Have You Ever Felt Embarassed By Someone?
By KrauseHome
@KrauseHome (36448)
United States
December 28, 2007 9:57pm CST
who says they are a Christian, and possibly along the same lines of a Christian as you are, and every time you turn around they are doing things that make people cringe, and afraid to change their life.
I deal with this issue all of the time at work. I work with a guy who says he attends Church every Wednesday and on Sunday evenings when there is Church, but I am beginning to wonder if he ever is learning anything from it. I am not trying to be judgemental here, all I am saying is a Christian should lead by their example, not constantly throwing fits, or choosing to argue when he is not getting his way. He is known to throw fits like a little kid and argue with others, including our Boss to the point we are getting tired of it. It does get old.
But anytime you try to help him, or ask him questions that should be helping, he says he knows where he is going, and if you try to show him examples of somethings he should think about as a Christian, he thinks he is OK and knows what he is doing. He even tried to tell me, without Biblical backing that he does not Celebrate Christmas and Easter, even though I always thought a Christian believed in Christian as Jesus. Just makes no sense to me, and makes me wonder what is really going on. I am getting to the point I just don't know what to do, other than avoid him, but as a Christian I know this is not right.
From others who are Christian believers, or just your opinions, what would you do if this were you? Do you think their is way I can help, or should I just let it go?
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8 responses
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Hello! I can't say that I know how you feel because it has been a long time since I worked outside the home. I am blessed to work at home as a medical transcriptionist for a local hospital so I don't deal with the public or other co-workers in the office like you have to do. I agree with you that you shouldn't avoid this gentleman but I also feel that you are correct in talking to him as you have done when the doors are opened to say something. Just keep praying for this man and hopefully and prayerfully the Lord will speak to him through your witness and example that you are setting before him. God Bless you in your efforts.
SheliaLee
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Very good suggestions and comments here. Sometimes it is a hard thing to do, especially when they are hard headed, and it seems like no matter what you say, they are too set in their ways. All we can really do is try and be examples for them, and Pray for them hoping they will set the best examples they can in time for the best.
@urbandekay (18278)
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29 Dec 07
Of course, it is difficult to comment in abstract but:
Well, I am sure Christ made a lot of people cringe! Throwing fits is one thing but what is your objection to arguing, did not Jesus argue with the pharasees? And a Christian has no boss but Jesus.
Matthew 23.10 "Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ."
Celebrating Christmas and Easter is not proscribed by scripture and Christmas has become a secular festival of greed, very anti-Christian.
all the best urban
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
29 Dec 07
You answered your own question. Lead by example, pray for him, turn the other cheek. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink it. I would try to accept him for what and who he is. Keep him in your prayers and just try to ignore the behavior as much as you can. Good luck, some so called "adults" sure can be a pain in the you know what. At least when they are your own kids you can do something.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
1 Jan 08
So well put, and if they could only wake up and realize how bad they are acting, and such, and know there is way more to live than this. Maybe one day the prayers of others will actually help make a difference for him.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
15 Jan 08
It is hard to change what you are doing. Much of what we have trouble with is what we had learned from childhood. So if someone was always yelling at you, if that is your personality, you learn to yell back. As for him not celebrating Christmas, there are some sects that believe that Christmas is just putting a Christian name on that old Roman festival of Saturnalia and that we should celebrate when Jesus was really born. And some that do not believe in Christmas trees or somethings that were taken from pagan superstitions. I cannot understand not celebrating Easter because that is celebrating OUR LORD's ressurection.
I think that actions speak louder than words. Do not get into a verbal confrontation with him. Just show him by your life and by your example and maybe it will rub off on him and also pray that his heart will be opened and he will be a Christian in fact and not in name only.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Jan 08
I must have.
I can't say why or when because I don't recall it, it would of been a thing as a child and it's hardly somewhere I go these days. I only can remember fun, happy and times that made me really feel life. no bad memories have a space in my life, so I can't really say.
~Joey
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
31 Dec 07
First of all, isn't there a saying or a song, that you will know Christians by their Love. And secondly it is stated in the Bible that there will be false prophets amongst you. As far as what you should do, I'm not sure especially since it is the work place.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I can't really add anymore than what the others have already said but do believe the biggest would be for you to set and example and make sure you don't fall into the same habits.
I do however also think I would tend to pray for this person but distance myself from them - it is people like this who give all Christians a bad name but we can't make others do or act the way we think they should.
@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I believe that you should just let this person's actions go. No matter how much help you want to give a person, that person will not change until he is ready. If he is a true believer inside, God will provide an experience that will set him in the right direction if he pays attention.
I know it's grating when a person who claims to be a Christian acts otherwise, but we must remember that God gave us free will, and he is the only one who is qualified to judge. Whenever we encounter a person such as this, we have to remember to let go, and let God.
