What would you do if your spouse or partner walks out on you?

United States
December 31, 2007 5:21am CST
What if you had a spouse or partner that walked out on you after three years? You put all your effort in making your relationship last but everything you do is not right and you guys fight all the time...what if out of no where the person up and walks away and not even call but just a note saying bye bye and thank you for the ride...my trip with you has come to an end...what would you do?
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• United States
31 Dec 07
This has just happened to me and we have 3 kids and one on the way. I thought I would be okay at first, but I have to admit that I find myself lonely most of the time. For you I would just find some good friends to hangout with. Try to keep as busy as you possibly can. The busier you keep yourself the less you will think about your ex.
• United States
1 Jan 08
I am sorry to hear that. I hope that you have alot of friends and family around to help you out. I hope that never happens to me and my family. I hope that your ex at least stays in contact with your kids.
• United States
1 Jan 08
Oh dear, I hope the same thing...that you have lots of love ones around you to help you get through this hard time...
• United States
1 Jan 08
Well me and my wife are constantly fighting and it seems that nothing I do is right. I am not sure what I would do if my wife decided to go. We have 3 kids ages 6,8 and 9 and it would be very hard for me. I would have to get help from my parents and other people that I know.
• United States
1 Jan 08
Yeah I would say ...not just hard on you but the worst thing is that the kids will be hurt deeper than any of you would...What I would suggest...my own two cents...is that you fell in love with her for some reason back in the days well dig deep in your heart and remember those time and try romancing her again and sometimes just say sorry be the bigger person even if your not at fault just say sorry...let her speak her mind and listen...when she is wrong don't point it out and make her more angry rather let it go...life is easier that way...me and my hubby use to be at it too then we realized something...we love each other and that means more than winning fights or arguments...so when I am wrong he tells me sorry or sometimes I do the same thing because I realize he is forgiving so I return his favors...it has been working for us...forgive move on ...when it gets too heated up leave the room or house then come back with a calm head and say sorry I love you...try it it work for us...maybe it will work for you...if not what do you have to loose...
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
31 Dec 07
I would be really upset at first, but then i would slowly come to the realization that if they were just ready to up and leave just like that, they were wasting my time the entire time anyawys,and ishould be GLAD to be rid of them There and now! Besides, for myself anyways, i would rather be alone then have someone always fighting with me over everything, and having me think that nothing i do was ever good enough! SCREWTHEM! your better off without :)
• United States
1 Jan 08
Yup I totally agree with you I would rather live a lonely life alone than rather stay with someone who fights and cheats on me...life is short don't need to live it like I was living in hell...there are plenty of men in the world don't need someone bad when there are plenty good ones out there...
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
31 Dec 07
In the first place i will never cry because of love, and its is my principles of life, that i would anybody to insult me even my hubby. as you said you try to handle all the conciquencs about raltionship, but if he really do that way, then i am greatfull, that kind of man is very irresponsible ( not the right person)
• United States
1 Jan 08
Yeah it's best that that kind of person not be apart of your life...so that you can move on and make room for a better man to come into your life...if the bad and the old does not go then the new and better can not come in...
• China
31 Dec 07
wish god bless them happy. I think when you love your spouse and she/he love you too.you can be together.but one day your spouse don't love you and want to leave you. you should let he/she go.love is in each other.
• United States
1 Jan 08
To be together in the first place take some kind of a bond right...I would assume that at one time they were in love I would try to figure out what happen. What or why did they fall apart or out of love and go from there...sometimes there is no way of fixing it...Like a broken mirror once broken can't be fix to be the way it use to be again....
31 Dec 07
I would be quite upset at first as it was such a sudden departure. And such an impersonal note after 3 years seems really quite hurtful. Yet if things really weren't working out and we were fighting all the time then I guess in a way I would be quite relieved that it had all ended. I suppose I would take some time out to myself to readjust to the situation and reflect on what brought me to this point as even though it seems as though there was no warning there were probably signs that were overlooked at the time. I would remember that if I had tried my hardest to work things out and this was the result then I should be grateful that I didn't wait another 3 years for them to leave me. I would cherish the good times and put the bad times aside and move on. I would definately have loads of ME time and catch up with friends and activities I missed out on.
• United States
1 Jan 08
that is the best thing to do...keeping busy and hanging out with friends and love ones...try to keep yourself busy emotionally as well as physically....