How did you react....

@dpk262006 (55822)
Delhi, India
January 5, 2008 3:24am CST
when someone first time addressed you 'Aunty' or 'Uncle'...specially when...you were quite young and did not deserve to be addressed as 'Aunty' or 'Uncle'. I feel even middle aged persons do not like to be addressed as 'Aunty' or 'Uncle'. Please share your experiences with me. Thanks in advance.
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
5 Jan 08
Well, frankly I wasn't fazed. I come from a huge family and we have people ranging widely in age and all of different generations. A cousin of mine had her baby a couple of months after I was born. So, I was practically born an aunty! Since I was used to being called an 'aunty' from a young age, I was never surprised when someone else called me. But to be frank, I don't look my age and even when I was married, I looked like someone out of college...so I didn't really have too many kids calling me aunty (who should have been...lol). Even when my older son was around 5, I've had people mistaking me for a college student! My son has an 'uncle' who is just 10 months older than he is! He calls him 'uncle' and his aunty is 4 years younger than he is!!!
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
9 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing your experiences...so you were born as aunty....... Can you recall when after your marriage some stranger called you aunty...and you were not prepared for that? Have a great day! Deepak
@SViswan (12095)
• India
9 Jan 08
lol...even before marriage, I had kids my sister's age calling me aunty...but after having someone your own age call you aunty, nothing surprises me! Around 3-4 years before I was married, I had a neighbour who was 2 weeks younger than I was and married...so her kids started calling me aunty..and I was okay with it.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
9 Jan 08
So, what I understand..you took it on your stide. That's sign of smartness and maturity.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
9 Jan 08
I actually haven't have any problem whatsoever, deepak. I have 2 beautiful nieces and a naughty nephew to whom I play a great aunt. Beside them, there are some kids belonging to distant relations, who call me aunt. It feels great! I think, we all should age gracefully and live and act the age. Every age has its own beauty, one should feel it and enjoy the time. For once it goes we can never rewind it. Besides, I have an uncle who is just 12 years old! So, it doesn't really has to do with age and many times ppl perceive it wrongly and sometimes they call aunt or uncle just to give respect. We should bother about this little little things in life. I believe, just by being referred to as an uncle, you do not get old! Just take it in your stride. that's life and we must move on. smiles...
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
9 Jan 08
Can you recall when some stranger called you aunty for the first time...and you were not prepared for that?
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
9 Jan 08
No I cannot. Now I know what you meant exactly. It feels awful! But I think, we do not have to bother much since he/she would be a stranger and we would hardly meet up second time. Having said this, I would have freaked on the level of IQ of the person who almost of similar age as mine considers calling me an aunt! Obviously he would be crazy!
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
I agree with you views. But it happens once in a while, when someone about your age, calls you 'aunty' (perhaps indicating that he/she wish to feel quite younger in your comparision). Then you can but pity on the common sense. Thanks very much for enriching the post.
@balasri (26577)
• India
5 Jan 08
Well I have to admit that I felt old and could never be that care free in that shop when the shop owner's daughter of 12 years old called me uncle.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
That was precisely my point...eveyone wish to be addressed a young man and wish to called 'Bhiyab/bhaisahib/brother' or 'Didi/sister', as the case may be.
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
That was precisely my point...eveyone wish to be addressed as a young man/woman and wish to be called 'Bhiyaa/bhaisahib/brother' or 'Didi/sister', as the case may be.
