disappearance

Philippines
January 6, 2008 1:55am CST
There is this guy who suddenly appeared in my life and then after sometime disappeared. After one month, he appeared again and told me he missed me. i asked him why he disappeared and he said he's busy and confused. I didn't bother to ask him for it might be too impersonal. Then he told me he wants to talk to me but he doesn't tell me when. Oh my, I keep waiting... What does this mean? This is the first time in my life to encounter a guy. I mean, for the whole 25 years, been focusing on my career and ignored the social aspect of my life. Now, I'm welcoming because I know I am growing old...
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7 responses
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
6 Jan 08
I think most probably the guy is confused. I think you should carry on with your life. Most times we happen to have infatuations on some people in our life. We get confused whether it is a real love or not. If it is real love most people do not stay away from their love. People tries to stay as far as possible with people they love. I think most probably he is just having an infatuation. If it is a real love, he would most probably had tried to get closer with you than to disappear from your life.
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Oh my, the guy appeared already, he told he was just really busy and he would make up for it. We had a dinner together and he accompany me till I reached home. He even gave me a friendly kiss before bidding goodbye. Is this an indication of sincerity?
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
7 Jan 08
Your growing old at 25? are you kidding me? Honey, you still have your whole life! Don't feel bad asking this guy questions...lots of them. If you let it be ok for him to come and go in your life then that is what he'll do. If he is truly interested in you, he will stick around. how long in between his visits?
@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
7 Jan 08
Ignore him, do not spend another second on this guy. Trust me, I wasted major time on someone just like that. Before I knew it 8 years had gone by and he was still pulling the disapearing/reapearing act and I was just as confused as when the relationship had started. In the end I put a stop to it because I realized that I'd lived 8 whole years putting all of my hopes and plans and dreams on hold on the "maybe" of some jerk who never sacraficed a thing. In the end you have to realize that you deserve someone who is willing to put into the relationship exactly what they get out of it and who is willing to see your worth and respect it. You'll find someone who deserves to share your time, in the meanwhile have fun being single.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
7 Jan 08
I think this Guy is fickle minded. He can't decide what to do. He just disapperaed as he thought its tough to face you. May be he was busy, but complete disappaearnce is not normal. be careful before commiting to this Guy.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
7 Jan 08
ellyboy123 first of all 25yrs. is not old and this guy sounds like he is stringing you along, you shouldn't wait for his call you should go out and have some fun, if he is busy and confused then maybe you should tell him when he isn't then give you a call. Good luck!
@chooochy (356)
7 Jan 08
it sounds like this guy is not sure himself and until he knows hun then you wont know where you stand with him and it will only lead to heartache hun. i went through this myself xx
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
6 Jan 08
I suggest that you socialize more. Make friends and entertain other guys. Not just focus on one particular person, especially that one particular guy who doesn't devote much of his attention and time for you. Your love and soul mate will come without you looking for it. Sometimes it just come and happen without you knowing it. Good luck!