Please forgive me...

January 8, 2008 5:25pm CST
Do you say these words when you do something that hurts someone? I've written about saying sorry before, although I have no clue why some people can't actually say it and why people put up with being repeatedly said. It's quite common for me to hear "please forgive me" and while I try to do nothing that bothers anyone, I can honestly say I've said those lines and they came quite naturally. Most of the time I actually "sorry". ~Joey
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
8 Jan 08
I am going to come at this discussion from another direction, It was pointed out to me a while ago I started every spoken conversation with the words "sorry", and it annoyed the heck out of every one, because what was I sorry about? when in fact it eventually pointed out to me that I had no self worth and didn't believe I had the right or knowledge to be giving an answer. It was my useless and helpless idea about my self that made me apologies for every word I spoke. So now I have to watch how I begin a conversation because old habits die hard, as well I still find I do this when I am telling some one some thing they might not like to hear, Just a different perspective on this.
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8 Jan 08
Oh i've been there before. It's nonesense though if we didn't say, well we probably wouldn't say to those who needed to hear it if we made those types of people happy. There's a great different from not knowing your saying, i'm pretty sure you didn't mean to. I appreciate your insight here. ~Joey
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
8 Jan 08
I say I'm sorry. We all at one time or another have done soemthing to hurt someones feelings. Its only right that we apologize.
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8 Jan 08
Yeah we sadly do. It's always best imo to let the person know your sorry, I know people who have never said it and others who would and not mean it. It's quite silly how some just can't mean it. ~Joey Thank you
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Hi there Joey. I have no problem at all saying please forgive me or I am sorry to anyone. I think there would be more friendships and alot better trust in people if there was more sincerity in all relationships. I would never want to hurt anyone's feelings either and I just wish it was the same when it came to my own feelings. I like to hear please forgive me or I am sorry only if it is truly meant. Alot of people use it too much though and they don't mean a thing by it. They end up doing something else the next time and use the same words over and over again. ~Steph
8 Jan 08
Hey =) Yeah, sadly many who say it just do so to re-gain someone. I think it's quite saddening, I always feel down when I see someone else being treated like a door mat. I'd say, but like you said I would mean it and when it's meant it isn't such a problem. =) ~Joey
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
8 Jan 08
I think they say it to regain someone also whether they really care about them or not also. Some people just say it, but they really do not mean it at all. They tend to repeat their actions over and over again. It comes natural for me to say please forgive me or I am sorry to anyone because I sure do not want to hurt them because I sure know how that feels. ~Steph
@lols189 (4742)
16 Feb 08
I mainly prefer to say "sorry" when i am apologising as this is a more common word. i have used "Please forgive me" a few times but not that often
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
9 Jan 08
I say the words if I realize I made a mistake or hurt someone. I say it when I really mean it and when it's important to me that I am forgiven. I don't intentionally go around trying to hurt people, but I know I have done so sometimes. I have no problem apologizing if I learn I did something wrong.
@fairyanny (363)
• China
9 Jan 08
Of course I do if I care for the guys.Sometimes I donn't think it is necessery to explain about what you have done,but just say sorry and forgive me.
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
29 Mar 13
Hi Joey, I agree. I'm guilty of those words as well. I suppose it's natural for some of us to be forgiven and accepted at all times by everyone and anyone.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
10 Jan 08
I think it is very hard to say sorry or forgive me to people. I have seen very little people using these words in the life. I think people who are able to say these words and accept their mistakes are the people who have courage. I think it is always nice to hear sorry or forgie mve from people. Most people forgies and forgets to people who says sorry. I think the words Sorry and Thank You are magic words. They have the ability to create magic and has the ability to build up relationships.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I never say that because it's not natural for me. I'm more of a sorry person. I guess I always knew the person would forgive me so I never bothered to say that :)
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
16 Jan 08
This is not a line I use very often because, frankly, I am not in the habit of going around hurting people without the sort of clear provocation that in my view does not merit or require such a "band aid" response. For me, actions speak a lot louder than words, and "I am so sorry!" ought to be enough to cover things like dropping and breaking a dish or bumping into a stranger. In interpersonal relationships, I believe that each action creates or depletes, if you will, a "bank" of trust, and that the longer we know someone and the more kindnesses we have seen them perform to us or to others, the more willing we are to overlook a false move. If the trust level is high, such words tend to be rather meaningless. If the trust level is low, no mere words are sufficient to repair damage. If someone said those words to me, I would reach to make sure my wallet was still intact, if you know what I mean.