OMG...Weddings are expensive!

United States
January 3, 2008 8:09am CST
Okay so my husband and I are having our actual ceremony in June. We got married early for personal reasons, but are still planning an actual wedding because most people dont know we are married yet. I was calling around for tent,table, and chair rentals and just for them its like 1100 dollars! Holy crap! It doesnt help that Im getting married in the prime wedding and graduation season. Does anyone have any ideas on how to keep a wedding cheap? Its not going to be anything spectacular...I wanted simple and pretty..Any ideas are most appreciated! :)
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• United States
3 Jan 08
My sister got married for less than a thousand dollars. A friend of hers made the cakes as a wedding present in lieu of a gift. If you have someone who is kitchen inclined, instead of a gift, have them bake you a cake. My sister's bride cake turned out wonderful. It was 3 layers. Or if it comes down to it, Kroger and Wal-Mart make terrific sheet cakes for about $15 each. You can get the bakery employees to write something wedding like on the cake and I doubt anyone will care if it's not a 3 layered tier cake with fake roses and silk draping over it. Can you borrow the chairs from a church or a school? We had borrowed chairs from a local school my sister's friend taught at plus chairs from their church for the reception/wedding. All in all, there were about 70 chairs set out for guests. If you're worried about paying rent to a church, consider getting married outdoors or maybe at your home or a parent's/friend's house. My sister's wedding was at her inlaws house in the backyard. The inlaws got a pool fountain that sprayed water up in the air, plus put floating candles in the pool and got some tiki torches for ambient lighting. Have friends and family take photographs. Those little disposable cameras can be bought *cheaply* on eBay in bulk of 20-50 or more for little to no money. Everyone has gone digital so it's easy to get those cameras cheap. Have some out on the tables and give more to your friends/family and have everyone take photographs from their POV. It makes for a great photo album and you get shots that you or a professional photographer would not have thought to get. Professionals are focused on the bride/groom and the wedding party. Rarely do they focus on the "innocent" moments such as a child reaching up to touch the wedding cake or a nosy guest shaking the presents. Go to a second hand thrift store for your wedding dress or shop online on eBay or browse the newspapers for sales on dresses. At least here, the wedding shops such as David's Bridal runs specials every now and again with select dresses under $100. Or you can go to JC Penny's or Macy's and find a nice, white gown there for next to nothing. My sister got hers through David's Bridal. It was a returned dress that didn't fit right and it fit my sister perfect. The dress was originally $500 and my sister got hers for about $100. Congrats on the wedding (again) and good luck!
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• United States
3 Jan 08
The thousand included their honeymoon suite BTW as well. They paid for that themselves.
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• United States
4 Jan 08
Wow! I wish I could do this for 1000 that includes a honeymoon..lol...That would be spectacular! We are having the wedding outside at my Mother's house. They have a huge yard thats landscaped. The problem really lays with the tent, table, and chair rentals. I picked a date that is right in the middle of graduation open house season and wedding season. So Im waiting to hear back..LOL. I should have done the reservations like a month ago, but everyone kept telling me that I had time..What a joke! There is no time! I wanted to get through the Holidays before worrying about wedding things, but I think that made it worse. I am buying my dress from David's bridal online. Its only running me 200 for it. Its very simple and just what I wanted. I am saving on catering because my Mom's best friend is from the South and happens to be the most divine cook! We are doing a hog Roast/ pig pickin if your from the south. I figure we live in the stix so we can get away with that. Also instead of spending a load on lighting I bought massive amounts of clear christmas lights that were on sale after xmas. Im going to run them aroung the tent and on the fencing. I have never dont this before so who knows How it will turn out! :) I will ask around about the cake idea and see if anyone is handy in the kitchen. I can cook and bake, but cakes are definitley not my specialty. Thanks for all of your ideas.. I will keep them in mind for sure! :)
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• United States
4 Jan 08
Yes I am from the south and I know what that is. =)
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@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
3 Jan 08
I don't really know. We had our reception as a dinner, no dancing, and at a restaurant, which really cut costs down, because we didn't have to rent any equipment or hire anyone. We booked one floor of the place, and used their group rates menu, which was really good - there was so much food. (it actually worked really well for the kids, too, because the restaurant had crayons, cute cups, and kids' menus for them, and they didn't even charge for the kids' food.)
