why do I aways fail in exam?

@seared (247)
China
December 24, 2007 7:35am CST
recently I failed in the GCT(graduate candidate test in our country).feel so depressed!I have known the result before I knew it. but I still feel so depressed, so disappointed!because all others around me have passed it.But I failed. this evening, on chrismas eve, siting before my computer alone,burst into tears.why do I always fail?am I really stupid? I really love reading and learning.And I am always ready to learn.why do I always experience complete failure in test?
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
24 Dec 07
Sorry you failed your exam. I am sure you are not stupid - I think it was just bad luck. You'll pass next time. I hope you will be able to enjoy Christmas anyways. Find someone you love and spend the evening with them Will be thinking of you Merry Christmas
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@seared (247)
• China
24 Dec 07
thank you think I am not stupid!:)and merry chrismas!^_^
• India
24 Dec 07
Do not, simply DO NOT get depressed. It's very easy to fall prey to depression from which it may be hard to recover. I know it from my personal experience. In class 10, I was a brilliant boy, but just one class later, when our syllabus changed radically, I simply couldn't cope up and my ranks were in a state of free fall. I had given up all hope, even the hope of being able to pursue higher studies in later life when I felt that I mustn't be going this way. If I didn't study, what would I do to earn a living in later life? My parents are working so hard to bring me a bright future. It's my duty to do justice to myself so that I'm able to look after myself and most importantly, my old parents in later life. So I visualized myself as being a warrior in a battle where everyone is my enemy and everyone wants to kill me. But just like the REAL warriors never lose hope and never give up, I would have to wield my sword and strike out a path for myself and HAVE to be victorious at the end. I visualized my subjects as my opponents in battle and visualized myself being brutally slaughtered by them and asked myself "Will you want to go that way?". So then I attacked the subjects with renewed vigour, with each numerical problem solved, I visualized a deep gash occurring in the body of my opponent and thought myself one step near to victory. Never lose confidence in yourself. You hold the key to your victory. You only have to find it within yourself.
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@seared (247)
• China
24 Dec 07
you are so good.thanks for sharing your experience with me. I will remember your words foever:"you hold the key to your victory"!your words make feel better.thank you and merry chrismas my dear friends
• India
25 Dec 07
Thank you very much, seared. Actually, you know, as I have been through that feeling before, so I simply can't bear to see anyone else fall prey to it. If my answer helps you out of your situation in any way, however small it may be, I will feel myself rewarded. A very merry christmas to you too and wishing you a VERY happy new year in advance. Remember, it's now YOUR duty to make this new year truly happy for you. Nobody will serve you happiness on a golden platter. You'll have to work for it, and work hard. The sun WILL rise again and night shall fly.
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• Philippines
24 Dec 07
Hey, don't lose hope. there is always hope while you're alive. Maybe you didn't study hard for that exam. Maybe your efforts were not enough. Strive harder. Hard work always pays. Increase your vocabulary by reading lots of things not only the items included in your exam. If you didn't pass this time, its not for you. Everything has its time and place. Stay strong. Merry Christmas. Forget about the exam for now. There will be other opportunities later on. Who knows? Maybe you'll top the next exam. Just remember to FOCUS!
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@seared (247)
• China
27 Dec 07
yes,you are right.things sre changing every second.as you said,everything has its time and place.I think I will try it again.because I think it's worth time and effort,but I will do it in another way,a way to succeed.thank you.your reply was really sweet!:)
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
24 Dec 07
Seared I know you're feeling down, but these things happen and all we can do is try again. Many people have trouble with exams because of the stress they imply. NO matter if they studied and know all about the subject in question but when the actual exam comes they feel overwhelmed and seem to forget everything. People tend to feel extra nervous when being examined and the anxiety alone can make it worse. The best way to deal with this is first of all identify the cause of the stress and then find tools that can help to deal with the problem. A good night's rest is essential . People really should avoid cramming everything on the last night. Putting the exam in context is beneficial and takes some of the stress out. Remember that if you don't do as well as you hoped you do have other alternatives, there are alway other alternatives. Remember than an exam is not a measure of what kind of person you are, or your success or failure in life.It's just a series of questions to measure your ability to present the subject you learned, nothing else. If exams in general always make you feel really anxious or depressed, talk to someone about it. Teachers do have hints and ideas that might help. WHen you are doing your exam read and answer one question at a time instead of answering large blocks of questions and then having to go back to re-read all questions. If it helps you highlight text on the question to make sure you really get what the question is about. Make sure you DO read each question and that you understand it before answering. If you're not sure of an answer skip it. Go to the next you know how to answer. Avoid wasting time on something you're not completely sure, you can always come back to the skipped questions later. My daughter always had a lot of trouble in exams. She know the subjects well, but once she sat at that desk to take her exams she couldn't remember a thing for sure and the results were always way below what she could do. And like you, she always would feel depressed after. One of the main problems in her case was low self esteem, even though she didn't show it, deep down she didn't believe in herself that much. This was the first year that she finally did well in exams. And the results were great. She did work on her anxiety and stress, ate well, relaxed and had a good night sleep before the exam and most of all she believed she could do it. You can do it too. Try to find the main reason why you tend to do poorly in exams, and find the right tools for you. You'll be able to do it :)
@seared (247)
• China
27 Dec 07
can you believe it?I read this twice just now.sorry I didn't come here several days.I think you are really good and patient mom.your daughter is really lucky for she always have you every time when she failed in her exam.You know it quite hurts for a students who cares about the result, especially when she takes a great effort to achieve. and congratulations! she relly made a great progress in her esam with your help and encouragement! I think you are right, the first thing is to find the main reason,then try to find the right way for me!thank you!I think I truelly have lerned something fom your sharing!:)hope you and your baby daughter happy everyday!^_^
• India
24 Dec 07
Do not be disheartened. As you know failures are the pillers of success. Don't you know that King Alfred the Great was defeated seven times before he won. Hard work and preservance can get you success. I can give you one suggestion. Read aloud the chapter sometimes and then jot down the points. Revise them early in the morning. I am sure you will pass with flying colours next year. Good Luck to you.
