FEAR of LOOSING your partner !!

India
January 18, 2008 1:40am CST
I have told this to my BOYFRIEND. I somtimes GET these WEIRED THOUGHTS about loosing my love partner forever.....MAY BE IN AN ACCIDENT OR SOMETHING!! HE said .......he too had this FEELING, but now he WANTS to just LIVE and does NOT let this THOUGHT OF "ME DYING !" come in his mind...... BUT he just cant me umderstand HOW TO CONTROL MY THOUGHTS.... AND this fear keeps on crawling back time and again!! I wish to know if there is anyone who has this problem too and let me know "HOW YOU DEAL WITH IT??"
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@rakleen (566)
• India
25 Jan 08
don't think trash......just enjoy life and believe in god. he is great
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• India
25 Jan 08
Halleluiah!! THANKS!! THAT WAS REALLY ENCOURAGING :).....
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@rsa101 (16909)
• Quezon City, Philippines
18 Jan 08
I guess what we usually do when fear comes is to shift your thoughts away from it. I think at first it may be hard to do but then if you keep on thinking fear it will always stay there. Get yourself distracted by something else that will make your mind think of other things rather than focusing on it. It is only you who can really get rid of it. Thinking positive things in life will help you overcome that fear later on.
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• India
18 Jan 08
hi, I do believe in what you said, that fear stays when we think more......but the feeling of loosing is a bit too strong in me....and it may take more time to relieve me than it takes with usual people. thanks for answering....
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• India
18 Jan 08
There are many of us who facethe same problem. FEAR of LOOSING whom we love. Its really difficult to do anything about these fears. All we can do is accept it and should love our partners as if there is no tomorrow. An that may make ua more diverted from the fear and you know what, love can even make the diening live. So keep on loving!!
• United States
25 Jan 08
nobod like to have another person control their thougts or desires...i miss having a fling now and then just to see if I got the magic..but no..i still have te magic wand but the magic is gone..its not the size of the wand but the magic in it... i deal with this by growing up and forgetting about what once was and think about how much i would lose if I let my emotions go wild...not to long ago i was in a club and this girl sat on my lap and started to tell me she like older guys and yadda yadda yadda..so I had to tell her that she was a cutie pie but my wife is standing two feet away and she better move before my asawa really gets mad...she always trust me..and knows I can look but don't touch...I don't want to eat in the restaurant but sometimes I like to look at the menu
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• India
25 Jan 08
i dont know what would i loose if i keep on thinking about the negetive stuff.......i think its one of the resons that i dont stop them from entering my mind!!
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• United States
25 Jan 08
just think good thoughts and good things will happen to you..it does wonders for your soul to look at the things you have and not what you are missing... I had an ex..say "you wanna go out on you birthday" ..she knew my wife was out of town..so I told her thanks for the invite but I am staying home...just me and the dog and I could not do this to my wife as I would not want her to do this to me...she would have told all her friends and it would have gotten back to my wife..people do these things when they see you are happy...but I know better then to "just say NO"...but it still feeds the ego to be asked..lol
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• India
30 Jan 08
hmmm......ya it does hurt when people stop asking you .....despite you knowing that you cant make be with them forever.....lol!!
• United States
30 Jan 08
be realistic. everyone loses people, places and things from time to time. it part of living. nothing last forever. i have had to move several time and soon got used to losing friends and loved ones through no fault of anyones. it is normal to have these feelings and you be be abnormal if you did not...the only thing permanent in life is change.
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• India
31 Jan 08
Well my friend, LOVE is a very different feeling! And i can't compare that to other stuffs that i have possessed in life....my love has brought so many feelings(and changes) along with it, inside of me that i cant think of living without them specially this one character ,i dont think its so easy to find such people time and again....i cant explain it totally!! I'll rather leave it unexplained....
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• United States
31 Jan 08
yes, love is a strange thing and if you have to explain it..it probably can't be explained..i have seen a lof reactions to people losing their loved ones..no two people are the same..we all do not know what we would do until it actually happens..its what we call the "last thing we can imagine"...one of the mystery of life...like trying to explain the meaning of "GRACE"...the undeserved loved of God
@bishu_sinha (1459)
• India
18 Jan 08
Nice. It means your love come true from both side. You, both, love eachother very much. Pray God to avoid this type of love and marry early if possible.
• India
25 Jan 08
hey, such a nice responce......feels good :)
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
30 Jan 08
It seems to me you two value and really love each other-keep the spirit-that is true love!
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