there is a self intention behind every friendship?

@kasyap (51)
India
January 7, 2008 12:20am CST
HI FRIENDS, there is a sayin that THERE IS NO FRIENDSHIP IN THIS WORLD WITHOUT A SELF INTENTION. IS THIS TRUE OR NOT ? PLS DELIVER UR VALUABLE COMMENTS AND EXPERIENCES.
8 responses
@subha12 (18462)
• India
9 Jan 08
I think its mostly true. but honestly speaking i have never any freind on certain intentions. i have made freinds on the basis of my likings. But i had a so called freind who acted like a good freind to take advantage out of me.He had intention to get help in twerms of money,food etc.
@tryxiness (4549)
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
Basically, in Maslow's Hierarchy, we have this need to belong. Making friends is one way of addressing this need. Basically, subconsciously, we do have "self" intention in every friendship. :)
@honeylore23 (1086)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Well I do think it is true that friendship goes with self intention. We sometimes choose who will be our friends. If we choose it means their is an intention of making friends. What are those intentions I am talking about are: 1 we tend to choose friend who possesses some or most of our qualities and interest because sharing experiences and being together would be memorable since you would enjoy the moments knowing that the two of you has the same interest. We could mingle with them a lot and we will be confident with them. 2. sometimes we also tend to choose a friend whom we can rely on. 3 there are sometimes bad intention as to making friends and 4 there are lots and lots of intention that lies behind making friends but the most common is the number stated above.
@nkhanna (926)
• India
7 Jan 08
well to some extent i think its true.since there is a good intention behind our making friends with other.every people in this world need friends in thier life so that they can understand each other and share thier views.its sadi that that a friend is one what we are.we just wanna get a reflection of ours in our friends.we need to someone who can be with us whether whole owrld is there with you or not.we need a person who can tell us what we are doing is correct or not and can make us understand in my way which normally parents are not able to do because of generation gap.so definately self intention is there.and its vice versa,i mean from both sided.
• India
7 Jan 08
my friend, nothing works without a reason or a cause...And remember humans do everything for a cause...and anything in this workld could be expressed in terms of money and Friendship is not an exception...
@Estina54 (391)
• United States
7 Jan 08
I never make friends with intention. I never pressure someone to be my friend. Many times I had no intention to make a friend and I saw no friendship with somebody that was always coming my way, was a friendly nature. With time, I realized they were very nice girls and we could be friends. It was just was a natural response, not a goal.
@diillu (5130)
7 Jan 08
WEll, I think there's some kind of hidden intentions when becoming close to someone else. Cause we don't get close to anyone else in our life. We get close to those who are like us and whom we think that we are able to confide. We want such kind of friends with whom we can share our happiness and sadness. That's why I think that we have some kind of hidden expectations.
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
i can say it is partly true. i said partly, because there are also true friendship, i mean the real essence of friendship. in have friends before whom i really consider as my friends. the question of "intentions" did not cross my mind because. my other friends warned me about the real intention of my so-called friends but i didn't mind it because i dont want to put malice on the friendships. until one day i lose hold of the thing that my so-called friends wanted and the friendship slowly drifted away.... i realized that even friendship are being use by others just to get want they want. one should be critical in making friends.