Do you think it is OK for your kids to have big dreams

@tammytwo (4303)
United States
October 29, 2006 2:09pm CST
My oldest son wants to play basketball in the NBA and my youngest wants to race for NAscar. I push them and encourage them all the way. I know it is possible. But I actually had someone tell me that they don't believe in doing that. What do you think? I say Reach for the Stars and you may even catch a few.
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• United States
29 Oct 06
My daughter wants to be a singer one day, a lawyer the next, a judge on a good day. A hair stylist every day. I will not discourage this at all. She will reach to the top with me by her side. I say you have to do what you feel is right.
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Thank you. Both of my sons have had these dreams for years, especially the oldest and he is good at basketball. He went to Texas Tech for basketball camp this summer and we push him to stay involved in basketball. He is 16 and he plays on the varsity team and even coaches a little league team. Last year his team that he coached went undefeated.
• Ireland
31 Oct 06
If you dream it You Can get it for sure!!!
@burgoonster (3762)
• Canada
30 Oct 06
Yes It Totally Ok For Kids To Dream And I Think It's Good For Them To Dream
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Thank you. Me too.
@dorypanda (1584)
30 Oct 06
I think you should help and encourage your children to do whatever they want to do, it's good that they have ambitions, my son wants to be a car designer, that's good enough in itself, but he's set his sites on designing for Ferrari, even though I'm sure it's likely to happen, I'm helping and encouraging him as much as I can. Keep encouraging your children, fair enough, keep them in the real world and keep their feet on the ground, but let them have their dreams and hopefully some day they'll become reality. :)
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Thank you for your response. If I thought the dreams were impossible I would give them other ideas but I truly think these boys can achieve their dreams. They both love the things they are in to and would do them 24/7 if they could. My oldest is so devoted to sports and tries his hardest to improve every chance he gets. I know they can do it. Thank you for your kind words. Good luck to your son!
@jray721 (1969)
• United States
29 Oct 06
absolutely ! id tell them to strive for whatever there dreams are. it CAN happen
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Thank you! They will keep reaching for those stars!!
@vipul20044 (5798)
• India
29 Oct 06
Its too obvious If you aim to dream for something higher, then only you will be in a process of getting something a step below it But if you dont get your hopes high, you will be stagnant to just one facet of life
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I believe so as well. But one of the people that told me that my oldest would probably never play basketball was one of my college teachers. I told her that I tell my children they can achieve whatever they are willing to work for.
• Netherlands
29 Oct 06
Yes i do. It keeps them going.
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Thank you so much for your response.
• United States
29 Oct 06
Why stifle them and kill their dreams? I think you should encourage them in everything they do, but you also need to make sure they know that great things in life are earned. I tell my kids they can have, be and do anything they're willing to work for. And I think if you don't encourage their dreams, then somewhere along the way they're going to stop trying and that would be a sad thing.
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Yes, I make them work for it and I remind them everyday that it takes a lot of hard work to achieve their dreams. My oldest one lives for sports, that is all he ever wants to do. The youngest races go karts, started last year at 6 years of age and has won a race or two already. We are encouraging both of them. We also realize if they both reach their goals mom and dad will be set for life. :)
• United States
29 Oct 06
i think thats fine for kids to have big dreams. i mean dreams are the minds way of letting us be something or someone that we want to be.i encourage my stepsons to dream. plus dreams are like goals and everyone has goals. i had big dreams and goals when i was kid. but thats another topic. so yes i think its fine and perfectly normal
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Thank you. I totally agree. I had big dreams too but no one to push me to achieve them.
@micheller (1365)
• United States
29 Oct 06
yes i do think it is ok. you have to believe in something in order to acheive in it. so let your child keep believing and one day i hope it will happen for him.
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@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Thank you. I feel that way too. Plus it makes them work harder to reach their goal if they feel that it is possible.
• India
31 Oct 06
if youre kids are really young this is quite normal.i wanted to be a fireman when i was 7, now that seems silly. if ur kids are older u got a problem, this is where u gotta step in and advise them and help them identify their talents.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
My oldest is 16 and very talented at basketball. He has a chance at making it. The youngest is 7 and has started racing already. He can make it as well.
@Ljorge (1497)
• United States
31 Oct 06
i don't think there is anyting wrong with giving your child something to shoot for! if that person wants to squash a childs dream that is upto them, but i totally agree with your statement reach for the stars.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Thank you! I know if I didn't believe that way myself, I wouldn't be where I am today.
@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
31 Oct 06
Of course...you should encourage your childs dreams. You can achieve anything if you put your heart and soul into it...You don't know if you don't try....
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
That is exactly how I feel and I don't want them to live with regrets if they don't try.
@sellj75 (208)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Aboslutly. America is what it is because of big dreams. If they don't try for them, they can never be acheived.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
So true
@tsmeesa98 (576)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I say encourage any dream they have no matter how unrealistic and the reason is that dreams change but parental support is the MOST important thing in a child's developement. Just tell them that even basketball stars and Nascar drivers have to have a good education and that they have to work just as hard at school as they do on the court or on the track :)
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Racing - My youngest after his frist win.
Thank you. So true! They do well in school and I still push for them to attend college.
@jhannon (1410)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I wanted to be a lead singer in a band that playes on mtv.But there comes a point in time when you seperate reality from dreams..
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Yes, but if you had really worked toward that goal, could you have reached it? I won't encourage them to do something that I know is impossible but their dreams aren't.
• United States
31 Oct 06
dream - dream
well, i wanted to be the queen of america, that was totally crazy and unrealistic but my parents encouraged it and in life i strive for unusual goals which is good in my opinion becasue I an open minded to strange things that most people wouldnt normaly want to do but they are not bad.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Very true! I think it is necessary for everyone to have dreams.
• Romania
30 Oct 06
Yes i do.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Thank you for your response.
@kataztrophy (1839)
• United States
31 Oct 06
its good for kids to dream big, its great if they actually work hard to make it happen.
@adonica (439)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Of course, Dreaming and having goals will help children realize what they can achieve and prepare them for adulthood. Anything in life is possible, You have to want it bad enough.
• Romania
30 Oct 06
I am a big kids and I have big dreams