Fighting Siblings

@worldwise1 (14890)
United States
January 2, 2008 11:59am CST
I was thinking about a news item I heard the other day. It concerned the tragic outcome of a situation where a brother who was trying to prevent his brother from shooting some other people had the gun turned on him, resulting in his own death. I have had disagreements with my sisters over the years that were moderate in nature. I could never, in my wildest imagination, do anything that would result in ending the life of one of my siblings. I have seen siblings fight in such a manner as to suggest that they have nothing but hatred for one another. I've never been able to understand this. Have you ever had such a violent relastionship with a sibling? Do you know of a family where such a relationship between siblings exists? To me, family is sacred. We may not always agree, but there should be a line that is never crossed. I couldn't live with myself knowing that I had ended the life of a sibling.
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
3 Jan 08
I should be hanging my head in shame right about now. My oldest brother and I had a rough relationship growing up...he's 4 years older than me so he bullied me alot. When he was in his teens he used me for target practice to learn to throw knifes like they do in the carnivals...I still have the star in my arm where he missed. Not long after that I set fire to his bed while he was sleeping in it. He wasn't hurt but he did learn to sleep with his door locked :) There were numerous incidents...he chased me out a window of our 2nd floor apartment where I clung to a drain pipe over a concrete driveway till my mom came home and I used to purposely stick thumbtacks point side up in his carpeting for his happiness. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Isn't it great, twoey, that most people who had this kind of relationship with a sibling grew out of it? There are those who never grow out of it theough-and they are the ones who end up seriously harming or killing their sibling.
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
3 Jan 08
My sister and I do not get along. I would never harm her, permanently. We argue and fight verbally, but nothing too major. We don't have the same world views and right now we can't even agree to disagree.
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@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I understand the situation very well, Aurone. I only have one sister left and a brother. None of us are really close. I don't know how to change things, but I think we love each other.
• United States
3 Jan 08
I have a great relationship with my sister.We love and respect each other.But it seems there are families out there where there's isn't any love or respect between the siblings. That is sad.When you lose your parents, usually they will die before you and your siblings,you are all you have.
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@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
4 Jan 08
It's too bad, sarah, that more people don't realize that fact. You and your sister are very fortunate to have such a loving relationship.
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@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
2 Jan 08
i feel so sad when i read your post... it is tragic, isn't it??? i have disagreement with my brothers in the past but we never resolve to physical stuffs... my parents will be very upset and dissapointed if we do that... they always tell us that a sibling relationship is like part of your body... when one part of your body is hurt, your whole body will feel the pain as well... so they always tell us to maintain a good relationship among us...
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@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Your parents sound like wonderful people, lingli. A lot of the problems in family relationships that are happening now, I believe, stem from the fact that siblings are not being taught that love for each other.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I would never have this kind of encounter with anyone, at least I never have and never hope to. I don't understand family problems like this. I think this much hatred stems from a lack of love for ones self. This is pretty desolate as far as actions and relationships go within a family. Emotions can go to extremes.
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@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Most families have members that can be exasperating at times, sigma, but everyone should be able to maintain control over their emotions and not let it get to the point of killing one another.
@mummymo (23709)
24 Jan 08
How tragic this is! I have had ups and downs with my siblings, some more than others but none has ever resulted in violence! I love my family even if I sometimes don't always like them all and I just cannot imagine fighting with them and things being so bitter. xxx