I am very Sad right now

Hi Marcia. I am so sorry to hear about you and your husband and the loss of your siter-in-law. I think you should handle the situation for what is best for you. You cannot always think about everyone else. I think it would be only right to tell your husband yourself though. It may hurt him worse if he doesn't hear the word from you and you had already known.

Oh Marcie, I am so very sorry for you and your husband. The next few days are really going to be tough. When he does get home, I would have him sit down and tell him you have some sad news to tell him. I wouldn't tell him at work neither. Is it possible to call him home from work early. If his sister is the one that wants to tell him, will she be there when he gets home from work. I have no idea what you and the hubby are fussin about, hopefully you can put it aside for the time being. One thing I have learned in life is "DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF" and its all small. Except this kind of stuff, life is too short to sweat the small stuff. We all get upset about stuff in everyday life. Its hard to sometimes just let things go. Believe me I know, I am living with a moody, almost due, pregnant women, hehe. I do my best to just let things go, it is hard sometimes, but you can do it Marcie. This is a serious matter, you and your husbands family will be in my prayers. Take care.

I will be Praying for you. I know how hard a loss can be, as I just lost my Mom the end of September, and still have problems at times when I feel I need someone to talk too. I hope you were able to talk to your husband about this, and be a support for him, and hope you can get things worked out.

we are very sorry about this news.

Condolence you and your family. and I also hope you can have a honestly conversation with your husband.

This is so sad. Hope you get through this.

Losing a sister in law to cancer is hard. I lost mine last year to it and it is a very slow and painful way to go. Your husband will need somebody there for him. It is great that you are waiting till he gets home to tell him but you might want to get him to come home early he might get offended that you waited so long to tell him. It is a hard choice and my prayers go out to you. Hope you both will be all right

I am sorry for your loss.

Oh its really so sad! Losing someone you love really breaks you down. But this is the truth of life and no one can turn his face oof it. We have to keep on going because life stops for non. But of course, the absence of your loved ones cant be filled easily. I think this is a serious matter and you should tell this to your husband without any delay. Problems between relations should be kept miles away from such things. At such times, people need support, So do you and your husband! And there can not be any better moral support that your partner. So, I think you should forget about things between you and your hubby and support each other.

I would wait until he gets home from work to tell him, but apparently he has known his sister was sick and shouldn't be too much of a surprise to him. Sorry to hear that you are fueding with your husband. Use this time to draw near to each other. It is good that you have an outlet to vent your frustrations and glad you can do it here at MyLot.

i am really sorry may she opens her eyes in heaven

Sorry to hear about your SIL. You need to tell your husband. Is this his sister? He has a right to know ASAP and don't delay despite you being mad at him.

sorry to say all that it's very touching and sad so i hope that you can hold it , so straight up and hold your head up to keep living.

first of all, im sorry for what happened to your sis in law. my condolences to you and your family. upon reading it, u said that you and your hubby are quarelling. my opinion is this, we're talking about someones life here which happens to be your hubby's sis who passed away already. i think, its your husband's right to know abouit it immediately eventhough you have a misunderstanding. you should be the one who should advise him of the matter coz you're his wife. nothing personal, just an opinion.:)

Yes, you should tell him. It's time to put differences behind you right now. I'm so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and the family.

I am so sorry to hear about your sister-in-law! May God give you much comfort! I do believe that you should tell your husband. He needs to know! You two really need to get past your anger towards one another. You need each other now. Your sister-in-law would want you to patch things up. May God be with you during this difficult time. God bless.

thats good that you are talking about it, i think you should tell your husband no matter what annomosity there is between you and your husband i am sure that he would want to know and i'm sure that you would want to know if the roles were reversed. you know what the right thing to do is all you have to do is ask yourself two questions " would you want to know" and " would you care if you got told by someone you were angry with?"