• United States
23 Jan 08
My mom's beloved friend I called Aunt until I was in my 20's and that's when I started to call her by her first name. I didn't see it as my aunt getting old , it was that I finally got old enough to call her by her first name.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
25 Jan 08
Sarah! I had requested you to add me as your friend, but it appears to me that you have declined my request, is it so? Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
@apsara60 (6613)
• Israel
14 Jan 08
Nice discussion deepak. Let me tell you that here in Israel, nobody calls any body uncle or aunty, even children call teacher and elders by name.....which is liked and accepted by all. Even we employees call our boss by name.....as per our Indian culture or sanskars, we may feel this is insult, but here it is accepted and makes everyone feel young. while when called aunty or Uncle, you immediately become conscious of your age and even if you are young, you start feeling you are aged man and you should change your behaviour to more matured manner. I was shocked and embarrassed when I was first called aunty.....lol,but of course we have to understand that by addressing us in this way a person is giving us respect which is something you should be proud of. If my daughter would had married by now I would had grand children calling me granny........lol, but I am sure, becoming grand parents has its own beauty and happiness. Have a nice day. chalo jaldi jaldi dadda daddi , nana nani ban jaate hai........:))
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
25 Jan 08
Apsara! Thanks for enriching the discussion and for increasing our knowledge that at your place all are addressed by their names. You say that you were not prepared when someone called you Aunty for the first time. My point of focussed on that only - that no body likes to be called Aunty or Uncle, irrespective of his/her age. The moment he/she is called Aunty or Uncle, he/she immediately feels that he/she has grown older that what he/she actually thinks about himself/herself. Be patient! You would soon become Nani and Dadi....when your children get married, because time gallops and you would not realise how soon, it has passed. :):)
@anonymili (3140)
10 Jan 08
I have a friend who married when he was 24 and his wife was 17 and she became a good friend. Their daughters have always called me auntie and the older one is 25, married and expecting her first child. It was weird being called auntie by them when I was 17 or 18 when the kids first started speaking but I am used to it now. On the other hand, in my 20s if someone referred to me as aunty I told them categorically that they have to call me by my name. My cousin's son is 2 years younger than me and when he first came to the UK (I had not met him before that) he was about 34 and I was 36 and he called me aunty, I told him that was the last time he could call me that and he has called me by my name since then! My friend's children or cousin's children call me aunty and it doesn't bother me now but it felt weird in my 20s or even early to mid 30s. Now I don't mind especially as the ones in their 20s come out socially with me often and say I'm a "cool and trendy auntie" haha!
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
25 Jan 08
Mili! Thanks very much for enriching the post. You got the point, which I was trying to make that in your early 20's or 30's you do not feel comfortable, when someone addresses you as 'Aunty'. How are you? I could see your reply after a long time. Have a great day! Deepak
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
For me it is okay to be addressed like that specially with kids ages up to 18yrs old coz I already have a daughter who is 16 but when someone called me aunt and it is older than me or a little difference with my age that is very strange hehehehe... Thanks for welcoming me again I'm fine still live and kicking.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing your views. Hope you will continue to kick and enjoy the life.
@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
5 Jan 08
I"m not sure. I don't think I had anyone calling me auntie until I was over 30 LOL It's a small family:) And still now I don't really have many people calling me auntie on a regular basis. I do have a niece that lives back home and that I have never seen although we talk on msn sometimes. I also have 3 more that live in Canada but not in the same city I do, I don't see them often either. On the other hand I have lots of kids calling me mom. MOst of my kids friends LOL
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Arkaf, Thanks very much for sharing.
@piatos03 (397)
• Philippines
5 Jan 08
The first time someone called me that was when I was 12 or 13. My brother had his first baby girl. I was 9 when she was born. When she started talking, her parents encouraged her to called me auntie. I heard them talking to her about it and didn't think much of it. I mean, how bad can it be? But the first time I actually heard it, I cringed. I am too young to be called that! I had a little talk with her parents and told them to tell her to stop. She did and she calls me by my first name now. We're more like sisters rather than aunt and niece. I became more comfortable with the term aunt when my brother had his second baby girl. I was already 18 then so it wasn't much of a big deal. It actually felt great that time. Knowing that you were someone's godmother.
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing. You write beautifully and in a lucid manner.
@amitksing (1324)
• India
5 Jan 08
Its a good question and I would like to answer it! I am 24 yrs old and there have been several instances when kids have addressed me as "Uncle". Well, just for the sake of saying, one can say that being addressed as Uncle/Aunty feels bad, But what I have felt is that whenever any kid calls me Uncle, I feel like blown in a stream of Love.. Its unexpressable! It makes me feel so special and I feel like showering lots and lots of love on the kid! I dont know for others, but its a great experience for me!
