy up that much myself, but I do have a few outfits, long skirts that are "dressy" and the pump shoes look every bit as good as heels
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Well, I should have come visit you last night, the event I got the shoes for was at Westchester Broadway Theatre. The heels I got were actually about the height of a business card. You know the air is thinner up there. I could not breathe, I don't understand how tall people can do live like that. I really don't even find flats comfortable. I love my Ryka sneakers
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Sorry, I read your profile wrong..you are not in Elmsford.
@GardenGerty (105192)
• United States
24 Dec 07
It has been forever since I wore many heels. I do find that about 1 1/2 inch heels relieves the heel pain I have been experiencing, and it is not too bad on my knees. I select rather boxy toes, never pointy.What I wear is called a classic pump. It sounds like you need a special insole to keep your foot from slipping forward. Have a few minutes practice daily until you are sure of yourself in your shoes. It sounds like you are in for a really special evening.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Well, we had the special evening last night, it was myself, my husband, his 2 sons, and mother one of they boys girl friends and my son who was home from the Navy, first CHristmas together for us since 2004. It was a dinner theater and very nice, we saw a beautiful rendition of the Christmas Carol. I wish they had high heel sneakers.
• United States
22 Dec 07
I say to he!! with high heels. They are torture devices that can cause a body a great deal of pain! I am not gifted with great balance and tetering on a tiny heel all night is not my idea of fun. Give me a flat shoe with a slight flat heel and I am good to go. Comfort comes way before style. What is style if you haven't got comfort?
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I don't even find flats comfortable, And I agree what is style without comfort. It does amaze me how many people do wear heels and say they are comfortable (personally I think they are podiatrists trying to invest in future business)
@fanji008 (782)
• China
21 Dec 07
Hi,there! Frankly speaking,I prefer sports shoes to high heels.I also feel it's not very comfortable.Nowadays I still wear some sports shoes very often.I just feel convenient and comfortable with them:) But many of my friends as well as my mum tell me that I should learn to wear high heels.They say one looks different when she wears high heels and it gives others' nice impression.So I'm trying right now and usually I prefer to start with those high heels which are not very thin.They could support you better.Then if you're good at them,then maybe you can try the thin ones.Best regards and have a nice weekend^_^
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I am an accident waiting to happen, I will NEVER try the thin ones, I have problems in sneakers.
@karilyn (40)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
Asking about me am really into high heels. I love it a lot it really makes your walk so sexy...am sorry about your reactions towards heels. Well if you wanna get used to it you must have to try it every now and then until you'll get into that. And try to select a very light heeled shoe. So that you wouldn't find it so hard to wear. Once you're used to it , you'll notice your foot looks so nice. And very sexy Go Girl!!!! I know you can make it! :-)
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I did make it, but I did feel so strange. You are a highly adaptable person, I must give it a go on a regular basis, if only at home.
@youless (94715)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Dec 07
I don't like wearing high heels at all. My feet will be so painful after that. I need to have a rest for a week so that my feet will feel better.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I think a week, will be good, even my wrists and hands hurt after wearing them last night, I think that is from the grip I put on the railings while walking.
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
21 Dec 07
LOL I know what you mean:) I think it's a matter of being used to. When I was back home I used to dress different from now. I always used to wear nice clothes even for work, makeup and.. yes high heels. It didn't bother me one bit and I felt very comfortable with them. Then I came here. My life was a bit different for one. Also I got the habit of taking my shoes off when I come in, which is something we didn't really do back home.I also settled in a more relaxed and informal style of clothes that would go well with flats or even running shoes. Now, so many years being used to comfortable shoes I do have a bit of a problem if I wear high heels. I can walk fine, but my poor feet complain after the first minutes:) I have no hints, I'm sorry, other than telling you to just use them a bit and it will feel right soon :)
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I guess I will leave them out and wear them for about 15 minutes a few times a week and maybe the next time an event comes along I will not dread it so much.
• United States
21 Dec 07
You said like me when im shopping for shoes. Going to store after store looking for a pair of shoes that will fit. I wear a size 10 so it takes me forever to find a pair of dress shoes that will fit. I hate wearing heels. And i dont find them comfortable at all. I can barely even walk in them. I dont know of anything you can do to make them not hurt. I usually take them off when im sitting down. That way my feet quits hurting at least for a little bit.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
That is what I did last night, You should shop where I live, they had every size but the 9 or 9 1/2 that I wear. Size 10s were very abundant. And there is nothing like a pair of sneakers.
@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
21 Dec 07
try getting a 1/2 size bigger and use baby powder in them.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I have narrow feet and a they fall off in the heels any how, a 1/2 size bigger and I would be falling out of them as I walked. I actually did try that.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
27 Dec 07
ack! I've never been one to wear heels - I am fairly tall (5'10") and not very delicate or graceful - I always felt like an ogre in high heels. I would just wear a ballet style slipper for a dressy dress (what I wore under my wedding gown) or a loafer or pump for more casual affairs.