Do you agree with adoption?

@babykay (2133)
Ireland
December 28, 2007 5:52pm CST
Adoption used to be a fairly common practice in Ireland, up to about the 1980's. Basically if you were unmarried and pregnant it was pretty certain that your baby would be given up for adoption. Nowadays, adoption is pretty rare and those wishing to bring a child into their home usually go abroad. What do you think of this? Current policy on the situation seems to be that a child is better to be left with his or her biological parents if at all possible. This seems reasonable but when you consider the amount of kids that are clearly not being cared for adequately, wouldn't adoption be a better solution in some of these cases? Should adoption be more widespread? Would you ever adopt or consider giving it a right decision to give a child up?
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@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I, personally, believe in adoption whole heartedly. There are so many children out there that need a good, loving home that some parents cannot provide for their children. I would, and have, thought about adoption...but the money is just not there for it. I think, however, that we need to not only be focusing on other country adoptions, but adoptions here as well. There are so many babies being born in America that need a loving home and need that security of having a family instead of being put into foster care. I would do it in a heart beat though if i had the money and a bigger place and my husband agreed with me on it. At this point, he doesn't because he doesn't feel that he could see that child as his own...but i don't think he's thinking to clearly on it, because I have two boys that he took in and loved as his own when we met and married. Who knows, maybe one day. I wouldn't mind being a foster parent, except for the fact that you get attached to the children and then they are usually either sent back to the biological parents or adopted out to someone else and i think that would be very difficult for me to have to let that child go. God bless
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
30 Dec 07
there are many kids who are not cared for properly in their original families for one reason or another - but its not always the case that these are the ones who go for adoption. Many mothers were in the past coerced into giving up their kids simply because they were unmarried. But adoption in itself is not a bad thing
• United States
31 Dec 07
This is true. That is not always the case and I feel sorry for the mother's that are talked into giving their children up for adoption and didn't want to. There are those out there though that really don't want the child when it's born, so yes I too think that adoption is not only a good thing but a necessary thing. God bless
@Ngippol (567)
• Philippines
28 Dec 07
Adoption is practiced in every part of the world. Many of which are not documented. Even God practiced adoption. We were aliens with Him but then He gave Jesus to pay for our sins and adopt us unto His family through His blood sacrifice at calvary. Have you been adopted into the family of God?
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
29 Dec 07
it is true that adoption is widely practiced to varying extents. But as I pointed out, the level and manner of adoption changes. You say that God has practiced adoption. God created us and everything in the world. Therefore we belong to God. How can you say God adopted us?
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@Ngippol (567)
• Philippines
29 Dec 07
It's true that God created us! the problem is we sinned against God and that separated us. Remember Adam and Eve cast out from the garden of God? Unless we are reconciled with Him, through Jesus Christ, we will be separated from Him eternally in hell. Have you read Luke 16:19-31? We belong to His family only when we receive Christ as our Saviour and Lord - John 1:12
• United States
31 Dec 07
Why did the baby have to be put up for adoption if you werent married? I dont understand that. I think if the parents arent going to be able to take care of the child then it is best that they put the baby up for adoption. And i dont see anything wrong with adopting.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
5 Jan 08
well.....I don't see anything wrong with adoption either. Once the mother (one who has given birth to her child) is consenting, not being rewarded financially and does not feel able or willing to take care of the child for whatever reason. And once the adoptive parents are suitable from the point of view of being the best available people to parent the child. And once procedures are in place for making it possible for the child to trace his parents once he feels he wants to, if at all possible.
@fanji008 (782)
• China
29 Dec 07
Hi,there! Well,I have no problems with this issue. I think it depends on different people and different kids.If the kid is given up by his/her biological parents,and there are the other two who are very nice and have good condition to bring the kid up,then why not let it happen?I think if the kid and the two both agree,then it's not a big deal.But the thing that we need to pay attention to is that the two parents are really very nice people and have this heart to love the kid,offer a good life and would try their best to protect the kid:) I don't think I'll give a child up cause that's the responsibility for a parent.Once the baby was born,then parents have the obligation to bring the kid up.I think the best way is to let the adoption develop naturally but not widespread.Thanks for the discussion and have a nice day^_^
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
30 Dec 07
if at all possible it would be less problematic for kids to remain with ther biological parents...
