Marriage before children?

United States
December 28, 2007 7:15pm CST
Now adays more and more people are having kids out of wedlock, and more and more people are getting divorces. What is your belief do you feel that a couple should be married in order to have a child or is it ok to have a child before marriage?
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dreamy1
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Even marriage does not guarantee anything. I don't believe a couple needs to be married before having a child because as you can see these days it's not that way any more. As the first poster said as long as two people are committed to raising the child in the best circumstance that's all that matters. For myself personally I would ideally like to be married before the child comes but if it happens the other way around then so be it.
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bellaofchaos
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
29 Dec 07
well put... I honestly agree that you don't need to be married to have a child. What matters is you do the best you can for the child. I had kids out of wedlock and you think it was a scandal in my family. But I'm happy and so are my kids that is all that counts. At the end of the day you did you best.
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Sillychick
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I don't think you necessarily have to be married, but you should be in a committed, stable relationship. Raising kids is not easy, so it takes two people. It is hard work to care for a baby, and I can't imagine doing it alone. Also, there are financial considerations. Children are expensive, and having two parents makes things a lot easier and eases a lot of stress.
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bellaofchaos
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
29 Dec 07
thanks for your response. I agree that it's hard work to have kids I have five and i swear that the insanity of daily life is alot. I agree that a commited realationship would be and ideal situation. I don't think they the couple should have to get married. I am currently in a committed relationship and I'm sorta touchy about the marriage thing. I did it once and it didn't work and I don't know if I'll ever really want to do it agian. I have now been with my other half for 6 years and we have kids together and I feel it's just fine that way. If it's not broke don't fix it is my thought. Agian thank you for your response and have a nice new years.
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