what's a friend's purpouse?

@shadow9 (238)
Romania
January 9, 2008 4:03am CST
i had a discussion whit a friend yesterday and she sayd that a friend must understand you and know how you feel but i sayd that a friend dosen't need to understand every time but try to cheer you up if your feeling down even if he dosen't understand why ... what is your opinion about friendship?
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
9 Jan 08
Friendship is such a wonderful thing and should enrich the lives of those involved. I disagree with what your friend said about friends having to always know how you feel and try to comfort you. Yes, friends should be there to comfort you. However, the reason you became friends in the first place more than likely was because you saw something in them you liked and/or wanted and that you found them interesting. Maybe you were even curious to get to know them better. Sometimes friendship isn't always about understanding. If you best friend didn't understand, he or she would still be there to offer the shoulder for you to cry on, so to speak. Friends sometimes have common goals that they're reaching for together. Friends should help each other. If you have a friend who is only in your life because of what they can get from you, that's not a true friend. There are also "fair-weather friends" who aren't really friends at all. They're only around when they need you or when they have something to gain by being your friend. Friendship isn't 50 percent and 50 percent from each person. It's 100 percent and 100 percent. You mentioned friends knowing and understanding you deeply. I believe this all comes in time of your best friends who have been around for a while. Obviously, when you first meet someone and anticipate having a friendship or relationship with that person, they can't understand you and your feelings right away because they don't know you well enough yet. Eventually in time, they will learn more about you and grow to understand you. Friendship is all about caring about others and enriching people's live one individual at a time. If everyone knew how to be a good friend, what a wonderful place the world would be!
@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
9 Jan 08
i agree, friendship is more about caring than always understanding and it is 100% from each ... thanks for the response
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• United States
2 Feb 08
A true friend is one doesn't always understand you but will be there for you. They share time together and help each other out without expecting anything in return. A friend doesn't have to understand to be able to listen when you have a problem. Just listening will give your friend insite to a possible solution. A true friend doesn't put you down no matter what. They respect what your feelings are about things. Even if what they feel isn't what you feel. I have one true friend and we are so close we call each other sister.
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@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
2 Feb 08
well said, i agree, thanks
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• United States
2 Feb 08
I have found that most friends will only be there for the good times. When the bad times come about they disappear. My sister-in-law and I have been through some rough times each in our different situations and we have stood by each other no matter what. We have a strong bond together and we are not blood relations but we are sisters of the heart.
@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
2 Feb 08
i agree most friends are like that ... it's good to have real friends ... and as they say nothing physical ca surpass the emotional heart
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• India
9 Jan 08
Friends are like mirrors.They reflect you self.They are what you yourself are.Then it becomes utmost necessary to have friends because otherwise you may become lonely.Loneliness may catch up to you.Actually when you are friends with someone,you give a part of emotion to that guy and you are connected with him.I actually helps because it destresses you and the helps you move forward.A friend is needed to celebrate with you your joy,share the burden of your sorrows and above all letting you be you.
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@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
9 Jan 08
friends don't need to be like mirrors, that would be creepy i think:P ... having the same interests is important but if they have the same thinking it becomes as if you would be thinking to yourself ... anyway having friends is important i agree ... thanks for responding
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@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
9 Jan 08
Ive been told that if you have 5 true friends in life you are truely blessed. To me friendship is responsability twards each other. Give what you can and take what you need. I will do anything for my friends (legal). I know they will do the same for me. I believe a person should love a true friend like a family member. If they get in trouble instead of baling them out-sit it out with them.
@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
9 Jan 08
i agree with the first part although i'm pretty sure that they would prefer to be bailed out:p that and you can't always sit it out with them because you haven't gone through the same trouble ... thanks for responding
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