School going child takes her boyfriend in the room and lock the door.

@ajithlal (14569)
India
December 28, 2007 11:42pm CST
What you do with a young girl who is in 10th std locks the door with boy in her room? She is saying she is doing combined study and she wants privacy. My friend is having this problem her child came one day with her boy and introduces him as her friend and locks the door and when she locked the door she said that they were doing combined study and want privacy. She told her child not to lock the door and she began shouting at her mom. She was able to get the boy out of her voice on the first day. What should she do if her child brings him again and lock the door? Do you think she was interfering with her child's privacy? Do you think it was right for her daughter to bring a boy at her house and lock the door?
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11 responses
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Take the locks off the door. I do believe everyone needs privacy but a 15 year old girl does not need privacy with the door locked and a boy in her room. They can study just as good with the door open. Better yet I'd take the door off all together. Who does that girl think she is? She is not an adult. When she is under your friends roof she needs to obey the rule. Your friend should not allow her child to rule her house. Stop it at once.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
30 Dec 07
yep, take the door off the hinges. she only needs privacy in the bathroom and she best not be taking boys in there with her either! Though I would not let them study in the bedroom at all. she wants privacy? she can keep her room private from boys!
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
4 Nov 12
I also think that this is not good and probably something should be done.
• India
29 Dec 07
kick the daughter until she knows her mistake. her mom gave her over privacy.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
10 Sep 12
I think it is not good to give such freedom for school girls.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
24 Nov 12
I think now a days the girls especially young girls are getting more bold than girls that were before and sometimes they misuse their freedom they get. I do believe only some girls are like this and others are very good and loving and caring ones.
@luluwow (165)
• United States
30 Dec 07
very simple solution... remove the lock from the childs door at once. If the attitude persists... no friends over until it improves, end of story.
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
28 Sep 12
I think it is a good idea to remove the lock from the door.
• India
29 Dec 07
Well its bad that the children are not understanding their parents now a days.Its only for their own good that they scold their children.And its certainly saddening to see this trend now-a-days But certain things that cant to taught by scolding has to treated with love.I can understand from your anme that you are an Indian and I have lived teir and I know your wonderful and traditional culture.So it comes as a shock to me. I would ask your friend to talk with the daughter and sort out he problems .Best of luck
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@ajithlal (14569)
• India
29 Dec 07
I am Indian. We have some good and nice traditional culture. I think it is the media like television and movies that are changing some children now a days to some extend.
@dinxcarin (595)
• Singapore
29 Dec 07
I don't know what have become to our new generation today. Mom should talk it out with her daughter and not bang at her. Children needs a lot of attention and caring. If there's one thing that we want to impart on them...a good talk is a good way. Yelling at each other won't do any good. It will only cause a rebellion.
@ajithlal (14569)
• India
29 Dec 07
I also sometimes worry what is happening to the new generations. Some of the children now a days rebels a lot forgetting that it is their parents who took care of them and will be there for them for every problem they face. I think some of them takes more freedom. May be they are seeking for more attention and caring.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
30 Dec 07
I would not permit that at all. they have no business being together privately for ANY type of studying. I would not let them in her bedroom with the door open, let alone closed or locked! why be an accessory to tempting them to sins. It is simply not appropriate. And her mouthing back is not respectful and very shameful. She has no business with a boyfriend when she can not even be mature enough to treat her parent with dignity.
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@suehan1 (4355)
• Australia
30 Dec 07
my daughter has learnt that this is my house and you abide by the rules.when i was young i would have never been allowed even to go into my room with a boy.my father would have skinned me alive.this mother did the right thing,she is the mother and really is protecting her child from goodness knows what.i would be having a talk to the girl and laying down the law.if you want to study with a boy ,there is the kitchen table,no bedroom,if you don't like it,bad luck.cheers sue
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@cosylvia (401)
• China
30 Dec 07
i dont know what happend,she is only 10th year,i think she is innocent,she is only ten.maybe you r so sensitivity at a stage of adult.dong yelling at them,although they just a child but have the strong amour-propre.so a good communication is a good solvation way
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• United States
30 Dec 07
Kids are Difrespectful these days because they think they can do what they want. One Time I yelled at my grandfather and he gave a shove into a closest door. I never yelled at him again. My mother used to have a plastic jump-rope. So i tried not to do anything bad because that thing really hurt!!!
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• United States
29 Dec 07
It is the mother's house, and the minor doesn't have this freedom of privacy. The daughter shouldn't have yelled at the mom. As I was in 10th grade only 2 years ago, I think it would be really odd if they really were being completely innocent. That girl needs to learn some respect.
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@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
3 Nov 12
Where this happened, is it india? A girl in class 10th means 15 years young, not a CHILD any more; huh Seems her parents gave her over liberty, i don't like this. Thanks for sharing.