adhd

Canada
January 13, 2008 10:07am CST
How old were your children when they were diagnosed with ADHD or ADD. My daughter is 2 and a half and she is very busy...active...spirited. Which ever you call it she exhausts me. My nephew is ADHD and my husband was as well. I don't think I should worry about it until she goes to school she just has to be kept busy at all times...and i do pretty good she loves puzzles. My only concern is she does not sleep good at night. Night mares and night terrors. I am Usually up 2-3 times with her through the night no matter if she has a nap or if we are really busy all day long...Like walking, park, games, everything. I think at this point I am more curious than worried just because she is learning and it doesn't seem to be a HUGE problem...Yet.
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• United States
13 Jan 08
Oh I can feel your pain. My son was diagnosed with ADHD and ODD at 3years old. Just to stop responses in their track, you can tell the difference between "normal" child behavior and a child that has problems. I dealt with the night terrors and I tried the Benadryl and it didn't work at all. He was put on Tenex and it worked great! Also, I have been putting him to sleep earlier and that seemed to work too. No matter how busy you seem to keep them the energy will be there!
• Canada
13 Jan 08
Well this is my second child and I keep telling my oldest you were Never this bad when you were this young. And like I said I'm not looking to put her on anything yet...She is learning and she plays with other kids and stuff...Just getting ready for the What Ifs. Putting him to bed EARLIER helped...She fights me tooth and nail some nights to go to bed. She actually said...i laugh when i remember this....theres a spider in my bed one night. I had to go back into her room shake all the blankets out and look under her bed before she would get back in bed...it was funny but said too cause she was crying. But maybe I will try the earlier to bed thing....Nothing has worked yet so i'm willing to try anything to get her to sleep the whole night. thanks for the info.
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• United States
13 Jan 08
It is just trial and error..My son went almost 6 months with the night terrors then they all of a sudden stopped! I don't really think there is anything for this except patience!!! Good luck
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@lightningd (1041)
• United States
13 Jan 08
Please don't jump to the ADHD conclusion just yet. Kids at 2-3 years old are developing their imagination, and also becoming more active. If she is able to concentrate on learning new tasks or doing puzzles, I wouldn't think she has ADD. As for her high activity level, she's a kid, and honnestly just bing around a 2-6 year old exhausts me. She is at the age where she is going to be more inquisitive, and thus, more active. The nightmare issues, well, I'm not sure what would be causing them, but I used to have bad horribile dreams as a little kid. I think it is just the product of a child having a very vivid and active imagination. At that age, I'm not sure there's any trauma she could have encountered that would cause the night terrors. Maybe she's seeing things on tv that may have scared her. Are they an every night thing, or just sporadically? Maybe keep a journal of your nightly or evening activities and document when she has the night terrors. Then I would take that information to the doctor if it persists. But it could be as simple as seeing something that scared her that day. Maybe if she's had a high stress day, you could read her a fun story or watch a fun show that might help her be calm when she falls asleep. Hope that helps!
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• United States
13 Jan 08
I forgot to mention, my son was diagnosed with ADD in 5th grade. But there are so many kids who are misdiagnosed with it. I was hessitant to put him on medication, but it has helped him, (Strattera) to concentrate in school.
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• Canada
13 Jan 08
I'm not jumping to any conclusions yet, I'm trying to gather info for the WHAT IFS that might come up, this is my second child and I have a step daughter. Neither one of them were ever half as bad as she is...she doesn't listen time out doesn't work, she is constantly on the go moving from one thing to the next. But i am giving her the benefit of the doubt...she is only 2 and i don't want to rush out and medicate her just because she is busy, if she has problems in school then we will go from ther ebut i still have 3 years before that happens...thanks for the info tho i appreciate it.