• United States
29 Dec 07
I would adopt a child if I found out it needed a good home but who is to say what an adequate home is. I think a child should stay with its parents where ever possible even if the parents are poor and do not make a lot of money. I think the child should not stay with parents who abuse the child physicially or mentally. I came from a two parent home who looked on the outside like "good parents" let me tell you something. Mom and dad where the pits and they continue to be the pits. I do not care to talk to either one of them. I think it is OK for a single parent to raise a child if they have support from friends and family to help with the baby sitting. I do not think a child should be adopted out just because the mother is unwed or poor.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
30 Dec 07
yeah I am with you on that, there is no way kids should be taken from parents on the basis of marital status or income. But if there is abuse involved, different story. But all such judgements are subjective and some social workers are biased towards particular types of people, unfortunately
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I think adoption can be a good thing. If a woman or girl is pregnant, and does not feel she can give the baby the care and love it will need, she should consider adoption. People who are unable to have children should consider adopting a child who needs a home instead of fertility treatments. I can't see myself doing it because I have a child and only want one. But if my husband and I were unable to have children, I would definitely consider adoption. I think it is a lot more than biology that makes a family.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
29 Dec 07
yeah it takes more than biology to make a family. But all the same, there is a strong urge in many adoptees to find the people they are biologically related to, despite being given away.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I think that adoption is a wonderful option. Its an option for someone who can't conceive their own child or someone who isn't able to afford/ care for the child that their expecting. Its a personal decision that each person should be allowed to make for themselves.Each child deserves a good home to grow up in. The meaning of a good home is different to each person. I believe that a home filled with love and happiness is better for a child then say one that just provides for the child's financial needs. I adopted two little boys. I have never had any second thoughts about my decision. Each child deserves a good home to grow up in.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
29 Dec 07
adoption can be wonderful. Especially for children who otherwise would not be in a family but an orphanage. In the past coercion was used to get mothers to give away their children which shows there are times it is not good.
@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
29 Dec 07
Some of the lows about the adoption really need to be updated. Some strict control and limits- o.k, the matery is delicate and the gouverment want to prevent some crimes like trafic of babies for examples...But from other point of view if the low is more widespread and tolerant, more children will find their loving parents sooner.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
29 Dec 07
but is adoption an acceptable solution to you? Do you think it should be more widely encouraged or at all costs should kids remain with their biological parents
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
29 Dec 07
It wasnt just Ireland it happened all over the world which is sad to a point as there are a lot of people out there that dont know their parents. And beeng single and having kids today is not as bad as it was before. It is also sad that many kids are abused and killed by their parents every year and there are so many kind and nice people waiting for a child. My husband works part time as a social worker and the statistics are so bad for some kids. But many of the mothers in those cases (when child is killed or abused) dont even ever consider adoption.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
29 Dec 07
I guess you are right. In some ways it can be a really unselfish thing to do, give a kid up for adoption. The ones who want to abuse their kids are unlikely to give them up.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 May 08
I think adoption is a great thing as long as it's to a good home. I'd hate to see a kid adopted into a home that is abusive or anything. I think parents should really take a close look at how well they can care for the child and then make the best decision for the child. Even if it means adoption. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
• Canada
29 Dec 07
It is absolutely clear that some biologicals are not fit to be parents. They aren't fit period; based on some stores I have seen in the news! I know we are a people who always thinks the grass is greener on the other side but once the older adopted child learns their biological parents situation or life style I am sure they will know they were better of where they were raised. Some biological parents are perfectly fit to raise their own children but choose adoption for what ever the reason. I can imagine it was a hard decision for them to make whether it was wrong or right for them I don't' see adoption as a bad thing. One would just hope that the future would bring each the child and bio parent a good resolve and acceptance of the whole situation. Life is hard sometimes for sure!
• United States
29 Dec 07
I whole heartily agree with adoption. If someone is not able to adequately take care of their child they should be given up for adoption. One the same note the person or people who adopted the child should keep it open so that the biological parent can have contact and a relationship with the child.
@taranggg (200)
• India
29 Dec 07
yeah i agree with adoption...it helps the humanity by controlling the population.but still having one's own child is a great feeling and thats the sole reason why we are born....
• United States
29 Dec 07
Adoption should be more widespread, most definately. There are so many people with unwanted babies, or can't care for them properly, that a person in the United States shouldn't have to go abroad to get a child. I've always thought a person should look at home first before going overseas for anything, and this is no exception. I also think that Gay couples should be allowed to adopt. I've always wondered how these agencies can say that a couple is unfit just because they participate in uncommon relationship activities. What they do in the bedroom has nothing to do with how they raise a child. I think that these couples should be evaluated with the same criteria that a straight couple would be put against, and allowed to adopt if they pass. In some states gay couples are allowed to do foster care, but not adopt. This is totally backward. A gay couple is optimum to place a child for several months or years while they find a place for him, but its not okay for them to live there permanently? How does it affect the child when he is given a loving family that happens to be gay, then when he finally gets settled he is uprooted from that family because they are not allowed permanent custody. This is hurting more than it is helping.
@cosylvia (401)
• China
29 Dec 07
yes you r so kind,for me,if i have ability to adopt a child maybe i will consider about it,you know,i am single have no marriage,if i marry with another i am afraid about the thinking of my hubby,.....
• Malaysia
29 Dec 07
I definitely will not give my child up, no matter what's the reason. However, I don't think I can see myself adopting another child. Maybe it is just because of my culture. I am the only son and it is really my responsibility to carry on my family's name.