Does your man put you down?

@bluemars (952)
Australia
December 27, 2007 6:51pm CST
Like what I mean is does he even not realize that he is putting you down in some way even if it is small? Like he might just be making a small joke but somehow it is just not that funny to you? Ever feel like that?
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@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
28 Dec 07
No, my man would never do that, if he is joking then I know it's a joke and it's not putting me down, it would never cross his mind to do that whether I am right there or not anywhere around.
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@bluemars (952)
• Australia
28 Dec 07
Well then you have a good man I think. I mean it is not every man but I guess some men feel threaten somehow by some women. I don't know why they really do it to begin with it is not a nice feeling and you sort of feel betrayed if they are doing it in front of someone else or without your knowledge. I don't know but it is nice to have a good man who cares for you in the right way.
• United States
28 Dec 07
Yes it is nice. I did have a friend and you could tell her feelings were hurt by the way he put her down and made rude remarks about her, but she never siad a word, she just put up with it. I for one would not have, I would have told him straight out.
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@bluemars (952)
• Australia
29 Mar 08
Yes a woman should stick up for herself and should not let a man make her feel like crap. Many women don't know what to do about the whole thing when they are faced with it but they need to realise that they do deserve better especially when they are treating their partner better too. It is not a nice thing either. I don't think that people should treat their partner in such a bad way and if they can stop maybe they shouldn't be with that person.
@Estina54 (390)
• United States
28 Dec 07
Yes, my man knows very well that he's putting me and other people down, and he's not kidding, he thinks of himself as honest. But I know he isn't because when other people are more open to him, he gets upset with them and pushes them into apologizing for something he does all the time. He's mean, he's rude, that's the truth about him and it he's not kidding. He can't say 2 words without screaming and yelling.
@bluemars (952)
• Australia
29 Mar 08
I think he needs to learn to control himself, men like that really have issues and I hate it when they think they are always right and don't give others a chance. Communication is after all a two way thing silly. I don't know but seriously some one should always remind him how rude and mean he is constantly and help open his eyes to his own actions. I hate the ego of some men, it really is too much sometimes. I think to myself, Oh get over it man.
• New Zealand
28 Dec 07
People either speak blessings to one another or they speak curses to one another. The creation of the world all began with "THE WORD". Theres power in "THE WORD". Saying things that do not lift you up and make you feel good just goes to reveal whats really in the other persons heart.
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@bluemars (952)
• Australia
29 Mar 08
Yeah that is right if a person if constantly making you feel bad then obviously their heart is in the wrong place especially where it concerns you. If your partner is doing the opposite and is making you feel really good then he cares about your well being and whether or not you are happy.
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
28 Dec 07
Sad if that's happening. It shouldn't be happening in relationships Blue. Some people can be rather insensitive and don't even know what they are doing, but it should be talked about and dissuaded if a person is hurt/upset over what is said.
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@bluemars (952)
• Australia
28 Dec 07
I know I guess some people are pretty selfish when it comes to feelings being hurt and they just end up thinking about their own and not how things are affecting others or the consequences of their own actions. That is very sad indeed.
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
28 Dec 07
No he never puts me down, but he never picks me up either!!
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@bluemars (952)
• Australia
28 Dec 07
Oh yeah I know that feeling, it is nice when a man actually looks after a girl's self esteem and brings her up when she is feeling down and depressed. I wish sometimes they just have it in them but I guess we can not all be blessed that way. Or perhaps it is just that girls are more sensitive to that perhaps.