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@speedy1279 (2667)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I have two children of my own and a stepson with my husband. Only one of them is ADHD and that is my son (from a previous relationship). He was just diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 1/2. Like you I started noticing things weren't right when he was about 18 mos., but no doctors would diagnose him because he was too young. From what I have read about your daughter, she may very well have ADHD. My son was very similar to yours. Time outs never worked and it seemed like he had hearing problems. Because he would never listen. If I tried talking to him from a distance, he would not make eye contact with me. He would just look around and never look at me (like he couldn't hear me). So I would actually have to get right in his face and hold his head to look at me and even then his eyes would wonder. My sons main problem is focusing but he also is slightly hyperactive. He could be playing with something and being calm then all of a sudden he would just start screaming and running around like a wild animal out of no where. It was like a light switch was turned on. The only difference from your child is, mine never had the nightmares, so I am sorry I can't be more helpful on that part. Like someone else stated. There is a difference between "normal" 2 year old behavior and those that do have ADHD. Yes, normal 2 year old children are full of energy. But the difference between them and a child the same age with ADHD is a normal 2 year old will eventually wear down and get tired. Where a child with ADHD will not, they seem to have an endless supply of energy that never goes away. I do understand your concerns at such a young age and that you do want to wait until they are older. Fact is most doctors won't even test children for ADHD until they are school age. To me that is a good thing. Those doctors that won't test until they are school age are the doctors that you don't have to worry as much about misdiagnosing them. They understand that not every child has it. Of course all misdiagnosed children is not always the result of poor doctors. You also have the parents who should never be parents that just don't have the patients to deal with thier normal children so they immediately assume the child is ADHD and go find doctors that will test them and stick them on medication. Now I understand that this is not something that you talked about in your discussion, but I wanted to touch on this because you have had responses saying too many children get misdiagnosed. Anyways, the best suggestions I could give you for now is: One, research ADHD/ADD. That way you won't be surprised about anything when your child gets older and you decided to have her tested. There are many statistics that will surprise you and also there are other conditions and learninig disabilities that come with a child having ADHD/ADD. For example: My son who is ADHD also has OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and has a speech delay learning disability. Second suggestion: keep a daily journal of your childs behaviors. That will become helpful in seeing patterns of abnormal behavior. Well, I wish you the best of luck and you are doing the right thing about waiting until your daughter turns school age. I hope everything works out. Best of luck.
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• Canada
14 Jan 08
Thanks for the great response, i needed this kind of feed back. My husband is OCD, His thing is the house has to be clean alllllll the time. He gets very frustrated when it is not...now having said that he is getting better. Because he has spent time with my daughter and realizes how much of a busy child she is so for me to keep the house spotless is a tiresome job. She is a very demanding child and has to have the attention all the time. I will do some more research on it. My oldest sisters son is ADHD and he is now 20 years old she said that he would sit and do MENSA puzzles so i might look that kind of stuff up as well as behaviour modification. She said that helped him alot. He had the night terrors and would sleep walk. CRAZY she has done this a couple of times to me as well. So it looks like I'm in for a long battle with her...But I am up for the challenge. I think a journal is a very good idea. Thanks so much for the response.
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• United States
14 Jan 08
You are very welcome. I am glad that I was able to help in some way. I have sent you a friend request. If you accept it, feel free to message me anytime you have any questions. I will try to help the best I can. Also, thank you for the best response. God Bless!
@bellaofchaos (11550)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I have on child who has ADD and she was diagnosed when she was 4 1/2 and my son was diagnosed with ADHD which was around 4-5 closer to 5. Before you make any decisions about anything you must make sure you have all the information about Adhd/ADD here is a site that you can check out about it. http://www.add-adhd.org/ADD_attention-deficit.html and here is a site that has information on night terrors. www.nightterrors.org Good luck.
• United States
19 Jan 08
ok was checking my links and the add one wasn't working here is the correct one. http://www.add-adhd.org/ADHD_attention-deficit.html
• United States
15 Jan 08
I knowing my daughter ran a risk for adhd, recognized the signs immediately. 2 year olds can be pretty crazy. My daughter's first sign was the fact that she stopped taking a nap when she was one year old. The next was that she would only fall asleep if I could get her to lay still, either strapping her into her car seat, or laying with her in bed and telling her to stop moving, every 30 seconds or so. By the time she was 3 both her doctor and I knew, but children have to grow and be children. My daughter now takes meds for her adhd, which I don't like giving her. We tried several diets(certain food allergies or sensitivities can have the same "hyperactive" effect). Off her meds she is a C student, on them she is an A student. Off her meds she only hears about 25 percent of what anyone says and she forgets things within seconds of you saying them(imagine discipline huh?). We have to tilt her chin up, make her look us in the eye and say "Don't touch the dvd player? What did I say?" She knows the process, and repeats it back, then remembers it for awhile. Also very impulsive, which can be scary. Even knowing the difference between right and wrong, she might just look at the yellow line on the road and decide to walk on it. Until she realized what she was doing, but the thought comes AFTER the action. Good luck.