What Do You Look For In A Man ? Looks ? ,Steady Good job ? Personality ? What ?
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
United States
January 16, 2008 3:09pm CST
First I look at the heart where the feelings reside.Looks are nice to look at but if you really want to be happy with a man you want to have someone with a good heart.If he has a good heart he'll be good to you.Then he must have a decent
job,I would look at how his finances and my finances would work together.Money is important whether we like it or not.
money,and not enough of it can cause problems in a relationship.Do you set certain standards ? I'm married now but these
were the standards that I had.
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@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
My husband and my likes and dislikes are pretty different too.A good personality makes a person likeable so thats a good part of a persons character.
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
You are the first one to say he needs to be a good father.That is very important in being a father to be caring and loving.He does't have to have a great job or make lots of money.The father part yeah,woman have to look at that one real hard.A good parent to set a good example for their kids is a must,having a good society depends on this.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
17 Jan 08
when i first started to date ,, long ago, i always looked at their eyes first. you can kind of tell by what they look like,, if they are nice, or sneaky, or liars,, many things show in eyes. when i met my husband the first thing i noticed were his beautiful ocean blue eyes,, and how kind they were. (the rest was hot too), but his eyes said everything.. even now 27 years later, just by looking into his eyes makes me know how much he loves me,, and how much i love him!
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Well,you just might have discovered a way to find a good man.Maybe there is some truth in that.I've heard that the window to the soul is through the eyes.Ok,women that are still looking for a man,look in the eyes and see if they show kindness.If they don't show kindness,run.Thanks for that important tool to finding a good man.
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
17 Jan 08
Im not looking for a perfect man for me as long as we understand to each other,well I found that on my husband,he may not so perfect but I love the way he is,we lived happily now and that is because of God he is the center of our relationship.
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I myself think that God being the center of both of your lives is very important.Without him that old devil can
do a number on a marriage.
@Fang_Huang (136)
• China
17 Jan 08
Personality I think is the most important thing which will let us get on well with each other as we decide to get marriage and will live togher for a long period. The second is decent job as most of us know that life will become hard if we meet finance problems that we have to check our earnings is enough for our life.
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
A person with a good personality makes them likeable for sure.A decent job is what I think is important also.
Financial problems can break a marriage.Its not a great thing to go into a marriage without being able to make ends meet.
@honeylore23 (1081)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Well, i usually look on man's inner characteristics. How he should respect to woman, that really matters to me. SEcond, compatibility; Third he must have a steady job, he may not be rich but at least has a decent job. Looks comes in the last criteria.
Well all do set standards, but those standards are not meant to be followed perfectly, because we can't guess who will be our partner, it would just made us disappoint in the end. But standards can be our guide in choosing the right man.
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
Setting standards to be our guide and then trying to come close to the standards that we have set.Sounds like a very smart way to go about it.We must all set standards in order not to end up with a total loser but know that the one we find is not going to match up perfectly to the standards we set.Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I had standards of course :) If you have no standards, you'll marry a loser. I of course had to be attracted as far as looks go. Being rich isn't important, but having control over the money you do have is and making a liveable amount was important too. Overall though, I liked my husband's humor and personality the most :)
@janisspaggiari59 (656)
• United States
17 Jan 08
A good sense of humor and a good personality go good together.Nobody should ever ever marry a loser thats for certain.
