Do you want to Recover??

United States
December 29, 2007 3:54am CST
This is a difficult and personal question that each addict and co-dependent must ask themselves. If the addict wants to continue denying or/and practicing the addiction, the co-dependent has to also answer the additional question of: Do you want to recover alone and by yourself for yourself? Once you are willing to recover you are ready to move forward. You will be ready to take the next step. So think on this question and then tell yourself the answer. You do not need to tell us the answer here in this forum. Do you agree that this is a difficult question to answer?
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14 Jan 08
It's not really difficult. I'm sure it's down to whatever is best for that person, most people cannot make it by will alone and need support from family and friends. Most people remain "addicted" because they don't get the help they need, for me this is simple. You need a strong will, support and a lot of help. The hardest questions is why put yourself though it in the first place? ~Joey
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• United States
14 Jan 08
Joey, I don't think we put ourselves through on purpose. But when we realize we have, then we have choices to make. Stay in the mess or get out. I agree it does require a strong will, desire, and support of others.
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• United States
26 Aug 08
I don't mind helping someone who wants the help. I also know I have to be responsible for myself. I have to help me first or I will be of no good to anyone else. Dealing with someone else's addiction can sap all of my energy very quickly. It can also mess up my own recovery. I have to be aware and careful or I can be taken down by the problems of others.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Sorry it took a while to get here and answer.. with the new house I have no computer at home yet and other "messes" I do think it is a difficult question to answer, because many of us don't realize we have a problem. Seeing as I am not the one with the addiction, it is easy for me to say "what recovery, I'm fine" But we do need to recover, for ourselves. To be able to move on in our lives.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
I think this question is the first one we have to ask ourselves. Once we have decided that we do need to make a change of some kind then we can move on to the next step(s).