would you entrust your password to your lover?

password - do you love your partner enough to give your password?
Philippines
January 7, 2008 5:53am CST
I know that trust is part of a relationship, but do all of us trust our partner enough to entrust them with our passwords to our emails and even PIN numbers of mobile phones? I and my boyfriend entrust each other with our passwords and we have great trust in each other. I wonder if other couples are also the same.. Of course, doubts would still be there and it's not easy to just give away your password to your loved one. Share your thoughts! THANKS
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
7 Jan 08
No. I know, this is a question of complete trust and if he gives me his password, i will value it very seriously.But personally i need my own private place.If i want to share some information with him, i will do it.
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• Philippines
7 Jan 08
Thanks!
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• Philippines
7 Jan 08
thanks
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• United States
7 Jan 08
If my partner offered up their password/pins then I would mine. It does show trust and as long as it was never abused would be ok with me I would just make sure if it ends to change all numbers immediately.
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• Philippines
8 Jan 08
I agree. Thanks!
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
7 Jan 08
i dont mined to share my pin # or passwords to myhusband except my secret account.
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• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Yes some things are to be kept secret :)
@diillu (5128)
7 Jan 08
Well, I and my boyfriend has been together from past four years and we have been able to build up a good trust among us. We share each-other's each and every password. We know eachother e-mail password, mobile pin number and even the bank account pin number. We don't have any doubt in our trust for eachother. I think trust is one of the most important thing in the relationship.
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• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Good! Good luck! :)
@dania_elm (422)
• United States
7 Jan 08
my hubby has all my passwords i only have 2 that i use on all the sites i visit and he also has my pin number wich is only fair seeing as its money im putting into my account lol
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• Philippines
7 Jan 08
hehe thanks
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7 Jan 08
If both of you have that much belief it is O.K.But it will become problamatic if both of u get differences in ur opinions and if it happens that both of u seperate.So be careful.
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
Yes of course we have to be careful too :)
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@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
Were on the same page. My boyfriend and I know what each other's password is. Doubts will always be there ofcourse, but there is also trust. I trust him and he trusts me as well. I'm happy that I'm not the only one who shares every thing to my boyfriend.. and ow, only my boyfriend knows my password and even my atm pin. Thats how far I put my trust on him. :) Best of luck
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• Philippines
7 Jan 08
You really do trust him.. God bless and good luck to both of you! :)
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@power926 (60)
• Canada
7 Jan 08
I wouldn't share this kind of information with a loved one because with the information temptation builds up and the person might do something that they really didnt want to and hurt the other person. so i try not to do anyhting to jeoperdize e relationship.
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@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
7 Jan 08
While I believe in sharing with spouses, love ones etc, I believe (and I learned this the hard way) that some things you just need to keep to/for yourself. That doesn't mean you are a mean person. I just meanst hat you are just that, a person, and you have the right to be "your own person" on ways other than just what the socially current and trendy buzz slogan says you can be. I write everything down and have them in a safe place...just in case, but no one else knows what they are or about it. Just cause you are married, doesn't mean "you" don't exhist anymore. Nothing wrong with having somethong for yourself. And I learned the hard way - I shared with others for this reason and the right reasons adn all that, but did the sharing recprocate? No. Nothing was ever given back, but i was taken advantage of because of what I shared, so I stopped. You don't have to share everything, even if you are married or whatever. You can keep things just for you. Even you r own savings account. Why does everyone or just someone have to know? Why can't you keep something for just you? I say you can and should!
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• India
8 Jan 08
Well I have never thought of it this way but the fact is that my hubby has never asked me about the password to my email account and never have I to his. This has never come up between us. If I was ever sick or something, I went without my mails but I have never bothered him about it.
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
I see. Thank you!
@fianne (1059)
• United States
8 Jan 08
hi there glitzypurple... nice topic here huh, and a nice question too... but to answer it, well yes, my boyfriend and i knows each others passwords. it is essential because you exude trust and love for each other... honestly, it has helped our relationship because i feel that he entrusts his personal things with me so with his personal life. it adds to the relationship to become stronger.
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Thanks for appreciating my topic and for your response! :)
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
14 Jan 08
I don't have a problem with my hubby knowing my passwords. I have given him my pin number to my bank account and I have given him my card. He has gone and put money into it but never does he ever take money out of it without my permission. I also know his number and I have an extra card to his account incase I need to buy something at the store and I don't have any money. I don't work so I don't always have any money of my own. As far as the computer goes he doesn't know how to really use it very well so he doesn't need my passwords. He doesn't use email and has no idea how to. He has watched me posting in mylot but I don't like that because I sometimes us mylot to vent and I don't want him to know, so when he is home now, I don't use mylot too much.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
12 Jan 08
Sure why not. He logs in if I ask him while I'm with the baby to check something for me. I know his password to yahoo and paypal. He knows my phone pin. My email isn't so interesting.
@chooochy (356)
12 Jan 08
yes my partner has access to everything i own, and can freely access it whenever he likes, and vice versa, we are incredibly trusting of each other and have nothing to hide from each other.
@musicman6 (2370)
• United States
8 Jan 08
When i was still married, yes, I entrusted my wife with all my passwords, because we worked together, in everything we did! And she trusted me more than I trusted her! So we never had problems with keeping secrets, we didn't have the need to!
@dpk262006 (56148)
• Delhi, India
8 Jan 08
It is better if passwords are not share. Imagine a situation...if your relations get severed...in due course of time...with your friend....then he/she come to know many things about you... All in all a matter of trust...if you have strong trust on someone..then you can share your password.
@bianx21 (339)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Yeah...Why not? I trust my boyfriend and there is nothing to hie from him so I let him access my emails,friendster account,cellphone messages and other sutff...I believe that in this way,I am letting him know that he can trust me.
@nurrynoo (72)
• New Zealand
8 Jan 08
Of course we do. I know everything about my partner and he knows everything about me. We love, trust, are each others best friend. If I am online he asks me to check his emails so he doesn't have to get up and vice versa. He knows my atm pin so that i don't have to go out and vice versa. We are 'allowed' to look through each others mobile phones. Not as an invasion of privacy, but more in a "what conversations did you have today" kind of way. We don't have anything to hide from each other, and I think if things were kept from each other, then thoughts of "why is this being hidden?" would occur. I think its more just of a being a part of each others lives. But then again, maybe I'm just lucky in my choice of partner. :-)
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
8 Jan 08
My husband has every single password, pin number, you name it. He has them all as I have his. We trust each other with everything that we are, so why wouldn't you entrust your password or pin number to them. If you don't have anything to hide, i don't see the problem with it and if you are that committed to that person then you shouldn't have anything to hide. God bless
• United States
8 Jan 08
Trust have to be earned. I love my boyfriend, but I could never give him my password until I completely trust him.