Why are more women today taking care of men financially?

United States
January 10, 2008 2:23am CST
More and more you see women taking care of men today. Paying their bills, taking them shopping, buying lunches and dinners, paying on dates. This disturbs me. It should be the other way around. Men have lost their pride and ego as a man. Men are losing their minds if they think this is acceptable. If a woman wants to treat, or pay, he should not accept.
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7 responses
10 Jan 08
I don't really see it myself, especially from what I've noticed where I live it's always the man working and the women looking after the house/children etc. That's great though, I have noticed more single mothers fighting to keep a float but I haven't noticed many men wanting not to support themselves. There's no pride in sponging either way, it's wrong on both levels unless the persons doing because they want and enjoy doing it. I respect your opinion but I disagree with it, that's fine though because I guess some people will from time to time. It's acceptable by those who do it, nobody can say this is and this isn't unless it's happening. try to worry less :) ~Joey
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@mjweed21 (693)
• Philippines
10 Jan 08
If men do accept it, all I can say is they're oppurtunistics!
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• Philippines
10 Jan 08
i think it depends on how deep the relationship is. yes it is given that on the first few dates men should be financially responsible but as the relationship becomes longer and deeper women also feel that they want to show men how they care about them. there are many ways to show care and love but many of these ways can be done with money, so there.
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• Pakistan
10 Jan 08
i dont think that the statement is true. mostly men take care annd they should do that.
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@okwusman1 (2249)
• Abuja, Nigeria
10 Jan 08
why do you say so? women are chasing men these days, even when a woman needs a husband and they want to get married, probably the man is jobless or has no money, it the woman that settles all the bills for the wedding. most times women who are old and need men can do anything to have them and retain them. i do not believe it is a bad thing to do, you use what you have to get what you want... period.
@eden32 (3978)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I agree that women shouldn't be paying a man's bills; all adults should be responsible for their own finances. But gifts are gifts. If I want to treat my partner to lunch, then I pick up the tab. If he wants to buy me a present, he pays for it.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I can't say I agree with you on this one. If a woman wants to be respected as an equal than she should have no problem picking up the tab occassionally. I'm not saying that makes it right for a man to sponge off a woman but each situation is different. When my hubby and I got together I had a better job than he did and was used to taking care of myself. When we moved in together we split the bills 50/50. When I got pregnant and had the baby I didn't want to give up my career and he stayed home for the first two years with her. There were a lot of people who frowned upon our arrangement but it worked for us. There's more to being taken care of than just finances. We both work now and our money is just that... our money. It all gets pooled together, the bills get paid, and we have an agreement that neither of us can spend more than $100 an non necessities without consulting the other.