To work or not to work...that is the question?

January 7, 2008 2:00pm CST
I work in a school,hours are great,love what i do....heres the dilemma... I have 3 children,4th on the way in May,i know its forward thinking etc...but do i return following my maternity leave? I struggle with getting the balance right as it is,work-home. I feel guilt as i am always rushed and tired being at work,that i have nothing left for my kids and i know that this can not go on. I adore my kids and want to be with them yet feel a failure for wanting to stay at home. I would like to seriously reduce my hours or give up....is this defeatist?
4 responses
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
8 Jan 08
That's a difficult situation that almost every parent has had to face. Because I thought there were no other options, I worked full-time outside of the home while my kids were young. After paying daycare, I really didn't bring home that much money, but we needed it so I didn't think I had much of a choice. If I had only known then what I know now. I have a great home-business that I work part-time. It's helping out a lot and my husband will soon be working our business full-time in place of his current job. Of course, you need to decide what is right for you, but if you'd like to take a look at what I'm doing and see if this could be a solution for you, check out my profile and follow the links. I'd love to chat with you a bit about it if you're interested in staying home with the kids while contributing to the household income. Best wishes for you!
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
8 Jan 08
I think that this is something that you need to really think and pray about before making your final decision. I am a stay at home mother, but once worked and trying to raise three kids. It's very difficult either way at times, although I think trying to work and then coming home to start your other full time job is overwhelming at times. If you feel that you are not giving your children everything they need to be getting, then maybe it's time for you to stop working and becoming a full time mother. It's not an easy decision what so ever. have you talked with your husband about how your feeling? Maybe you two can decide what is gonna be best for you and your whole family. Being a stay at home mother can be very rewarding to, yet stressful at times...but so can a job outside the home. Keep us posted on what you decide. God bless
@babykeka80 (2003)
• United States
7 Jan 08
I dont have the option. I need to work. Maybe you could find something part time. It really is hard to balance work/family. Imagine how I feel I work 25-30hrs a week attend school full time have a 2yr old at home and another on the way in April. AHHHHH lol. You can only do what you can but remember the kids arent going to be little forever so enjoy them while you can.
@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
7 Jan 08
I think that's something only you can decide. If you feel good about being a home mom then that's what you should do. If you'd rather keep working, then no point in quitting right? :-)