At what age did you have your First Child??

@stacy624 (2777)
Canada
January 17, 2008 5:01pm CST
I am a mom to 8 Wonderful Children 3 Girls and 5 Boys! I had my first daughter when I was 18 years of age. Looking back although I would never take back having my children I just wished I knew more about partening then I did. I was wondering if anyone else has felt this and what changes did or were able to make? Happy Posting Friends Stacy
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• Canada
17 Jan 08
I had my first when I was 25 and about to have my second and I'm 29. I thought at 25 that I could of waited a bit longer but I had a pretty good idea of what I was doing. I sometimes wonder if at 29 I'm ready to have 2 :) 8 kids? You must be busy lol
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
Yes we are always on the go ....The good thing is that Dad works from home so it makes it way eaiser when he is 50 % hands on. Gives me a chance to do this and a little that ....=) What is the gender of your first child and do you know what this little bundle of joy is? When are you due?
• Canada
17 Jan 08
My first born is a little boy named Owen. We are having another boy, due in March. We have picked the name Aiden.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I Love it .....Both are very Nice and not so popular names. When is your baby due?
• Canada
17 Jan 08
i had my first one at 20 my second at 25 and my 3rd (and LAST) at 27
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
are these Your Beautiful Children? What are their names?
• Canada
17 Jan 08
yep thems my 3 babies, Cheyanne 7, Logan 2, and Gracie now 3 months, she was about 1 1/2 months when i took that picture
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
Those are truly Beautful names....I have a Cierra, Jessica, Britney, Reuben, Jonathan, Adam, Timothy, Ashton =)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I was 33. I wanted earlier but was never with the right person. I have had a fun and good life and happy to be able to stay home with my children and if I had them earlier I would not have been able to afford to.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
That is thinking! For me I got married to the wrong man at 18 we had 4 children in total then headed for a divorce (Thank goodness) anyhow my kids really went through and saw a lot that No children show ever have to see =( Anyhow I have changed the situation and am now with my true Love who I have known since I was 15 he has been so good to my kids getting them on track and since then we had added 4 more boys =) But I am glad it worked in the way it did for you =) Thank you for Sharing Stacy
• United States
18 Jan 08
Most people I know who married at 18 admit it was the wrong person and it doesn't work out so you are not alone. I know if I had married who I thought I loved then it would not have ended well but you live and learn. I do have stepchildren who are teenagers and their mom had them as a teenager so I get some of the experience of what it would be like to have had them that young. But it is different when they are not your own and don't live with you. I always wanted 4 kids but unfortunately I have risky pregnancies so I think we will call it quits at only the two we have together.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
18 Jan 08
We also have 3 girls and 5 boys! But ours is combined so not all came from me...good thing too since I wasn't quite 11 when s/o's oldest was born! I was still too young when my oldest was born and had my 3rd just a week after my 21st birthday. My 6th and last (8th including s/o's 2) was born when I was 27. It did make a big difference in how I've raised them all. I did things so much different with the younger ones than I did with the older ones.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I hear you and have done the same! All 8 Children here had come from just me lol and I am just turning 30 in June. I find I am 100% times better with my last 4 then my first 4 ....I know I cant change the past but guess we just keep going foward =)
@luvstochat (6914)
• United States
18 Jan 08
I was 19 years old when I got pregnant with my son and I was 20 years old when I had him he will be 12 years old in July he has a younger sister who will be 5 in Arpil they sure grow up fast!
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
You are so right they do grow fast my son will be turing 5 in April and is going to be starting school in sept =( Im not sure If im ready to see him go =(
• India
18 Jan 08
My mom is one. She was brought up under extreme discipline and conservative conditions by her parents. Saying no to your parents is arguing, not wanting to speak about your friends is insulting your parents, wanting not to own up something is lying, slapping a child is the accepted and time-honoured way of parental guidance, and what your parents say is sacrosanct…this was her methods of bringing my ‘up’. A mother’s role is next to God’s in a child’s life and I am grateful for the many things she did for me, I mean I would not be where I am today but for her. However, that was not the way of teaching a child the values of life, its lanes & bylanes. With my son, I always try to strike a balance between being liberal and conservative and till now it has worked. But sometime when I do slap him in from of my mother and she takes her grandson’s side, I remind her of how she had treated me more that often for my insignificant mistakes. I try but I cant wipe out the bitterness from my voice and then she says that yes, at that time, she did not know how to treat a child the proper way. But I understand, in her times parenting was not such a big issue as it is now.
• India
18 Jan 08
Sorry, the way I started my response above does sound quite incoherent with the others. I had my only child when I was 27. I did not know anything about parenting apart from what my mom and mom-in-law said, but I have learnt while on the way (like so many of life’s other lessons). One is enough for me though…one life, one love, one husband, one child lol!
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I was 21 when I had my first child and 28 when I had my second and last child. I think I had a pretty good idea about things when I had my son. I had been babysitting kids since I was 11 years old, so I had 10 years of child care experience. I by no means knew everything, but I had a good start.
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
Thats awesome! How old are your children now??
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
17 Jan 08
I was 17 when I had my daughter and 19 when I had my son. I wanted more kids,but my sperm donor became a jerk and I divorced him. I am now remarried and have a ten year old step-daughter. I'd still like another baby but my husband says no....
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
17 Jan 08
Think he would change his mind??? It would be nice for you two to have 1 together =)
• Philippines
19 Jan 08
I was 20 when I gave birth to my son. He is now 3 years old. I was actually clueless on how to be a parent that time. I am glad that my mother is very supportive.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I had my first little one at 22 years of age, and my second when i was 24 years old. I wanted children since i was a teen, and I think I was as ready as I could be. I honestly think that when that little baby is in your arms for the first time, you can't help to be a little overwhelmed, regardless of your age, marital status and financial stability. Thankfully for me, I had and still have all that I wanted in life, and having a child wasn't a massive stressor, and we planned on having one, so that made it much easier.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
19 Jan 08
I had my first child fourteen months after his father and I were wed, I was 23 and a half years old. I have had 6 more pregnancies since then.
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
18 Jan 08
I had my first child when I was 25. One month later, I turned 26. I never knew what to expect. I read all the books i could find, read all advices from internet to educate myself more on parenting. This coupled with advices from mother and MIL has helped me. Now my son is 22 months. I think I had done all I can to bring up my son. Even I asked God to help me and provide me with wisdom. I feel God is guiding me everyday.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
18 Jan 08
I had my one and only son at the age of 31 years and even then I didn't know much about parenting other than what my brothers and sister were going through. I have always wanted to have a child of my own and I am thankful that I met my husband and married, then was able to conceive. We have been trying for another for the past three years and no such luck for us. But that is ok, we are very HAPPY!
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I had my first and only child when I was seventeen. I was unmarried at the time and had to give her up for adoption. In those days, they made you sign the papers in the hospital and that was before you had a look at the baby. Then they tried to keep you from holding the baby. That was to show people that you really did not care for children and since I had a hard time finding a husband until too late, it worked. We had to adopt, but we did not get the babies until they were three months old, so the only 1 day child I held was my granddaughter. I was so upset when I first got my sons, that I did not know anything about raising children, I was so scared I was going to hurt them. I could hardly sleep, I thought they were going to die in the night.