If you ameliorate those in grief or difficulties, that itself is a achievement
16 Jan 08
I do agree that one needs to experience for oneself how great a contribution it is to be there for someone who needs a comforting touch. It is only when one has gone through the pain that he is more able to appreciate the need to be there for one who is grieving or in difficulties. Personally, I have received such comfort and at times, just the presence is enough. Hence, I am often there when one needs me, provided he is willing to seek my presence. I do hesitate to meet those in need when I know they prefer to be alone and will be uncomfortable with company.
16 Jan 08
Do not look at the success and failures. It only requires bent of mind to be at the hour of crisis for someone you know. That is more than sufficient. With your own participation, the problem may not be solved, but many people like you would have gone and spoken words of comfort which collectively may help that person to get back to normalcy or even more vigorously to lead that person's life.
14 Jan 08
Hello dear ssh. I think that most of the cases that I can help those in difficulties or those who meet with some problems are my students. I would like to talk to you about one of my girl students whose mother does not seem to understand her very well because of some lack of trust in her and is always so picky to her. This student of mine is a very diligent student, working very hard trying to reach the best result that she can achieve in her study. Now what she feels gloomy about is that each time when she gets home, she is always very happy to tell her mother about what she has achieved and is planning to do, but it seems that her mother is always trying to find her fault without saying some encouraging words to her, making her feel so disappointed. This girl trusts me and talks to me about her problem with her mother. I am glad that I can make her feel better after we have a heart-to-heart talk. I do hope that her mother will see more of the good sides of her loved daughter without being so picky to her, as parents' encouragment to their kids could make a great difference to them in their life and study...