do u will attend the wedding of ur former girlfriend?

China
January 16, 2008 10:41am CST
do u miss ur first love and first lover strongly?would u feel sorry if she is going to marry another man?if she invited u to attend her wedding,is it possible to go to the wedding feast for u?r u sure u won"t feel blue,u still can keep sober?actually,it's really an annoying thing for us.i have a view that if u think a girl is the only girl u love,pls love her with all ur heart.never let regret left.all my friends in the mylot,wish u will find the true love sincerely!
9 responses
• United States
16 Jan 08
I hope a lady like me can answer this issue. ;) I don't mind attending an ex-boyfriend's wedding. O have gotten over them all. But I would not for decency's sake. I don't think the bride would be comfortable seeing me in her wedding. And I don't think I would be comfortable letting my husband attend one of his ex-girlfriends wedding. Not everyone will agree with me, but I think it is best for ex-lovers to just forget what they had and stay as strangers after they broke up so as not to hurt their current squeeze.
• China
17 Jan 08
haha,thx.i will do the same as u do.even now i dare not talking with a girl i ever express my love before though she dont have boyfriend now.i consider that we r the most familiar strangers after she refused my love and i dont need to cling to her
@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
16 Jan 08
hmm.. funny for me to have read this topic.. back then, i was so damn afraid for this kind of thing to happen. i had a girlfriend i loved so much. but then, we were young (in highschool) and needed to go our separate ways. fortunately, we kept our friendship. we started out as really good friends and ended up better than ever. and up to now, we still keep seeing each other even though we have different partners. but this time, we just see each other, spend some time together, and catch up. now, i guess, we're nearing the inevitable for both of us.. marriage.. unfortunately, not with each other.. we do love each other.. but we don't think it would work out. .. hehehe.. sorry, i can't help telling a bit of the story.. .. anyway, in my case, if she invited me to her wedding, i'd be more than happy to see her in such an important occasion. besides, her current boyfriend knows me pretty well coz back then before their relationship started, this guy already hears about me coz my ex talks about me (when asked, of course) with her friends. and yeah, my current girl knows about this ex coz i've introduced them to each other a few years ago.
• China
17 Jan 08
one of my friends have broke up with her boyfriend cos they r far away between two universities.but then,same as u said,they keep connection and friendship.my friend always talk about her former bf although they r broke.they blessed each other.this is really a good example for the point that former lovers can be good friends.so r repzkoopz and ur former gf .thx for ur recomment
@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
17 Jan 08
well, hehe.. i guess we're lucky to have started as real close friends.. we didn't get to become best friends though, but our closeness was quite good enough. i know a lot of people not having ended as good as us. so i really think of it as a blessing. and the bigger blessing, my current gf doesn't mind if me and my ex meet from time to time (mostly because we have a lot of common friends and like to meet up). and i make it a point not to give my current any reason to be jealous or mad. and i don't intend to break that trust she's given me. c',)
@wisedragon (2331)
• Philippines
16 Jan 08
Well I have gotten over my ex and I have no more bitterness against her, but we're not friends either. I don't think she would invite me to her wedding but if she does, I think it would be best if I don't attend. It would be awkward for everybody when it's supposed to be the happiest day of their lives. I wouldn't want my bride's ex-boyfriend to be there at our wedding, but if my girlfriend wanted to attend her ex-boyfriend's wedding I would have no problem with it. It would mean that she's completely over him and that she's willing to put all that behind her.
• China
17 Jan 08
yep,the best way after broke up was put all behind us and look ahead.we should trust that god will show us another lover better than the former one! thx,wisedragon
@angieang (262)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Ah, I would have to say, yea, I would go to a wedding of a former boyfriend. (Kind of flipping the script to work my way since I am the woman and I date men.) The key word is former... most relationships have ended for a good reason, even when people claim they can get over an event the happening is always going to be at the back of one in the relationships mind. First loves are first loves for a reason, they teach you to love and to heal from the heartbreak, sure the love will always be there, but isn't their happiness what ultimately made you happy to be with them before? And they are obviously happy with the one they chose!
• China
17 Jan 08
thx for ur recomment.happy everyday for u and ur friend haha
• United States
17 Jan 08
I am very close with all my exes. I even hang out with them on regular basis. It would be very very awkward to attend their wedding. I would do it out of respect of course. I am supposed to be their friend. PLUS they would have to do the same for me.....so it would be a mutual awkardness
@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
17 Jan 08
If she's happy, then so am I and I wouldn't feel sorry for it. If she invites me, then I will go and be there for it is only a sign that I have forgotten whatever past it is that we had. For me, past is just a part of what I USED to be. When future comes and both of you have different lives already, you will understand how that past has thought to be what you are right now. In short, don't let the past control you and hold you just because of those unpleasant memories you had with her..
• India
17 Jan 08
Yes I always miss my first love. But i will definately attend the wediing of of my former friend if we are seperated conciously with mutual understanding. I donot see any harm in it we had good time together and I will definately attend her wedding if she invites me and is happy with this wedding.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
17 Jan 08
I dont see anything wrong in it if you are still friends...If you still have love for her then i suggest you shud never be in that place..
@nkhanna (926)
• India
17 Jan 08
well i think i would definately go.well this tihng happened to me.my first boyfriend ditched me and got married to another girl.his family and mine were good friends so they has invited us.its was really tough for me to go and even my parents resisted me but i went thier with a strong heart.i did see the marriage and to tell you my honest feeling i was not at all feeling bad since i the bottom of my heart i knew it was his loss and not mine.i moved ahead in life with him after his marriage.i dont where he is know and neither do i want to know.its a tough decision but i took it.and now i am with a man who loves me more than anyone could.i am thankful to god that he is my man.and even thankful to that guy since if he hadnt left me i would not have such a loving and caring hubby.i really thank god for everything.this is actually fate and thats why its said that whatever god does is for our benefit.