Would u tell your loved ones if u know that u only had a few more months to live

dying bee - A dying bee
@kun2349 (23381)
Singapore
January 16, 2008 10:48pm CST
WOuld u tell them?? ANd why?? For me, i will rather not tell them so as to not make them grieve for so long and worry about me when i'm bound to be dead soon.. Instead of making them worry with me, i might as well give them happy memories b4 i die.. Wat's your opinion, do u feel the same way??? Or u got a different opinion??
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
18 Jan 08
hi kun! ^__^ i think i will keep it a secret too. (i'm secretbear after all. LOL) if people would know that i am dying, they would surely feel pity for me and i wouldn't like that. most of the times, when people pity me, i tend to pity myself too. i would feel weak, my spirit will go down low, and i'll probably die early than i am supposed to be because of depression. .
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Jan 08
you're right kun. its hard to be optimistic when people around you pities you. its hard to smile when people around you are sad about you. ^.^
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
21 Jan 08
probably right. it will not be an act of selfishness, we just want to deprive them of sadness and loneliness. and yeah, its better to end things with a smile. and who wants to be remembered as a sick and ugly person?? not me. ^__^;;
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Jan 08
yeah.. And by doing so, we are not selfish, but instead, we trying to give them as much as we can within that short period of time.. Though can make them happy for just a while, it's still better than being sad all the time ^_^
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• Philippines
18 Jan 08
I will not tell it to anyone. I guess I'll just make the most out of it. Forgive and forget, Be happy, Meet everyone, smile at everyone, smile at life and begin talking to God. I'll just do the things that makes me happy.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
19 Jan 08
hmmmmm.. yeah, be prepared for a new life, treat everyone nice and have a better next life :)
@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Jan 08
I think I will tell my husband about this bad news immediately. After all, I want to settle down things well after I leave. And we can cherish the left time we have. It's better for him to prepare for it rather than suddenly get a terrible news.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
18 Jan 08
hmmm. that's true, giving time to prepare the things after leaving.. But i will only do that myself in the dark so that after i leave, everything is well taken care of.. I will write a letter to let her know too..
@nkhanna (922)
• India
17 Jan 08
well i think i do agree with you.even i would also not tell this tihng ot my loved ones since i know they will try to save me and they will also be grieving for me,whereas i want to leave tihs world seeing a smile on everyone's face.i cannot see tears in my loved ones eyes.i will want to live the time that i have in my hand giving joys to others so that they remember me with a smile and not with tears in thier eyes.i will try to make those moments just a memorable for my loved ones.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
18 Jan 08
yup.. we are not selfish in this way but i just think that it's the best thing to do.. WAt i can really do for her b4 i leave is to die in her arms.. Is it cruel to do so??