Should I wait until she is 3 months along before buying stuff for the baby?

United States
December 31, 2007 10:15am CST
My daughter-in-law is 7 weeks pregnant and I can't wait to start buying stuff for the baby. Do you believe it's bad luck to buy stuff before the first 3 months are up?
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@babykeka80 (2003)
• United States
1 Jan 08
Unfortunate events just happen. I would wait for at least the first 3mos. I am almost 6mos prego now and still get concerned. If you find some must have stuff that you just cant resist buy it and keep it at home. You dont want her to have to see that stuff if something should happen. Is this your first grandbaby? Congrats and good luck.
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• United States
1 Jan 08
Six months....wow.....congrats!! No this is my second grandchild but, when my daughter was pregnant, she didn't tell me until she was almost 5 months along. She was afraid I would worry too much about her health because she has chrones disease.
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• United States
1 Jan 08
Ahhh. Well that was a good thing and bad thing all in one. Good thing is that she cared enough to not make you worry bad because you didnt get to enjoy the whole pregnancy.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
31 Dec 07
Common sense says no. Mother Nature has no idea if anyone is buying things for the baby. But I do understand where you're coming from. It just feels like getting too excited and buying stuff could junx things. I think really though if you want to do it then go ahead, just keep them at your house "just in case". It won't be easy on you to see those things should something happen but better you than your daughter in law. Just stick with the basics for now though, baby shopping is MUCH more fun when you know if you shoould buy pink or blue!
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
31 Dec 07
I love the diaper idea mentioned above! They get so expensive and you could start with the smaller sizes and add to your "stash" as the pregnancy progresses. Like 2 or 3 newborns at the most, then some size 1's and 2's...after that it's tricky since you can't predict how fast the baby will grow. My very youngest is still in size 3's at 13 1/2 months but my second youngest was already in 5's at the same age.
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• United States
1 Jan 08
Thanks for the advice. Yeup, I ended up with 23 huge boxes (bought at Sam's club) of diapers for my grandson when he was born. My daughter was so dumbfounded to see so many! She had been worrying about the cost of diapers the whole time she was pregnant and I kept teasing her saying I was going to buy cloth ones for her. LOL
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@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
31 Dec 07
You can buy stuff at any time but I would wait till she is in the third trimester before buying and when you do buy only unisex items. Waiting is good because God forbid something should happen, she will have your gift as a reminder, you know so just do it when there is little chance of anything happening. I hope and pray for a healthy baby God Bless!
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• United States
31 Dec 07
True. I could buy diapers and stuff like that and keep it here and then if something does happen, I could donate it to a family in need.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
Yep you could buy diapers and she would be so happy. Because those things cost mega amounts of money.
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I couldn't wait to buy stuff when my son announced his partner was expecting. I just put the stuff away until she was further along. If something had gone wrong I wouldn't have wanted her to have to deal with baby stuff while grieving a loss; but I couldn't stop myself from buying stuff. My granddaughter just had her 1st birthday, so we didn't 'jinx' anything by buying early.
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• United States
7 Jan 08
I think you are right. I will start buying stuff and holding on to it until they are ready to receive gifts.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
3 Jan 08
I am a grandma of four,I never waited as soon as I was told I started buying things and putting them up, then I had a really nice gift for the babyshower also I started a piggy bank for each one that I put all my change in for the whole pregency and gave that as a coming home from the hospital present it added up to quite a bit and diapers and formula is not cheap so that helped out.Is this your first? There is nothing like being a grandma its amazing. Congraulations!
• United States
3 Jan 08
No this is my second grandchild but, when my daughter was pregnant, she didn't tell me until she was almost 5 months along. She was afraid I would worry too much about her health because she has chrones disease. This will be my son's first baby. He is 28 and he has wanted a baby since he was about 16. LOL
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@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
2 Jan 08
We grandmothers have different rules than others. We buy what we want, when we want and how ever much we want for our grand children!!!! Just buy whatever you want, and if you want to wait to give, you can. Or just give her sometihnge very time you see her, or just collect for a really nice shower gift. And remember a shower gift, and a gift at the hospital after the birth and a gift for the home coming and a gift for the first time you get to babysit and a gift for the first time you have to tell the baby good bye..........
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• United States
7 Jan 08
Too funny! You are right, I should have different rules!
@drannhh (15241)
• United States
1 Jan 08
That is a really interesting question. I would think it is ok to buy the stuff, but I would keep it hidden from and not tell d-in-law until the shower. Call me superstitious if you want to, but yes, there might be a bit of bad luck in the telling. Silly me.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
They don't want to have a shower. Neither of them want to know what the baby is until, as my son says, it pops out. LOL I like that idea because I got surprised with both of mine and it was great. Anyway, I think I have them talked into having a recieving shower when the baby comes home. You are right, I'm going to get stuff and just hide it and not tell them about it until the baby comes.
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
31 Dec 07
I don't know that it is bad luck, but I think that is the way that people generally do it anymore. I know with both of my kids I did not wait to buy stuff, but for another person I would probably wait.
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• United States
31 Dec 07
I appreciate your answer. Maybe I could just buy some stuff and keep it here until it gets closer to time or something.
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• Indonesia
1 Jan 08
Hmmm... You can buy anything at anytime. And I believe you really know what you want and have to buy (unisex items). The problem is, "is it a bad luck". If you doubt to do what you want because of the telling, so don't buy, just wait. Because, if you start to belive the myth it will come true. You have to believe that what you do is because you're very excited, love your d-in-law, and will be very GOOD thing for your grandchild--nothing bad will happen. Trust me. Happening is what you believe. hahaha... cause I was there, thought about bad luck and everything negatif, and it happened. well, it's just me. And I hope your family will be happy for the ... (how should I say it?).. mmm... for the gift-moment from GOD. (pregnancy) C u around, ggf.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
Believe me. I am VERY happy about this little gift from God. When they came to tell me, I couldn't stop crying and rubbing her little belly and talking to it.
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• Indonesia
5 Jan 08
I believe you are. The baby will give you the best smile for you... Congrat'!
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@nichole1983 (1187)
• Canada
9 Jan 08
I would wait to buy stuff for the baby. You never know what is going to happen. Congrats on becoming a grandma. I really do hope that your daughter in law has a good and healthy pregnancy. I don't want to be negative but things happen that we can't prevent. My first daughter we waited till I was 5 months pregnant. At least we were pretty much out of the clear. My second daughter it was as well 5 months. I knew with having my second child I had a very high risk pregnancy. The doctor put me on bed rest as soon as we found out that I was pregnant and didn't want me to do anything around due to the circumstances. He said if I coughed funny or sneezed the wrong way we were going in. Which that was something I had to go with. But anyway you have fun shopping for that little one. I know I had lots of fun in the baby section. :)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Thanks for the advice nichole. I think I'll just buy stuff like diapers and keep it here at the house. That way, I can donate it if something happens.