Do Timid Mice Get Respect?
January 17, 2008 12:04pm CST
Imagine if you would a colleague at work who is very quiet, is very willing and eager and won't let anyone down, and more importantly can't or won't say no! They are so frightened of upsetting anyone or saying no, that they will bend over backwards to help or do things, even if it means inconveniencing themselves or making a lot more work for themselves. They will let anyone from the cleaner to the MD walk over them without uttering a bad word Would you respect them?Would you respect someone who couldn't stick up for themselves, who won't disagree or refuse anything or is always eager to please What if it's a friend and they allow anyone and everyone to walk all over them, they are soooo passive and timid and shy. They allow themselves to be used Would you respect them?Conclusion is it really a dog eat dog world or do passive mice get the respect? Are you a mouse? Or do you know any mice?
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26 Jan 08
First, I would not take advantage of that person. And second, I would feel for them and maybe in time have a little talk with them about it. I would just explain that it is okay to say no and don't let others take advantage of you. But I would definitly befriend them first before talking to them. I wouldn't want to be that kind of person and out of respect for them I would not take it very lightly. If I had to I would talk to my supervisor about it and have it stopped by her/his actions. I have done this in the past, helped a mouse by talking to her and helping her to change her behavour. She ended up getting better at the job she was hired to do, not everyone elses, and she advanced in the company. I say, good for her.
• United States
18 Jan 08
I am a very shy and quiet person. I also am very nice and I do like doing things for people. I don't always speak up when people walk on me and they have because there are alot of people out there that will and do use anyone that they "feel" they can. My speaking up to them is not going to magically change them into kind and considerate people. I will say this...once I realize that a person is using me or taking advantage of me...the kindness will end and I won't care. My daughter is just like I am. So many people just assume that really nice and quiet people are pushovers and doormats. I don't always "stick up" for myself openly and defensively because to be honest, I don't find that I need to justify myself to these people. their actions and words say far more about them than they do me. I've learned so much about people from the people who will take advantage of the shy quiet person who likes to help. When I was much younger, I was probably just as you described but I was naive as to how many many people are small enough to take advantage of such a person. unbelievable. Yes, I learned alot...and now as soon as I sense a person is taking advantage, I just quietly move on. Quiet people have their place too.
18 Jan 08
Some people act the way you describe in order to suck up and win favors. Either from the boss or even co-workers. Others do it because it is their nature to be gentle and kind. I have seen both kinds of people. It would greatly respect the one who has it in their nature to help. The other is just doing it for their own gain.
17 Jan 08
I would feel sorry for them. Some people are quiet, I am that myself, but I know when to say no. So the trouble is not that this man is quiet, willing and eager to please, and will not let anyone down. They are afraid to say no. Maybe you should or get someone to talk to him to tell him that no one would hate him if he refuses to do something and that the other person may have been told to do that by the boss, and he is just putting it off. In other words, he can just be a little less passive and get more things done that way. Who knows if the boss wants him to do something that will earn him a promotion but the weasels are keeping him from doing it?
17 Jan 08
I think I would respect them and I would certainly try to respect them by not asking more than necessary of them and abusing their nature! I wish there were more people who would do the same as I hate to see people like that being taken for granted and taken to their limits! Having said all that I do think there are many people who wouldn't respect that but I actually feel sorry for them - I would hate to use people for what I could get out of them - doesn't say much for their quality of life does it - the people who use them that is! xxx
• United States
17 Jan 08
This is a quote from Philomythus to Misomythus by JJ Tolken "Blessed are the timid hearts that evil hate that quail in its shadow, and yet shut the gate; that seek no parley, and in guarded room, though small and bate, upon a clumsy loom weave tissues gilded by the far-off day hoped and believed in under Shadow's sway." I try to respect everyone..without the quiet mouse we would never appreciate the opposite..Thankfully the world is not full of all the same people.. We all grow at our own pace! xoxoxoxoxo