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@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
8 Jan 08
I really appreciate your reply, feelings and thinking. Keep it up!
@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
19 Feb 08
I have a friend of age 35 years old. Once we went for shopping at the local wet market. She intended to buy some things and the store keeper called her auntie. She felt very unhappy and straight away she walked away without saying anything. I could see that she was really annoyed even she didn’t say a word.
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
27 Feb 08
Oh! so your friend did not like to be called 'Aunty'. What about you?
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
Well, I was nineteen and quite offended. When my oldest niece first started saying my name, she would call me Auntie Roachy. I did not appreciate that one bit. But, I loved her so much, it was just great to hear her attempt to call me. The other day, I called to speak to my sister and my fifteen year old nephew answered the phone. He was pretending like he did not know who I was. He said, But I don't know who you are, auntie Rosie. It was so cute, I just had a good laugh.
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing Rozie Aunty....LOL!
• United States
6 Jan 08
I don't have any nieces or nephews myself (and probably never will the way my brother is going) but when I married my husband 8 years ago I became an "Aunt" to a 16 year old girl and 3 boys, aged 8, 4 and 1. I was 22 when I met them and 23 when I married into the family. It kind of threw me the first time the 8 year old called me Aunt Jenny. Then it kind of grew on me. Now he just calls me Jen (and he calls my husband by just his first name). The younger 2 are 12 and 9 now and still call me Aunt Jen. The girl is now the age I was when I married into the family and she still calls me Aunt. Her ex-husband was about 7 years older then me (yes she was like 18 and he was like 33 when they got married). He is the goofiest guy and insisted on calling me and my husband "aunt" and "uncle" even though he was way older then us. I'm now a "great-aunt" to 3 little girls (my husband's niece's daughters). They are almost 5, 3 1/2 and 5 or 6 months old. My sister in law became a gramma at 34! She is turning 40 this year and now has 3 grandkids.
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
10 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
@polachicago (19143)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I was 18 years old when I was address as Aunty, I didn't mind.... Hmm, I am not ready to be addressed as "Aunty Grandma", but I am going to be as soon as my nephew baby will start talking....
@dpk262006 (55822)
• Delhi, India
8 Jan 08
So you won't mind...if children call you 'aunty'....LOL!
@naseefu (1607)
• India
23 May 08
A good topic Deepak.I had the same experience.When i was going to relative of my friend with his sisters,Then the little daughter of his sister called me as Uncle.Really as you said i do not like to here it.I am just 24 years old.But i did not care about it more.Thanks
@youless (87499)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jan 08
It's OK for me. Here we regard people who get married are called Uncle and Aunty.
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
7 Jan 08
It doesn't particularly worry me if I am called Aunty or Uncle even when younger. My Father always objected to the Uncle term, & he told all his neices & nephews to call him by his first name.
@Zelmarq (11507)
• Cebu City, Philippines
6 Jan 08
Its ok with me, its what we call each other in the office and im already used to it, unles for example the one who calls me auntie looks like a grand ma, then its another story. LOL
• Canada
6 Jan 08
I actually love it when a child sees me as an auntie. My friend's girls use to call me connie, then one day they called me auntie connie and I feel privileged that they love me and see me as their adopted auntie
@sacmom (14336)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I don't remember, it was so long ago! LOL Just kidding. I didn't think much of it. I was in my late teen's when I met a nephew of mine (on my husband's side). He started calling me aunt right after my husband and I married (I was 19 when my husband and I married). I have known some kids that became aunts or uncles when they were still kids (10 years old and even younger). These kids become aunts and uncles at such an early age because they have siblings that are years older than them and those siblings have kids of their own, so what happens? Their little brother(s) or sister(s) become aunts and uncles. So just because one is an aunt or uncle doesn't automatically make them old. And sometimes the aunt or uncle are the same age (or younger) is their niece or nephew. Weird but true.