Still be friends after parting?

China
January 17, 2008 11:36pm CST
to begin with, I'm single.ha-ha Could lovers be friends after parting? I have seen some of my classmates' blogs about the subject.They ever believed that their love would be everlasting. but after reading their blogs I know that they all have parted. and in their opinions, it is unbelievable that still keeping friendship with ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. but I wanna keep friendship with my ex-girlfriend though long time haven't I connected with her. what is your opinion?
15 responses
• China
19 Feb 08
It depends. In my case, I will make friend with my ex-girlfriend.Because there was a periond that we spent together,having fun, enjoying joys and sharing sorrows.How can that be forgotten? How can that girl be ignored? So I will persist be friend after parting, no matter what the reason we parting was.
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@celiayun (11)
• China
23 Jan 08
a few days ago,I saw some words like below:If you and your ex's still be friends after parting,then maybe you both were not really in love or one of you devote much more than the other.I don't know if I have expressed myself clear,but I do friend with some of my ex-boyfriends,in my opinion,nothing is really unforgivable,especially after a period of time.after all,time can heal.
• China
1 Apr 08
you are right! Nothing is really unforgivable. Time can helps us forgive any guiltiness. What I can't understand is that why if the lovers really fall in love they could not be friend after parting.Any reason they break up would not make them enemies all the time.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I think that may be harder to do than to say. Especially if trust has been lost. For in love and friendship there has got to be trust. And if one person isn't over the "relationship" when the other moves on it can be hurtful.
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
18 Jan 08
Yes it is possible to be friends after breaking up with someone. Sometimes the boyfriend/girlfriend thingjust doesn't work out. That doesn't mean being friends can't work out. I had an ex boyfriend that stayed my friend. he was my friend and my husbands friend. Also his girlfriend became my bestest friend. We have been friends for 25 yrs. Sadly my ex and husband have both passed on, but me and the girlfriend remain friends and I am also friends with her husband, and he knows the whole story too. I am also friends with my late husbands ex wife and her boyfriend. This is all the truth too, if you care about someone, and the relationship doesn't work out, that doesn't mean you stop caring for them. Life is too short to hold grudges.
@angieang (262)
• United States
18 Jan 08
Yes, lovers can be friends after parting. It may take a while to put some issues away, but if a friendship was there before it can still be there. If both people are able to look past the breakup it's doable. It helps though if the break up was a mutual dicision.
• India
18 Jan 08
Well, according to me it is very difficult to be just friends after breaking up with a person especially if you were deeply committed to dat person. No matter how hard you try, you can't be the same kinda friends you may have once been with your Ex.
@mksneha (862)
• India
18 Jan 08
It is good to keepand maintain friendship with everyone you know
@cosylvia (401)
• China
18 Jan 08
hello,i don tthink so,,i dont like to be friends with the EX-BOYFRIENDs..and i wish him dont break in on my now life...wish you have a good day...
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
18 Jan 08
Hi, I think it is possible to be friends after parting, but still depends on the break up. if they break up so nicely then thet become friends but if their break up is not that good, i think they will not become friends after parting.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
18 Jan 08
I believe this depends on the nature of the break-up, if both have ill-feelings with one another then the chance of befirending the other would be low. A relationship is like a glass, you can never put them altogether as what it used to be. Both can be friends, but the damage has already been done..
• Philippines
18 Jan 08
I think it's not comfortable to be friends to be friend with your ex's. maybe if you started friends before you get in the relationship it be easier for the two of you to adjust but if you dont started with it, it will be difficult.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
18 Jan 08
This depends from person to person. I think there is somehow these people must be trying to be friend. I think it is tough to be jsut friend with your ex after you v=braek up. New lifepartner is bound to come in your ex's life and that is tough to bear i know.so i do not think its taht much feasible.
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
18 Jan 08
it is not possible. you cannot be "just friends" ever again. i thought i would do this after breaking up briefly with a guy after we hit some rough patches...i tried telling him it was impossible but he persisted...we ended up talking once in awhile & getting coffee one night...what can i say? it is two years later and we are married!! all others are usually a terrible set-up for disappointment, jealousy, and what-not. You do not want to stay just friends with someone unless you still have feelings for them. otherwise you tell them to stay far, far away from you. the feelings might be subconcious, which is why a lot of people "swear" it's not the case...but it's the truth.
@diillu (5128)
18 Jan 08
Well, I think it totally depends upon what kind of brek-up or ending people have in the relationship. If it is good term ending then people might be friends after break up. But break-up is usually caused when either one of them is cheating. And when this kind of things happen then I think it is hard to remain friends with the ex. It would be alot difficult.
• United States
18 Jan 08
I think it all depends on how long you dated the person. THe longer you date the person the harder it is to be friends with after a break up. I am not currently friends with any of my ex's thats I dated over a year. But I am still realy good friends with some guys that I only dated for a few months. The ones where you realize right away that theres no chemistry, and that you's were better friends than boyfriend/girlfriend. When theres feelings and a break up someone is gonna end up hurt. So it's like I said it all depends on the circumstances or the breakup and the amount of time that you spent with the person.