getting a 5 year old to sleep in his bed

United States
January 14, 2008 6:14pm CST
I have a fiver year old son, that I am about to my wits end with everything, I cannot get him to sleep in his bed. He will start out there but you can guarentee that he will be back in my bed by morning. I have tried the thing of sending him back to his room, but it seems like I never get any sleep even the other night I told him that as long as he was in my bed we werent going to sleep, well he went and got into his bed,but a couple of hours later here he came. I am running out of ideas. Does anybody have any ideas on this.
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@JaLuvYa (175)
• United States
15 Jan 08
I wish I could help you but truth is... my daughter is eight and she still sleeps with me. I gave up a few years ago I think. But I'm single and don't date really, so it's no fuss. But she knows if mommy ever gets married again she is going to have to go sleep in that expensive bed I brought her-lol. I tried all kinds of stuff... several trips back in forth in the middle of the night to her room to put her back to bed, night lights, falling to sleep with her in her room, I even sunk as low as bribery... no luck though. I hope you have better luck than me... at this rate I'm going to have to wait till she's a teenager and one of her friends tell her it's lame to sleep with her mommy-lol. Many Blessings- JA
@sweetcakes (3505)
• United States
15 Jan 08
hello If you do not want him sleeping with you, bring him back to his room every time he gets up. If you do this consistently in a no-fuss way so he is not getting extra attention, he'll quickly stop coming into your bed.
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@garnet80 (354)
• Australia
17 Jan 08
My son likes to put toys such as his teddies or bike in bed with him. Some nights he starts off in my bed and we cover the toys up with pillows so they can sleep. We do the same in his room. To keep him in bed I tell him to make sure the toys stay in his room and are not naughty and get up and play. It works most nights.
• United States
17 Jan 08
I tried something like this not to long ago. He has giant poo so I put him at the foot of his bed to protect him and his big giant frog in his door way to keep people from going in there, then I tucked him with all of his little stuff animals. Turned on all of his lamps he has 2 of them. He has lightining mcqueen, and another little lamp that sits by his bed. We have his bed up against the wallnext to our room next to our bed. so I tell him I am right next door right next to the wall and that is where I sleep. but the night I tried it with all the stuff animals he lasted maybe a little bit longer then him and 3 friends came and joined me.lol.
• India
15 Jan 08
does ur son sleep in the afternoon if so then dont let him sleep at that time rather make him exaust in his studies or let him play so that by night he gets too much tierd n after dinner make him sleep in his room i guess this may be the solution bcoz as he will be exausted by playing n doing hiz work that he will be asleep by night n will not disturb u try it out n if it does work then do tell me
• United States
17 Jan 08
his kindergarten keeps those kids so busy they maybe get to lay down and rest for about 10 to 15 minutes a day. I thought maybe I should start waking him up early. so he will be tired at the end of the day. but here lately getting him up in the morning is a little rought.
@barehugs (8985)
• Canada
15 Jan 08
He needs an incentive to sleep in his own bed. Like if he sleeps in his own bed he gets a prize. Lets say, he might get a special breakfast on every morning that he wakes up in his own bed You can do something special for him if he does something special for you.Takes two to Tango!
15 Jan 08
I was a nanny for many years before i became ill, and the techniques would be as the other poster said, even if it means you getting up with him throughout the night to put him back then you must follow it through. If you are not waking up when he sneaks in put something on your door that will make a noise to alert you, then you may even get to him before he gets into your bed.. Hope this helps..
• Canada
15 Jan 08
My Step daughter was like this. She slept with her mom until she was 4 or 5 years old. We took her for a week and when got her in her own bed....it was hard was husband got very frustrated with her and had to take a walk. You hsve to keep putting them back in there bed and telling them no and trust me there are going to be tears...It is not going to be easy. You will be exhausted but it will work if you keep with it and just keep putting him nack in his new bed...I'm sure you have tried the night lights and all that other stuff. You can also offer him a really big reward if you can afford it...Such as new bed sheets or something like that or a trip somewhere...not like disney land but like a day at the pool or some other local attraction that you may have near you. We bough her a new bed and new sheets and that after she was in her own bed for a week by herself. It took alot of effort from all of us but wwe got it done. YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT. My 2 year old is trying to pull that one on me she keeps waking up and coming into our room and saying sleep in mommies bed. I tell her no and take her back in her bed and lay with her for a bit...sometimes i admit i do fall asleep, because I am exhausted but it is better than being in my bed with her. I have no idea why children like getting into bed with us...My oldest, she is 7 now went through a stage of that 2 and I had to keep getting up and putting her back to bed...some nights she ended up in our bed because I was exhausted and pregnant, but we got through it finally, bad dreams are buggers....One more suggestion. Remove all sugar for a bit to see if he stops waking through the night...especailly red colored sugars...like cool aid. That is a sure firer way for kids to have nightmares and get up and seek the comfort of a parent. well i have to stop blabbing. I hope some of this helps, let me know how it goes.