My boyfriend has high blood pressure & wont take meds

@mrsjbelle (1641)
United States
January 1, 2008 12:50pm CST
He has EXTREMELY high blood pressure. He was in intensive care for a week after having a minor stroke. (He is in his early 40's)He was good and took the meds for a few months and then started his old habits of not taking them. They are very expensive because his pharmacy plan is not a good one he has to send away for the meds if he buys at the pharmacy he has to pay full price which is what he always ended up doing. He also hates his Dr and I have told him about mine but he is not interested. But I am so worried about him. I try not to nag him but when I mention it I tell him it is only because I love him. If he were to have a massive stroke and pass tomorrow I would feel guilty like I didnt do enough but he is grown? Please help me with your opinions. What would you do if this was your loved one? Thank you.
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11 responses
@youless (83596)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Jan 08
I think sometimes men are very stubborn. You need to be patient and find a good chance to tell him your concernt. Perhaps you ask him what he wants from you. For example, if he prefers you to have long hair, then you will keep long hair for him. And it's a deal that he will go to see the doctor and take the medicine on time.
@dfollin (11989)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Yes men are stubborn about alot of stuff.Especially about following doctors orders.Believe me I know,my husband was sick and wouldn't only take the meds he was supposed to instead he took many pain killers for the pain in his back,that made his liver worse.Plus I have a friend,that's husband has high blood pressure also and he won't take his meds.He won't listen.
@dfollin (11989)
• United States
2 Jan 08
And also doctors are the worse patients.They,especially the male ones,tell us to do this,take this med etc.But if they were in that position they wouldn't follow dirrections themselves.
1 Jan 08
Does he likes sports? if he does, buy him a subscription to a course of a sport that can help him or to a yoga course (it does help); if he is more into sitting on the couch, there is a gadget called RESPeRATE sold also at Amazon, it is a bit costly, but it seems it works well - part of the high blood pressure is due to the way our body reacts to the stressful environment, as a way to adjust; if he likes to read, fish out the 'alternative' techniques books to lower your blood pressure in a few weeks, still plenty at Amazon, look for the RESPeRATE and you'll find plenty listed at the bottom
@dfollin (11989)
• United States
1 Jan 08
I have high blood pressure,but it is not very high when Iam taking meds.Stress causes alot of cases of high blood pressure.But,she did say he has really a high count,it could not just be from stress.Yes I think he should try these things,shoot Iam thanks for telling me about them.He should take meds too.Maybe it will someday get down low enough that he can just the Resperate.Sounds like a cool gadget.I will have to check out how much it costs.I don't have much money,so right now all I've been able to do is buy an oil burner and some oils that will help stress,get some candles that help with stress.Use lavender,shampoo,soap,room spray,candles,essential oil and linen spray.They do say that exercise help's,but I have so many other handicaping physical issues that I cannot do yoga.But,I hope that it does help your boyfriend.Sounds great as well as that gadget.
• Philippines
2 Jan 08
try to talk to his mother to do the sermon of taking meds for him.It sometimes work.That is what i do.Men doesnt want to be told what to do.Read Men are from Mars,Women from Venus.Abstract can be read at www.shvoong.com
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• United States
2 Jan 08
My husband suffers from High blood pressure also he takes his meds and he also eats healthy foods that help lower it. Also make sure he doesn't get so upset this will make it go up. If he can cut out the caffeine that will also help a lot. The best thing for him to do is to take his meds.
• United States
1 Jan 08
Men do not like to listen to use, when it comes to their health. Keep onbugging him, share your concerns with his parents and close friends, get them to bug him. Eventually he is going to have to give in and take them. Never feel guilty you are trying and that is all that matters, you can't force him, so nothing would be your fault. Best of luck. Jess
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@besthope44 (12146)
• India
24 Oct 10
I use to manage hypertension, listening musiq, playing violen and i like chocolates, and i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle hypertension.
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
hello, your boyfriend can try drinking malunggay or "moringa" (in English) herb tea everyday and there is a possibility that it might help lower or normalize his BP (blood pressure). Having a high BP can affect some vital organs of the body like the heart, kidney, liver, etc. etc. and it is not a very nice thing. The malunggay tea is not expensive but is a powerful supplement, a relaxing drink and a healthful material. If you have an email address please email me at alex_delfin28@yahoo.com.
• United States
16 Jan 08
tell him how much you care about Him and how worried you are. that you dont want to see him have a major stoke that will change his life forever.he needs to take his meds . the next scare could be his last, i will be praying he will start seeing that he needs this and he will start taking them
• United States
2 Jan 08
I can relate with you about this. My husband is much younger than your boyfriend but it seems men have the same maturity level when it comes to taking medicine. My husband is on blood pressure medicine and he used to fuss all of the time and lie about taking it. He also hated his doctor and his medical plan. Eventually I explained to him how much he was actually hurting me as well because I was scared of losing him. In the end, he went to my doctor just to see if he would like him and the doc put him on a different medication that was cheaper.
• Canada
2 Jan 08
Your boyfriend is in denial about his health condition, and refusing to take his meds is one way of rebelling. People who have life threatening conditions like your boyfriend often find it hard to accept that their health is compromised, and like kids, they act out. Guys find it especially difficult, I think, because they are expected to be strong and be "all there" for their loved ones. I think it is very touching that you are so concerned for him, and that you love him enough to "nag" him. It is not really nagging, I believe, as it is a genuine concern on your part for him to stay alive! I had a stroke in 2006. Stress caused my blood glucose to spike up, which caused my blood pressure to go really way up, which triggered the stroke. I was in the hospital for two weeks, and released when I rebelled against staying the two months I was told to stay put in the hospital. I had to sign waivers to get out, but still, I was given a lot of prescriptions, among them diuretics and other blood pressure meds, ostensibly to keep my health conditions in line. The meds were NOT cheap, and even with my health benefits plan from Century 21, I still had to fork out 20 percent of the cost. The worst thing was, the side effects affected me horribly. I was constantly dizzy, had pains in my abdomen, and became dehydrated from the chronic diarrhea brought on by my meds. It was so bad I decided to check if there were natural ways to bring down blood sugar and blood pressure. I found several sources, both online and in printed materials, and I started my own regimen to regain my health. I know that myLot has a policy against allowing natural cures in posts, in order to avoid violating FDA guidelines, but if you send me a friend request and send me a PM, I will tell you what I have been doing to keep my blood pressure under control. My blood pressure is now at a constant 120/70, and my blood sugar is at 7. The best thing I have found is that I eat healthy, normal food and my taste buds have not suffered. Food and natural teas also cost less than meds, so I end up saving more than just my health, LOL!!! Good luck with your efforts to keep your boyfriend's health stable. Tell him that him dying from pigheadedness is not a pleasant way for you or other loved ones to remember him, hahahaha!!! I hope the new year brings you and yours the blessings of health and prosperity.
@baileym11 (889)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I think all you can do is make sure he is educated, and let him do as he sees fit. I know this is hard, but he is an adult who must make his own choices.