There have been a lot of discussions about birthdays.......

United States
January 10, 2008 7:35am CST
mine is coming up on the 19th. Yesterday my s/o asked me what I had planned for my birthday, and I replied, 'I don't know, why?' Thinking he had something in mind. Well he did, a birthday party, no, not for me, we had been invited to a surprise birthday party for someone else, on my birthday! I really didn't answer him, but later I got to thinking, 'yeah, just what I want to do, celebrate someone else's birthday, on mine'. So, am I just being selfish, cause I'm normally not a selfish person, or would you feel the same?
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@musicman6 (2370)
• United States
10 Jan 08
To me I would think there is an underlying "reason" for this, that is what I would suspect! Or maybe mention it non-chalantly in a conversation!
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• United States
10 Jan 08
Maybe you and tyc are right, maybe he has an alterior motive. I was thinking of just asking him, if he had replied to the invitation (actually it came by phone call) or what his answer was to the invite, and see what he says.
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@ElicBxn (60810)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Birthdays are pretty special days and you s/o should've been planning to do something for you, even if it was just to take you out to eat special before or after the party. So many bad things have happened around my birthday that its hard to make it feel really special, and then it sometimes lands on Thanksgiving - so I claim the holiday for my birthday - had a boss going on that one back in the 1970's!
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• United States
10 Jan 08
I like that about claiming the holiday for your birthday, it reminds me of a story my s/o told me about his little girl when she was about 4. Her birthday is Christmas Day, and he was taking her over to her grandma's house, she saw all the lights and asked him 'how does all these people know it's my birthday?' LOL
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• United States
10 Jan 08
If I were in your situation, I would go to the other persons surprise party, and not think twice about celebrating that person's birthday on mine, but if the s/o doesn't have anything planned for you before or after... then sparks would fly!!!
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
10 Jan 08
Maybe it is a surprise party for you and that is just his cover up to get you there? If it is for someone else see if he will take you out to dinner before the party, even if you are late getting there to jump out and holler "surprise" it is your day too.
• United States
10 Jan 08
Thanks, I do know that it is actually for someone else, I figure he'll plan something like this for my big 50 (omg, that's only 2 years away!!) I would like to do something for my birthday, Heather is here too, so maybe we can go to lunch or something, I just thought it was strange that he would want to go knowing it's on my birthday. Then I thought, maybe I was just being silly about it. But, you of all people, know how big of a thing we always made of birthdays lol
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@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
10 Jan 08
If you were still here we would do something to celebrate your birthday. :)
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
19 Jan 08
Thank you for the best response. :) I appreciate that very much. Happy Birthday. Have you found out any more from Dan about the surprise party tonight? Has he made other plans for just the two of you? Either way I am wishing you the best of birthday's ever, wish you were here though my friend.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
11 Jan 08
Well, if I were you, I would feel the same. Maybe your s/o wanted to see how you would like the party so that he can get some ideas and arrange one for you in two years time. If your s/o could pre-arrange and put you both birthdays fellow together in the same party, it will be better, more fun and special!