Excessive Worrying

United States
December 22, 2007 12:20pm CST
I am wondering if anyone else has this problem and what you do about it. I have had a problem with excessive worrying since I was a teenager. What brought it on was my parents divorce, my dad and his family doing a bunch of evil deeds that left us homeless, then my mother hooked up with another bad guy who got us in trouble with the law. So that of course led me to worry constantly. Well now many years later it has gotten worse. I worry about everything. I worry about paying the bills on time, my car which is falling apart, money, my family, my mothers health which is bad, my son who is about to be born, his father who is a munipulative bully and wanting to fight me on child support. All of this worrying is driving me nuts and its driving my family nuts too. They tell me to knock it off but I find it to be way too hard. How do I stop worrying so much? When I stop something usually happens that brings on more worrying.
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• Philippines
23 Dec 07
I don't usually worry much but I've lived with people who do and it wasn't such a healthy experience. I think its just the nature of the person but it really doesn't help at all. They said that worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but doesn't take you anywhere. (or was that complaining) Anyway, they're more or less the same. When you worry you complain. I think all you need to do is think positive. Think that whatever happens, happens for a reason and for the greater good. Resolve that you cannot control everything so relax and instead of fretting try to think of other possible solutions. The more nervous you become the less likely you'll be able to think so relax and think straight. Remember, you won't go anywhere if all you do is worry. I think that's why its easy for me to relax because I surrender all my worries to God and believe that He has a solution for it. That applies with me. For people who do not believe in Him, you can try to adjust and look for ways wherein you can surrender your worries on. Good luck!
@angelface23 (2498)
• United States
23 Dec 07
Oh yes, I am a huge worrier. It's kind of like an OCD. My grandma is much worse than I am. She worries about everything whereas I mainly worry about money, my mental state, my husband not working. I mean I worry about normal things but I think I worry too much.
• India
23 Dec 07
Hi mollyrose, I am sorry to hear your story and more than that I cannot tell you any thing else. As far as your worry is concerned, it seems it is going to the peak stage and you have to get medicines for this.So, please visit a doctor and get your treatment right now. The Medcines not only supress your worry but also provide you sufficent mental strength which will enable you to think more independently. Good Luck and wish you a speedy recovery from your worry.
@MisterPlus (1917)
• Philippines
23 Dec 07
Problems are solved stress must be address with calm and take away the worries. Do some meditation to have the benefit of calmness. I was into such a horrible disaster in life. I found out that meditation helps ease my mind. I hope this can help you. Try it. Merry Christmas.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 07
I am a worrier, a 36 year old man and for most of my life I have been a natural born worrier and what drives me mad is when people usually the ones that never worry about a thing or don't have anything to worry about turn round and say to you 'Don't worry about it' yeah right easier said than done, how can you stop worrying if you are a natural worrier? They don't understand, it's like anything in life if you don't experience anything how can you appreciate what it's like? Trouble is worrying affects my sleep and I spend hours tossing and turning. Worrying in actual fact causes worrying.
@dianne17k (600)
• Philippines
23 Dec 07
I usually worry a lot and find it hard too to mellow down on the worrying. My friends find it weird that I worry about the smallest of things but it can't be helped. I have ways of coping nowadays. I try to tell my friends about the things I'm worried about and once someone besides me knows about it, worrying sort of subsides. Instead of being worried, act on what you're worried about. worrying can be emotionally draining so use the energy to come up with a solution instead. Of course, it's easier said than done. I hope that helps. The best of luck and happy holidays!!!