Sure about the identity of the person you meet online?

India
December 26, 2007 7:40am CST
How do you make sure the person at the other end with whom you are trying to make friends is revealing his/her true identity? Sometimes people give false identities ...faking their name, location and other details.May be its a man with a femal'ish' profile or woman with a mal'ish' profile! Or even a shared profile that is being used by friends, couples or even lovers! Who knows In fact these kind of faking has given rise to lot of cases with personal mental frustrations and such problems. Should not we also have a clean system to recognize the identity?
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8 responses
@lorelai (1560)
• Italy
2 Jan 08
I don't think one can ever be sure about people he/she meets online. I have a friend who met a guy online and they fall in love, at the end she found out he had a girlfriend. I mean, we never know what is the truth and what is a lay. In real life we usually know friends or somebody who knows the person we are interested in and we can find out somehow if he or she is telling the truth or not but on the internet that's impossible.
• India
3 Jan 08
Hmmm...right!
@Stiletto (4597)
26 Dec 07
You can never be sure whether the person you are talking to online is being 100% honest with you. People can (and do!) pretend to be anything or anyone they want to online. It's always sensible to be cautious. I think some people are just way too trusting and get too emotionally involved in online relationships. Personally I don't really care whether people on myLot for example are telling the truth about themselves or not because it doesn't affect me in any way. As for your suggestion of a "clean system" I have no idea how that could be achieved.
• India
27 Dec 07
Do you think you can identify whether its a male or female at the other end from the way of talking ?
@Ngippol (567)
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
I understand your sentiments about fake identities. There are a lot today who doesn't reveal their true identities and contented hiding themselves behind something! Just look at the image behind those names on mylot. You can see different images but they are images of animals and things! But on the contrary, I believe there are honest people here on mylot whom you can trust. Just discern who's true and not so true. Have a happy day!
@Ngippol (567)
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
That might be. But not all. Ha ha ha. It seems, there's something inside that you want to express? Just asking, no offense!
@zeynab (27)
• Pakistan
27 Dec 07
i totally agree with you, i think talking to someone on internet is not at all a viable way, getting social helps and if you cant do that (in some cases) then you shouldnt be chatting either, cuz from meeting the person barely his/her identity can remain unknown or not truly revealed, cuz when you meet someone for the first time you are mostly judjmental and that gesture can help to solve this problem too. any way whats the charm of chatting now!
• United States
27 Dec 07
I dont think there is really a way to find out for sure that the person is really the one you are talking to. I think thats why we are better off not to meet people online.
@irishidid (8119)
• United States
27 Dec 07
One can say anything they want online so you must be cautious. I would also add that if one is going to lie about their appearance one should not post pictures of themselves that do not reflect what they have told people.
@edigital (2711)
• United States
26 Dec 07
Mr. Rajesh - you have presented a nice topics but you are using female avatar though you are male - is not it? Of course you said in your profile that you are male and this is one kind of true announcement by you. But online friend in some country are 98% fake and in some country is 99% true or not fake. When I give my identify to any one then I tell them to visit my website and I give my phone number and show her my credit card pics - I never lie to them. If anyone lie you can understand them because lier must say something that would give you understanding that identity is false because false once will open and this is fact.
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
26 Dec 07
rajesh...dont trust anybody or anything online until you have had proof of that person either physically or by some very compelling signal. There are very unscrupulous people online, they pride in scamming and faking, I know I am this very kind, amiable and loveable person in real life, but I dont want you or anybody here to trust me until he/she can descern some signal of trust from me over time as we interact. I have been scammed on line, I therefore know, nobody means good online at first sight, you need enough time to come to that conclusion!