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• United States
4 Jan 08
I almost wish we had gone that route and just booked a floor somewhere. If the number of people that we had originally planned on had stayed that low it would have been ideal. However my small wedding quickly turned into a monster thanks to the Mothers. I love how its your wedding and they want to invite all of their friends...Blahhhh. Well cross your fingers for me that I dont go nuts! :)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
Oh, I know what you mean. My MIL thought that since she had less relatives coming, she should get to invite more of her friends. As in, people neither I nor my husband had met. We compromised: she invited those friends that we had heard her speak of prior to the wedding. My dad wanted to invite his cousins, because my mom's cousins were invited. We really should have invited more of my sorority and Dh's fraternity. (As in, we saw a bunch of them a couple of weeks later at another wedding, and I think some of them felt badly that they weren't invited). It can go on, and on. But most people will understand if you explain that you have a large family, or that you wanted a small wedding.
• United States
6 Jan 08
Yeah I finally told my MIL and my Mom that if they were going to invite their friends they were going to help pay. Im not paying for their friends that I dont know to come to MY wedding..LOL...My day My rules right...especially when we are the ones paying for it! Now if they were paying for it I wouldnt care, but thats not the situation.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
seriously, if i had to do it again, i would so elope! but ya i know thats not going to help you! try and make favours if you can, get cozy with a church, some will let you borrow their chairs, see if you can get married on someone's (that you know) property??!!
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• United States
4 Jan 08
LOL....Yeah I wish we had just gone to Vegas, but we both wanted to have our friends and family share our day with us..LOL...Soo regreting that decision now! :)
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Flowers - Use silk and make the arangements your self. Its really not that hard. Silk flowers are less expensive and you can do them way a head of time. Decorations - Use your silk flowers for center peices. Go to wal mart and get some twin size sheets cut them in strips and lay them down the middle of the table it will dress it up and not cost too much. Favors - Go to orientialtradingclub.com they have tuns of favors really cheap. Or make some thing your self. We made napkin holders for each set of silver ware and that was our favor. It was perfect because it was a decoration and a favor. Food - If you are going to do a sit down dinner Chicken is the least expensive. You could do chicken salad and rice for pretty cheap. And if you have family that would cook for you even better. I went to one wedding where they did "a taste of pasta" they had like 6 different pastas and 4 sauces. You picked what you wanted. That along with salad (and a pasta salad) and bread. The bride a very good friend of mine said it was really cheap to do it. Dress - Remember you are only going to wear it once so no need to spend a lot on it. Think location if you have a beach wedding you could find a dress anywhere it could even be a pale color. If you have a back yard wedding you could have a simple sleek dress. Now if I had to do it all again I would do things very unconvential. Jeans and a white tee of course a pair of white heels lol. I would have it in my back yard. And for decorations I would have buckets of ice and Budweiser on the table with a couple roses sticking out. I would carry 1 flower down the isle. There would be fried chicken potato salad and coleslaw to eat. (kcf could cater) Remember the wedding is for friends and family the only part that is truly for you ... is the part where you say I DO! Good luck and CONGRATS!
• United States
4 Jan 08
I like the buckets full of budweiser idea! LOL...And if I could get away with having it like that I would, but still do the dress! I appreciate the advice! And I never thought about the sheet thing...I was actually looking for the cheap vinyle table covers...the real this stuff that doesnt cost a lot...But I cant find it anywhere...This can only get better right?
@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
8 Jan 08
It will get harder then easier. Just remember on your wedding day, Its all you. Don't let any thing bother you whats going to happen will happen and in the end it truly will be perfect no matter what!
@zhwbeast (328)
• China
11 Jan 08
The cost of wedding in my country also is very high fot the youngers. If one couple planned to marry,they maybe strunggle for the house,car and so on.The price of the house is so high that a common person should spend about 20 years or more to earn it. For me,20 years is not enough for me just by my recent job.IN my country,we just have two part:the poor and the wealthy one.The house is just fot the second part and the price of the house is also increasing without break.
• United States
11 Jan 08
Thanks for your reply! :)