If members of your family are fighting,do you step in somehow to stop it??

@peanutjar (5251)
Canada
January 7, 2008 5:02pm CST
Lets say it's a sister/brother who's fighting with your mother by arguing and picking fights with your mom,eventually turning to hitting your mom after a confrontation of some kind and you were not there but you did find out by other members of the family and also your mom,but your sibling does not live at your mom's but lives with a boyfriend/girlfriend who's the real culprit behind your sister/brother for edging them on to verbally abusing and ending up hitting a family member and causing alot of trouble in the family.What would you do?Would you get involved to protect your mom somehow,tell the brother-inlaw off and to stay away,call your brother/sister and tell them off by giving them a piece of your mind let alone a boot in the a$$ or stay out of it,by thinking "well at least they aren't causing me any trouble,so i will keep shut".???What would you do from your heart's point of view?
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@Ohara_1983 (4122)
• Kuwait
8 Jan 08
They say a word to someone else not only my mom & dad, because they really haer the thing that they never her in there intire life:), lot of children just argue withn there parents i dont know why, i cannot remember myself the me & m brother & sister argue with our parent no way.
• Uganda
8 Jan 08
Understand that various people have had various experiences in life; some the opposite of what you've had and other far different. Just be considerate dear...
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• Kuwait
8 Jan 08
Hello peanutjar, i think your siser have a problem it not her business if your granma give all to your mom, anyway much better if you let your mom set beside to avoid more stress now, as you said she had an ashma its not good for her. and just talk once with you sis, let her undestand that your grandma is from your mother not from her she is only second deree so she dont have the right to ack like a tazmania girl fighting for everything. goodluck my dear friend.
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@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
If I'm the eldest, then I will step up and pacify them. But there are times where both need to cool off by throwing punches or hurting each other, especially when I know how intense they are to square off with each other. So in these cases, I let time and their energy consume them as I know i will have my que the time the stopped. But I also had an experience trying to pacify both women, that I think is the most hardest fight I've ever intervened. Both are distant relatives of mine and they both ocked each others horns (or shall I say, hairs), I felt that all my strenngth were drained because it's hard to separate them. It's not always good to take part on quarelling members of the family or even those friends, since we never know what we might end up to..
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
Yeh,thats what i did and its coolde down now.I guess they had to let off steam somehow,not a good way though.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
Frigg,i type like crap today,hahaha!
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
12 Jan 08
First I would talk to my mom and I would do my best to convince her to not let that person in her home every again. Then I would talk to the person and tell them they are a coward, that they had to pick on my mom. I would tell them to come and pick on me and see how far they would get. If it ever happened in front of me I would jump in so fast no one would know what heppened. No Body hits my mom. No Body yells at my mom. My mom deserves respect from everyone of her family members and anyone that steps into her home.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
Exactly!Everythings cooled down now and my sister does not come at my moms anymore and she(I)have to peace of not hearing a phone call from my mom about her and my mom having the peace,haha!:)
@wisedragon (2331)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Yes, when it's too much I will have to step in. I will certainly not tolerate physical violence, especially towards my parents. That would unleash the protective beast in me.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I feel the same but am pulled between not getting involved to make it worse or getting involved while making it worse,or vice versa fort he good.
@kebkeb (121)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
Yes. Sometimes. I also get irritated when they quarrel. They almost quarrel all the time. You can hear them from 50 km. I hate them when they are quarreling in such things that doesn't need to be talked about....
@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
Thats the part i hate the most is the hollaring so loud it can be heard everywhere,haha!
• United States
8 Jan 08
I doubt that I would be able to help much, because my first move would be to knock some sense into the sibling that has lost their rabid a$$ mind enough to hit my Mama!!! I really don't know what to tell you this time, PJ. No one in my family would ever dream of hitting their mother for anyone. I've thought it really hard, but I couldn't ever raise my hand to her.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I think everyone at my moms had to get stuff out and now so far its cooled down and has gone back to its normal state.My sister stays away now.:)
@babykeka80 (2004)
• United States
7 Jan 08
Oh, I would definitely get involved they put their hands on my mom. Do what you do to your brother/sister or bf/gf whatever but you touch my mother or my child and we will have a problem. I have had a situation similar to this before and was involved ASAP.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I feel the same as you!Sorry you had to experience it also.
@enbrown (282)
• United States
7 Jan 08
This sounds like a tough situation. I guess it would depend on what caused the fight. It's never right to put your hands on someone like that though, but the sibling that abused your mom did the abuse, not who they are with. So I guess what I'm saying is, the person that got physical let it get to that level.
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@peanutjar (5251)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
Yes i totally agree with you!
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
13 May 08
If ever one of my Brothers, Stepfather or anyone lays a hand on my Mom I will personally rip their arm off at the root. No one hits my Mom...ever. I'd defend my Brothers just as much. The same holds true for my Niece and Nephew. You don't mess with my family. I'll let them argue their own arguements but raise a hand...you've got me to deal with. And I can be a Holy Terror when need be . **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~