How overwhelming it can be,being a mum!

January 4, 2008 2:09pm CST
In a previous discussion i talked about how bemused i was by peoples reaction to me expecting my 4th...as my ever raging hormones go off on tandem i have something else to get off my chest. Today my 5 year old who is painfully shy had a pencil sharpener in his coat pocket that he had taken yesterday from a prep table at school,the teaching assistant who the sharpener belonged to happened to spot it in his hand this morning...basically came and implied he is a thief and a liar(apparently she had asked each class had they seen it)... She was very curt with him in front of everyone...i on the other hand had to restrain myself! You see i myself am indeed a teaching assistant and i certainly would not of dealt with the situation in such a way. I have spoken to my son about how he is not to take anything from somewhere unless it has been given to him. I astound myself with the protection that i feel for my children and sometimes i have to question whether i am being overprotective or am i right in how i feel? How do you get the balance right? I dont want to become the parent that the school dread seeing coming into the school office!!!
3 responses
@shymurl (2768)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I am a mother of three. You did the right thing. I talk with my children about right and wrong all the time. Sometimes before it happens and sometimes after. You can't get the balance right. Nobodies perfect. We learned from our mistakes so we can help our children. But in the long run they have to learn from there mistakes as well. It was wrong for the teacher to address the situation like that. And the teacher as well as the principle needs to be aware of this. If you're the parent that the school dreads seeing in the office then so be it. If only shows that you care. Now a days there is a lot of parents who don't care. So keep doing what you are doing. Where we live they still have corporal punishment (paddeling) in the school. I signed the form to not allow that, cause I feel that if my child does something wrong to get a paddeling than I NEED to be notified.
4 Jan 08
Yes i know i need to let the teaching assistant know that how she dealt with it was not appropriate.A child will never learn anything if you intimidate them!Thankfully he seems ok this evening and hopefully has taken on board what has been told to him. I would never allow permission for paddeling a child of mine,i would want to be the one responsible for my childs behaviour. In the past i have seriously considered home schooling as you hand your children over to the school but is your child being treated as an individual,being nurtured and having the foundations laid correctly? Its an awful big responsibility that we place on others shoulders.
@shymurl (2768)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I have thought about home schooling as well. but than i think about my kids socializing with others. There is so many pros and cons to choices and decisions you have. Its hard. You are not the only one who feels that way. My oldest is 10 now and he's alway asking me what he should do about certain things. I have to step back and ask him to think about it. "If you do it this way what will happen? Or that way what will happen?" It helps him if he thinks it through. but i'm there to help if he makes the wrong choice. I know I can't be there forever. They grow so very fast.
@dania_elm (422)
• United States
5 Jan 08
i am the parent that the school dreads to see they have threatened to call the cops on me i feel u have every right to be angry at the situation yes your child was wrong for doing that but that was something u 2 took care of the school had absolutely no right to say anything in front of anyone about it u said nothing wich was probably the smartest thing to do me on the other hand i would of informed the school that i didnt appreciate them puttin a label on my child most kids do stuff like that but now he has the possibility of being labeled a thief and a liar by his peers and i most definately would of threated them with my atty.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
when my kids where younger, i volunteered a lot and i think that is what makes a parent loved by a school, then it is much easier to voice your opinion because you have an actual hand on how the school is run!