@seared (247)
• China
24 Dec 07
thank you. I really hope I can pass with flying colour next year as you said!and merry chrismas
• India
24 Dec 07
very simple method is... train up your mind in meditation for concentration power.
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@seared (247)
• China
24 Dec 07
effective method I think.thank you. I will try.but howwww:( anyway,merry chrismas
@Ngippol (567)
• Philippines
24 Dec 07
Hey, you are not stupid. You might have failed in your written exam, but there is a better exam which I think you're passing. The exam of life. The mere fact that you are there means that you are learning real life situations. Your failure in your written exams is not a big thing. Explore other territories, you might excel in business! Study the life of many millionaires, and you'll be surprised that most of them doesn't have a college degree to show. You know Bill Gates, right? Well, he's a college drop-out I think. But he's the richest man in America!!
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@seared (247)
• China
24 Dec 07
Bill Gates is not the richest man in American.I think he is the richest man in the world!:)thank you! I think I will learn something from it!it is not a big thing.just can't accept it at this moment.and merry chrismas!
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
24 Dec 07
Hi seared, not only you who experienced like that. dont feel sad maybe its not time for you yet. there will always be a next time.
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@seared (247)
• China
24 Dec 07
thank you!I guess I wouldn't give up even I am still soooo depressed.and merry chrismas!
• China
27 Dec 07
so sorry to know your experience,i think you needn't feel depressed and disappointed ,don't lose heart ,perhaps you can win your success in the near future.good luck.
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• United States
25 Dec 07
Just because an individual is a failure when it comes to test, does not always mean that he or she does not know the material. Just like the SAT. It is not always a correct judgement of where an individual stands, because it does not include many real life situations. I am sure that you are a smart individual. Do not let it get to you. I would say "study harder", however you might just be a bad test taker. Hope that helped!
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• China
25 Dec 07
now i am review textbook. tomorrow i will have a history examination. i can't remember the affairs in history and i think i must fail. but now i still try my best. the if i fail, i can tell myself is't not your fault. so you can ask yourself do you try your best.
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@fanji008 (782)
• China
25 Dec 07
Hi,there! Sorry to hear that you fail the exam.But don't be sad and don't lose heart!There're many reasons for a failure.It's an important exam,but it's just an exam.It doesn't mean you're stupid or other things.Take it easy and forget about the side effect of it.Maybe you give yourself too much pressure whenever you take an exam so that it causes the unwanted result.So from now on,I hope you can relax and analyse the mistakes you made in the exams and try your best next time.Don't give yourself too much pressure in the future.I'm sure you'll make it!Today is Christmas,so be happy and I wish you all the best^_^
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@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
25 Dec 07
hi seared! hmmm...i am sorry that you failed your exam. what would that mean for you? i mean, will that mean that you can't go to college? or that you can't graduate from college? no, i don't think you are stupid. but i believe it has something to do with your perception of yourself, and even of others' perception of you. change your self image. change what you think of yourself. start thinking like an achiever, and not a loser. a failure is not the end of the world, but rather take it as a challenge to work harder, aim higher, and to move smarter. take care of yourself, study hard, get some rest and relaxation and don't be too hard on yourself. even those who passed the exams have their own problems, too. so lighten up. the whole world will seem brighter. :-)
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
25 Dec 07
don't be depressed. I know its easier to say. But I think there is some basic problem with planning. Try to read systematically. Try to solve question papers of previous yrs. Also cover all the syllabus very well. You are not stupid or anything like that. Believe in yourself and you can succedd.
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• China
25 Dec 07
hi,seared.don't sorry about youself.you are not stupid.everybody will have false experience.such as my english is very poor,but i study hard and improve it hardly.In china ,i know false is the mother of sucess very well.work hardly and you will sucess.merry Xmas and happy new year.
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• United States
25 Dec 07
dont feel bad or disappointed alot of people go through what you did,as a matter of fact i myself have done the same thing a couple of months ago with my insurance license. i failed it 4 times and we have what they call exam anxiety. we know the material inside and out but on the day of the exam it all escapes us as soon as we look at the exam. its nothing to be ashamed of we just have to relax and stay calm before we take the exam.
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@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
24 Dec 07
Maybe you lack focus? I have a friend who failed his board exam several times. I think it was because of his very active social life. I refused to think that he was stupid. Also, make sure you get a good night's sleep before the exam. That's the only way for your brain to function optimally.
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